Thanks for sharing! Excellent! He's getting the awareness out there...
freeflyingfaerie
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Steven Hassan TV interview on the Boston bombing
by coffee_black inhttp://www.myfoxboston.com/category/233810/fox-25-morning-news.
steven hassan lives in the boston area.
for those who don't know af him, he is the author of combatting cult mind control.. .
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Living with Questions - Quote for the Day
by jgnat ini came across this quote today from charter for compassion.. "i beg you ... to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language.
dont search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them.
and the point is to live everything.
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I love that!! Enjoyed what I've read of his so far... (Letters to a Young Poet..)
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Platonic "Lunch"
by freeflyingfaerie inage-old question.
complicated x1,000 if one or both of the persons is married/in a serious relationship.. i am skeptical.
very skeptical.
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Caliber~ But does that trust get broken down if the mate knows the other likes to spend their free time spending time together with that friend? I just feel so obtuse about this. I think you're right, its walking on thin ice. Only because we aren't robots, we're humans and we have feelings.
New York~ I don't mean business lunches, I'm referring to arranging a lunch for the sole purpose of enjoying each other's company. I've had lunch with males I've worked with and feel fine about it.
Pickler~ Thank you!! It's nice to hear real-life stories about it working with no drama. Even as I type this, though, I can't get it through my head to work for me. Maybe some day. I admit I'm a bit fragile on some subjects.
Prologos~ Lunch could also not be far from the bedroom or wherever. Feelings aren't nocturnal...don't just suddenly kick in after 5 pm, they grow any time of day. The astronomy idea I like....who am I kidding, I'd still go alone, not join the club. Love star-gazing.
Simon~ Thanks for explaining.
jws~ I considered that it could be my jw upbringing, but really, I think it boils down to what you said here:
Maybe it's the crowd I associate with now, but IMO, most guys are VERY untrustworthy when it comes to women. Even the married ones. Sometimes especially the married ones. Some may never make a move, but spending time with a woman may turn them on a bit.
You make good points.
Beware if the talk ever turns negative towards his wife.
Yes, I've had that happen. Wanting to confide.
None of this is making me wish I'd gone to lunch with this man.
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Platonic "Lunch"
by freeflyingfaerie inage-old question.
complicated x1,000 if one or both of the persons is married/in a serious relationship.. i am skeptical.
very skeptical.
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Pickler~ Thanks for bringing your experience here. Since you did ask 'why not'? Well, I partly shared some negative experiences I've had in the past and those have left deep impressions on me, but, I'll mull it over summore. Thanks!
Signed,
run-on-sentencer
ps. (Plan on going to college soon, so we shall see if these writing skill improve any. True story)
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Platonic "Lunch"
by freeflyingfaerie inage-old question.
complicated x1,000 if one or both of the persons is married/in a serious relationship.. i am skeptical.
very skeptical.
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jgnat~ So, it is possible!
jean-luc~ I'm glad I'm not the only one. Honestly, I'm probably projecting my own feelings into it...about how I would feel if I were the wife. And yes, maybe certain circumstances....like...nothing comes to mind lol. Ok, like meeting for a particular purpose...not just to enjoy each other's sweet company.
Simon~ Would you please just stay on topic, jk! But seriously, how is there much difference depending on what time of day it is, specifics? I don't get how that changes things.... well again, if it is work-related or the like it is a different animal I suppose. Kudos to you, Simon, for having self-control and a conscience.
Glander~ lol, they're just friends with cocktails practicing sharing glasses skills. Me and my girlfriends do it all the time. Totally plutonic.
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Platonic "Lunch"
by freeflyingfaerie inage-old question.
complicated x1,000 if one or both of the persons is married/in a serious relationship.. i am skeptical.
very skeptical.
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Thanks!
What I failed to mention is that this man is married.
So, in the post-jw adventures of Faerie, I am trying on new ideas and expanding my horizons....
but, just can't get past how his wife might feel( maybe she wouldn't care, maybe she has happy plutonic lunch with her male personal trainer..who knows)
He said it was platonic. But I think he should save his compliments and attention for his wife. Sometimes it takes me awhile to decidce if I'm being overly sensitive or judgemental, or if the other person is just a coniving jerk.
can't shake the old-fashioned in me. So, I'm skipping what might have been interesting conversation, opting for peace of mind.
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Platonic "Lunch"
by freeflyingfaerie inage-old question.
complicated x1,000 if one or both of the persons is married/in a serious relationship.. i am skeptical.
very skeptical.
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Is it possible? Age-old question. complicated x1,000 if one or both of the persons is married/in a serious relationship.
I am skeptical. Very skeptical. so much so that I'm turning down offer in spite of longing for friendship in a new city.
And it makes me sick.
The skepticism comes from observations of others and a few personal experiences. One girlfriend was 'ok' with her boyfriend acting like an ass when we all went out together as friends. Another girlfriend ...well, our friendship died a slow painful death as she chose to use me as the emotional scapegoat when her boyfriend acted a-bastard when we all went out as friends.
So now I am a platonic martyr in that I walk on eggshells so as not to come anywhere close to being an inkling of someone's hurt.
Is there really any way to have platonic lunch? I don't think I could ever enjoy it. I don't buy it anymore. There goes possible friendships with aprox. half the population. Poof.
Reality bites sometimes.
(I know there are worse tragedies in the world)
I'm sticking with females and gay men for lunch. Over and out.
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What did I miss? New twist on a very old song, SHUNNING?
by freeflyingfaerie inis there new info coming out in june watchtower about how to treat families?.
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Londo~ Those are great questions. Who did Jesus shun?! Who did he shun?
Pharisees, ....I"m drawing a blank here. Well, maybe we are to be treated as pharisees for believing differently, yeah, that's it.
Jesus and I would've been buddies, I just know it. Maybe not all of the apostles so much. Guess jws have higher standards than hippie Jesus did. I'm just certain that he would've given me some of that fish and that bread. And doggon it, he may have even let me wash his tired sore feet...those poor puppies.
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What did I miss? New twist on a very old song, SHUNNING?
by freeflyingfaerie inis there new info coming out in june watchtower about how to treat families?.
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Unnecessary division of family that loves each other.
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What did I miss? New twist on a very old song, SHUNNING?
by freeflyingfaerie inis there new info coming out in june watchtower about how to treat families?.
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It went like this~
Dear Faerie,
We don't want you for a moment to think we've forgotton you. -On the contrary we have many sleepless - restless nights concerned w/your welfare- We can only imagine how difficult it must be on you to have made this move to El Paso- a new job, change of friends, etc. You and the girls have been through much & I know- you must have had good intentions for them in doing this- difficult thing-
We wish & hope one day you'll agree with us that real joy & satisfaction in life are unattainable if we live independently of our Creator - Jehovah wants to protect us & guide us in the best way possible for true contentment - In our lives we've noted how when we've gone contrary we only hurt ourselves- so- we try- to look to him for guidance- & we're happy- only thing that would make things complete is you- we love you Faerie-
Mom & Dad - (Sister)