Thanks. Since she has decided on a scriptural divorce (as is her legal right as well) I have zero reason to try to salvage anything with the religion. I really don't have any "friends" in the org since they were all conditional friends anyway and I knew that. We are focusing on just getting the kids through this. I made it clear that financially I am going to take care of her and I will not undermine her authority as the mother and that I will make it clear that when they are with her she is the authority.
We will work it out. The hardest part will be talking to the kids.