I have stayed out of this for a long time, in fact I just today went back and read all the posts since this thing blew out of proportion.
I don't get it. Not at all. 4skin I honestly feel sorry for you. Your view of women has been limited to June Cleaver as the end all be all. Instead of valuing a woman for being more than an outward appearance you judge them based upon what they choose to wear. You have been socialized to believe a woman's place is in the home, and those who are not happy there should buckle down and be a housewife anway? I would be miserable staying at home. But that is just me. If someone said to you that you are not masculine because the eptiome of masculinity is a Fireman, and you are not a Fireman, don't you think you might be a little offended? Being called as less than a man because of your choice of employment might get ya a little pissy don't you think? You seem to have traditional feminine roles, and feminity confused.
Women who are comfortable in jeans and t-shirts are man hating lesbians? I really suggest to you that you wear a dress suit, pantyhose, and three inch heels for just one morning and then you may understand why women prefer to dress more casually. Again if someone told you, "you're not a real man unless you wear overalls all day long and sweat good" do you think that you might take offense?
I am really not understanding what the point of your orginal post was. You were obviously not asking a question. Merely giving an opinion, and then becoming quite upset when people did not share your opinion. I am merely trying to show why people are just a tad bit upset with you, and why they reacted as they did.
Gender roles often shift from culture to culture, and time period to time period. I think it is time you realized what you believe to be the feminine ideal is no longer the one others share.
I have not resorted to name-calling, nor have I used strong language. Nor have I been submissive. I talked to you on even plane, asking honest questions, and trying to carry out a rational conversation as two adult humans should be able to. I also would like to point out I love cooking, I like cleaning my house, I don't ever want to have children, I wear dresses sometimes, I also wear football jerseys. I hate pink, I drink beer, I wear feminine jewlery, I have no tattoos, I watch football, I don't like shopping, I love my long hair, I love my boobs, and I like to keep my nails painted at all times. (The point of this last paragraph was to show you how far sterotyping goes--I am my own person. I am can be considered feminine, I can also be considered a tom-boy. Depends on what day you see me. But if you see me on my non-June Cleaver days please don't judge me based on that fact alone.)