Looking at you all reminds me of when an Alzheimer's victim pees in the closet, or plays with an imaginary puppy on the bed, or makes inappropriate fondling gestures to their nurse...and I mean that with the utmost respect my good lad!
joannadandy
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4 small children entered a small town library one time Sunday, only to discover that, as it was Sunday, a Gay Disco was being held there. They should have known, but they just joined in the dancing
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The Mormon Guide to Avoiding Self Abuse
by Gretchen956 inif you truly make up your.
it is a habit that is.
6. begin to work daily on a self-improvement program.
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Did you ever lead a double life?
by imzadi inthose of you who are now x-jws, did you ever lead a double life while you were "in"?
did you have "worldly" friends, watch r rated movies, drive fast cars and do other things you weren't supposed to do, yet believed you were a "good" jw because you belived in the truth, "put in time", and attended meetings?
if you did, how long did it take you to see the truth about the truth and leave?
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joannadandy
So SNG, if you ever want to make up for lost time...*wink wink*....I have lots of R rated movies! lol
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Rayzorblade: 1 year here
by RAYZORBLADE in.
i can't believe it, but i was just checking, but i've been here: 1 year.. wow!.
great site.
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joannadandy
YAY RAY!
*jo of the I love Ray fan club!*
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How to tell my JW mum that I'm Pagan
by Sirona inafter about 3 years of being part of a pagan religion, i'm finally realising that this is the time to tell my jw mother.
the question is, how do i put it over to her?
i'm wiccan, and it is true that wiccans refer to themselves as witches.
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You: "Hey mom, we need to talk"
Mom: "Ok"
You: "Mom I'm a lesbian"
Mom: "WHAT?!"
You: "Just kidding! But I am a witch"
Ok, seriously. I dunno, I have never thought of finding another religious practice, I imagine it'd be difficult no matter what...maybe if it came up in a religious dicussion you could talk about some of your new beliefs?
Sorry I am not more help...hope everything goes ok for you, and you get the help you need here//
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A question for all women that were raised in the "truth"
by codeblue in.
do you feel like you have low self esteem because of being raised as a jw?.
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You're a lovely person, with an awareness that belies your tender years
(Said in all seriousness)
That means a lot to me LT, especially coming from a soul like yourself
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A question for all women that were raised in the "truth"
by codeblue in.
do you feel like you have low self esteem because of being raised as a jw?.
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joannadandy
I have pretty horrible self-esteem. I think for the most part I hide it pretty well, and re-direct it by being self-depricating, yet funny--so you have to laugh with me before you can laugh at me.
I am not sure it's totally the Borg's fault.
I think most women, at least the ones I know (maybe it's some crappy midwestern plot), struggle with self-esteem. We get so many images that we have to be girlfriends, wives, mothers, super career women, care-takers for everyone, all while maintaining rock hard abs and a Brittney Spears like ass. Oh yes, and be perky perky perky all the time, and be accomodating to everyone, or else people won't like you! (Don't even get me started on sexual repression--virgin/whore complexes!)
I think a lot of women have overcome this. And more power to them. But I know plenty of women who were never in the borg, that still grapple with the above mentioned issues.
As for my own problems. I don't think they stem from the borg so much as my family. Granted the two are a tangled intertwined mess, but I think it's more about my mom than anything else.
Being raised in the troof, I knew I would never be an elders wife, I knew I would never marry a JW guy, I knew I couldn't pioneer and raise a family. I always knew I wanted to go to college and do more. Did the fact that women couldn't "teach" in the congregation nag me? You bet your sweet bippy! However, even when I was young I knew this was stupid. And I think that's why I was drawn to speech (which my parents allowed me to participate in since their rationale was that it would help me iin the ministry.) because it allowed me a chance to be in control of an audience. I liked that.
My mom is another story. It seems nothing I do is good enough for her. This stems of course from her own mother, who thinks she (my mother) doesn't do anything right. Which is weird, because in grandma's eyes I am a freakin genius who can do no wrong.
It's the little things that cut. I know my mom is proud of the work I do in school. There hasn't been a semester yet where I didn't make the Deans list in high school or college. But, she nit picks if I mis-speak, or don't know something. She pounces and loves to throw it in my face that I screwed up, and she is in fact smarter for catching me.
She always rags on the way I dress, decorate, look. My hair isn't right, my clothes are awful, I am too fat, my tastes are too weird in music and artwork.
And of course the greatest disapointment to her--I never got baptized and made the truth my own. I am pretty sure most people here know what I mean when I say that from here on out no matter WHAT I do in my life, I will forever be a failure if for no other reason then I couldn't hack it as a jdub.
And so, I hate myself. I always second-guess my opinions. I never trust my instincts. I pretty much assume that no matter what I try my hand at--it will be mediocre or a flop, but never a success. Because I am a failure.
Good times! lol (sorry--long winded rant and pretty much off topic--sorry guys)
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May I rant please
by SheilaM innot sure if it is the big 40 approaching or just a general disgust of the world but i find myself very angry of late.
mostly due to the crap in the world around us.
i am sick of hearing on the news that people have killed their family, friends or strangers.
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joannadandy
Is 25 years in prison nothing??
That's pretty insensitive Min even for you.
Apparently 25 years isn't enough.
There is a girl missing from Moorhead (she probably won't ever be found) her name is Dru Sjodin. It's recieved national coverage. The man who is being charged with abducting her was a level 3 sex offender. He was realeased from prision, and they have found her blood in his car.
Now I am not saying this priest was a level 3 sex offender, I don't know the details of the case, however most sexual predators DON'T EVER get better.
You have to agree it's pretty minimal punishment for the YEARS of suffering these survivors have put up with.
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What Did you Plan On Doing In The New System?
by minimus inevery child and bible student was told about how wonderful the "new system" was going to be.
"and what animal do you want to have in the new system?
"......that was a very typical question.
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I remember once a CO came and had all the kids draw a picture of what they thought the new system was like. We all got to go up on stage and show our pictures...pretty intense for a four year old lemme tell ya~
Of course when I was young I only thought about all the animals I was going to have. A Tiger to be sure, maybe a lion too.
As I got older, as some others have said, I was pretty convinced I wasn't going to make it to the system, and that if I did, once they let satan out after the 1,000 years I would muck it up. How awful is that? You get a taste of paradise before you burn for all eternity...happy happy joy joy!
Then when I was 13 I held the romantic notion that when John Keats was brought back to life, I would get him to fall in love with me, I'd tell him what a loser Fanny was and that I was so much better for him. Then we'd build our own sailboat and sail around writing poetry. Yeah...laugh it up! Go ahead!
