Posts by joannadandy

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Dumping out my purse

by sweetface2233 in

ladies, how many of you have had this happen?

your cell phone is stashed in your purse and it starts ringing.

you plunge your hand in, hoping to grab it and begin the call.

joannadandy

I was gonna comment about Julia Sweeny too -- LOVED it -- can't wait for the Film.

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My Comprehensive Introduction

by Fadeout in

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friends

sorry since im not dfd and still have family in the org id like to remain in contact with, i have to keep this deliberately vague..

raised a jw, i was never considered zealous but was always good.

the kind of guy that gets encouraged to reach out for privileges.

joannadandy

Welcome Fade -

Great opening post, enjoying your style immensely. Can't wait to read more.

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Dating and the ex-JW

by Layla33 in

i am still surfing around this forum and i am happy to see there is are topics related to relationships.

it is nice to see this here.. to be honest, ever since i was out of the jw religion, i have tossed over ever dating an ex jw or an inactive jw.

i have occasionally come across this situation and weighed both the pros and cons.

joannadandy

I believe it depends more on the chemistry of the people and less on their background.
All this being said, I am not averse to dating another xdub but it's not something I am looking for specifically. It is not necessary for me anymore.

Bingo -- exactly my point but said more succinctly.

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Dating and the ex-JW

by Layla33 in

i am still surfing around this forum and i am happy to see there is are topics related to relationships.

it is nice to see this here.. to be honest, ever since i was out of the jw religion, i have tossed over ever dating an ex jw or an inactive jw.

i have occasionally come across this situation and weighed both the pros and cons.

joannadandy

I think as ex-jw's we get far too wrapped up in our own little world - and posting on exclusively ex-jw forums feeds that.

Give people some credit. You'd be surpised what people are capable of understanding - if they want to. The thing is - a lot of people have dysfunctional famlies - human experiences can be related on some levels.

I am getting married this fall to a man who was never a JW. He does have an aunt who was loosely affliated with the witnesses for a time - but from what I know of her she was never really a JW. His concept of JW's was limited at best. He knew they were the people who don't do holidays.

I used to think I would never find someone who would understand me and my JW upbringing - and that it was some huge heavy burden. I was always waiting to drop the "bombshell" on someone that I used to be a Jehovah's Witness. I started finding out - the more people I told - the less awkward it was for me to talk about, the more I realized - most people don't think it's a big deal (and frankly - a little dose of "And so...get over it" did me just fine.) It was a step in the recovery of "This was my life - and does not have to be life".

The thing is my fiance is a very sweet guy. He actually cares about me, and wants to understand. Will he ever fully get it? Nope. There are still things I bring up that he just shakes his head at - but they are few and far between. For the happiness of our daily lives - and even the long term - it really doesn't mean a diddly-damn. He sees the way I tick in other areas and I never question for one second if he "gets" me or not.

Being in a relationship, finding people to love and relate to is hard enough. Why add the extra sorting phylum of "must be ex-jw in order to understand me."? Just my 2p.

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I cannot believe how brazen some people can be

by unbeliever in

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friends

my bf and i have been together for about 2 years.

he has this ex gf from college who he stayed friends with.

i am not the jealous type so i never cared even though he had a problem with me being friendly with my exes.

joannadandy

Can you imagine someone actually pulling a stunt like this. We're a family and have a child and she thinks she has a right to do something like that. I wonder if she is mentally ill or something. Only someone with a few screws lose would do something like that and write the shit that she did. I think she would just die if she knew I read the letter. You think I should e-mail her and mock her and what she said?

She sounds selfish and loopy. She wants what she wants and thinks by laying it all out there she'll get it. Damn the consequences. Yeah -- that's crazy, I'm sorry.

I wouldn't e-mail her. It's related to you - but it doesn't involve you. You jumping in would only add fuel to the fire - but I totally understand the temptation to tell the loon off. Vent here, vent to your friends - but save yourself the drama of directly replying to her. This is something he is going to have to handle - and swiftly and decicively - she sounds crazy enough to hold on to any scrap of tenderness as a sign that he may have an interest.

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Who had the HOTS for YOU?

by nomoreguilt in

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friends

a number of years ago, there was a large group of us that went to an unasigned territory.

many of us stayed at a small motel, motel 8, 6, 666 something like that, others camped out.

so, most of those that stayed at the motel were in the in group.

joannadandy

LMAO Flying High -

I almost added to my original post - "And I had no idea how to work the clevage back then" -- but thought better of it...

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~Pollyanna - Positive Attitude ~ Is there something wrong with me?

by AWAKE&WATCHING in

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friends

i am, and always have been, a happy person.

i am known for having a positive attitude no matter what drama or trauma i am dealing with at the time.. i think a lot of that comes from my grandmother.

she taught me to love and appreciate nature.

joannadandy

Is it possible to just walk away and not look back?

Of course!

Your recovery is your own. No one will "recover" like anyone else. That is the beauty and the struggle. I can relate to some of what you said, I was a really messed up teen. Sucidal and depressed most of my life. As far as recovery - I feel I moved past a lot of my issues fairly quickly.

If I may make the observation - you seem like you are pretty intune with your emotions and what you need, where you are, who you are -- and that's an amazing gift in and of itself. I think you should just keep listening to yourself, you and only you will know how well you are coping. You can't measure your life with a yardstick someone else made.

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Who had the HOTS for YOU?

by nomoreguilt in

jw
friends

a number of years ago, there was a large group of us that went to an unasigned territory.

many of us stayed at a small motel, motel 8, 6, 666 something like that, others camped out.

so, most of those that stayed at the motel were in the in group.

joannadandy

No one.

I was shy - didn't care about fashion or cars, wasn't in the "in crowd"...I read too much secular material and had goals of college not babies and pioneering. I was un-hot in every way shape and form to JW Guys.

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