After that last little judicial meeting, one elder said 'many will be surprised, some will be shocked, some will be in tears when they hear of your disfellowshipping'. It was obvious that I wasnt atttending any meetings or anything for months, or answering phone calls so it shouldn't have been a total shock to those close to me. But once upon a time, I was a devoted 'sister', coming from a family of super-devout J-dubyas. It blows peopl'es minds when you become different than what their image of you once was. Toward the end, people close around could see me slipping
Pretty often I run into former friends when out and about, and a few will smile and then quickly move on, and most will pretend I am invisible. I remember once seeing a former friend and we actually ended up talking for a while.. and she said she always expected me to come back. She seemed to try to absorb my words as we talked telling her very clearly.. 'no, never..I don't believe in it anymore'.
It's such a great mystery to people because those leaving don't get the decency to explain thier reasons to the masses. You're either in or you're out