Posts by freeflyingfaerie

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Your Personal Life Stats! aka TMI

by Terry in

4 wives.

7 kids.

33 professions.

freeflyingfaerie

Wow, Terry!

Ok, for starters~

1 husband

2 children

over a dozen different jobs

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Deceased~

A grandmother

A grandfather

An uncle

A sweet friend

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Low points~

Leaving my husband of 10 years and divorcing him

Nearly dying of 2 pulmonary emboli, 10 day hospitalization

Creating suicide letters, researching methods, and feeling ok with the idea of it upon feeling the enormous pain of losing my loved ones when I left the cult

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High points~

Loving my children, seeing them smile, holding them

Freeing my spirit in dance

Discovering the peace of yoga practice

Expressing anger, hurt, bliss....through writing

Rediscovering myself, life all over again and again, like a child

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I lost a good friend yesterday

by zed is dead in

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i am really going to miss having her as a close friend.

we both helped each other this past year, as we were both dealing with the passing of people we loved.

she was a strong part of my support group.

freeflyingfaerie

Just watched the video clip, she is a sweetheart.

Sending you my sympathies

~Faerie

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Happy New Year from Lee

by Lady Lee in

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well it has been an interesting year for me; some heartache; some growth; and a lot of change.

regardless of where we are on our journey away from the jehovahs witnesses we will be confronted with opportunities to learn and grow.

we dont know where life will take us.

freeflyingfaerie

Happy New Year back to you!! And to all!!

..and when the noise of all the merryment has quieted....there is still something exciting...we have taken our lives back...that is something to continue celebrating

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? Curious: How many Jehovah's Witnesses leave to join "non-christian" religions, ie; Wicca, Pagan, Satanists, Buddists, Hindu, etc. ?

by Balaamsass in

it may seem a strange question, but when i served as an elder i personally knew of about a dozen elders and servants children who joined various wicca groups or became buddists rather than leave to become agnostic or another "christian" denomination.. the ones who became involved with witchcraft did so in groups of jw children intregued by all the talk of satan's and the demon's power etc.

in the org.. the future buddists seemed turned off by the politics, and mean spiritness in halls.. i just thought of this after seeing the new dismal yearbook numbers and looking at facebook pages of some of the ex jws i know.. was this simply a california thing or is it worldwide?.

freeflyingfaerie

Not a strange question at all. Maybe so many of us are drawn to those kinds of ways you mentioned to get back to raw, to our roots. Exploring spiritual ways before they became so plastic....mixed with a hearty dose of feeling rebellious.

Some of the religions you mentioned are similar in that way...more ancient and/or nature-based. I'll speak for myself....I was comlpetely turned-off to any 'christian' religions (any religions, for that mattter) and drawn to pagan ways upon leaving the JW's

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Do you miss God?

by wobble in

if you are one of the posters on here who has got to the point where you do not believe in god to any great extent, do you miss "him".

i find that i rarely used to ask god for anything, or load him up with my problems, everybody elses were far more urgent, but i did used to feel moved to praise him when i saw the beauties of creation, a sunset etc.. i now feel an urge to still do that, but do not believe anyone is listening, do you get moments like that ?.

love.

freeflyingfaerie

Amazingly, I don't miss 'god'. When first leaving the religion I grieved 'god'. Saying good-bye to an imaginary friend that had roots in my heart. That concept used to be so dominant in every aspect of my life....and now, with each passing day, that 'relationship' with 'god' seems more and more like a different life.

But I don't want any of that back. Maybe there will always be a certain sentimentality when remembering those years of belief. Now, the peaceful feelings coming from emancipation don't leave much room for missing that concept

Saying good-bye to 'god' doesn't mean closing the door to all mystery and wonder....it's quite the opposite

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How do you make a living?

by paulnotsaul in

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since most of us believed it was right around the corner, how many of you went to any secondary schools or training?

what do you do now to survive?

are you working or unemployed?

freeflyingfaerie

Serving delicious food and drinks in a bikini top

and teaching yoga classes

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How old are you?

by sooner7nc in

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post your age...only if you want to.

do it anyway.. i'm 42..

freeflyingfaerie

40 minus 3

30 plus 7

1 and 36

10, 10, 7, 10

21 together with 16

zero and 37....you do the math

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Is it ethical to confess extramarital sex to your spouse

by Most Noble in

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durex's global sex survey has found that 44% of adults worldwide have had one-night extramarital sex and 22% have had an affair.according to a 2004 united states survey, 16% of married partners have had extramarital sex, nearly twice as many men as women, while an additional 30% have fantasized about extramarital sex.

there were also studies that have shown rates of extramarital sex as low as 2.5%.as many authors conclude, these kinds of estimates are probably understated because extramarital sex is commonly disapproved.. .

what do you think is it ethical to confess an extramarital affair?.

freeflyingfaerie

There is something very comforting in having a companion you can trust.

Yes. It softens and warms the heart.

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Is it ethical to confess extramarital sex to your spouse

by Most Noble in

jw
friends

durex's global sex survey has found that 44% of adults worldwide have had one-night extramarital sex and 22% have had an affair.according to a 2004 united states survey, 16% of married partners have had extramarital sex, nearly twice as many men as women, while an additional 30% have fantasized about extramarital sex.

there were also studies that have shown rates of extramarital sex as low as 2.5%.as many authors conclude, these kinds of estimates are probably understated because extramarital sex is commonly disapproved.. .

what do you think is it ethical to confess an extramarital affair?.

freeflyingfaerie

I know of couples who simply don't talk about their extramarital romps. Don't tell, don't ask policy is what they have used over the years.

Then I have to ask, how close and intimate are they to each other?

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Is it ethical to confess extramarital sex to your spouse

by Most Noble in

jw
friends

durex's global sex survey has found that 44% of adults worldwide have had one-night extramarital sex and 22% have had an affair.according to a 2004 united states survey, 16% of married partners have had extramarital sex, nearly twice as many men as women, while an additional 30% have fantasized about extramarital sex.

there were also studies that have shown rates of extramarital sex as low as 2.5%.as many authors conclude, these kinds of estimates are probably understated because extramarital sex is commonly disapproved.. .

what do you think is it ethical to confess an extramarital affair?.

freeflyingfaerie

It seems like the secret would be a heavy burden to carry, always there. Either the cheater carries the weight of it alone, or shares it with the spouse. Either way, it doesn't just go away. I've seen both marriage eventually ending and not, with confession. There could be no way of knowing what the reaction of the other person will be to the confession (some will even try to 'get even' by cheating themselves).