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  Jehovah Doesn't allow abortions but will kill millions of Worldly babies at Armagedon....Contradiction??

  by Witness 007 in

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  he see's even "the embryo of us"..."and all it's parts are down in writting.." according to the bible.

  yet he will destroy millions of kids and babies because their "worldly" parents closed the door on a witness one busy saturday morning..

  contradiction????

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  tec

  I think we don't know what Armagedon is.

  Agreed. I don't think Armageddon is this earthly bloody battle that JW's and other extremists portray it as being.

  Tammy
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  Christian Friend Prayed for Meal WITHOUT Invitation to do so!

  by White Dove in

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  she was visiting for breakfast and we hadn't seen each other for over 2 years.

  i have since stopped being a christian and have been exploring paganism.. i don't advertise this for fear of offending people and getting judged for it.. so, we sit down to breakfast that i cooked at my house, and she asks me to say the prayer!

  i said that i'm not a christian.

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  tec

  I think you showed more respect for her beliefs than she did for yours. She could have bowed her head and said a silent prayer, in keeping with respect for you and your house.

  Do you think she was just clueless about your objections?

  Tammy
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  Feeling down

  by tec in

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  my son got suspended from school for fighting.

  not just fighting but choking another boy during their fight.

  he started it in anger over something the other boy did, but none of that actually matters.

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  Thanks, Loz.

  Jamieblowers - I had him in Martial arts for a while; but he just seemed so focused on his anger, and the rage was so clear on his face, that it scared me. Maybe I'll revisit that, perhaps talk to the counsellor about it. And thanks to all of you, I don't feel so alone in this fight at all.

  Nugget - Thank you so much for your reassurances that my son is not behaving abnormally. Affirmations is a good piece of advice; he might think they're cheesy later, but right now, anything good will be helpful. He gets defensive when being told about the 'bad' things he does, but he was crying when I told him all the things that I love about him.

  Mary - Your story paints such a sad and lonely picture. I'm glad you got your justification. We're trying to nail down his talents. Art, swimming, rock-climbing (strong hands and wrists). We're going to check these things out this summer. He does play guitar, and he joined Scouts earlier this year for some social interaction.

  Coffee - Thanks for your prayers, and words of encouragement. Your son sounds like a great success story. I'll think about the MA. But its probably mostly about finding that one thing they're really good at, giving them the confidence that they need.

  Thank you to everyone, again, for sharing your stories. My son is pleasantly surprised that people would even be talking about him, and sending encouragement and advice.

  One day at a time.

  Tammy
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  Jehovah Doesn't allow abortions but will kill millions of Worldly babies at Armagedon....Contradiction??

  by Witness 007 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  he see's even "the embryo of us"..."and all it's parts are down in writting.." according to the bible.

  yet he will destroy millions of kids and babies because their "worldly" parents closed the door on a witness one busy saturday morning..

  contradiction????

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  tec

  Contradiction?????

  Of course its a contradiction. It's a man-made teaching and a man-made understanding.

  Tammy
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  Feeling down

  by tec in

  1. social
  2. family

  my son got suspended from school for fighting.

  not just fighting but choking another boy during their fight.

  he started it in anger over something the other boy did, but none of that actually matters.

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  tec

  ((((((Truthseeker))))))

  I'm sorry for you and your family, and I'm glad you found what works for your son. We've tried a lot of things, but I'm still looking for my son's 'soccer'. Unfortunately, the anger and the lying tends to follow him everywhere now. We've got to tackle those issues head-on, and I'm hoping the counseling will teach us how.

  Mrs. Jones - I don't think my boy is ever going to hit that size. It runs in my family, mind you - there's not a male on my mom's side under six foot/250 pounds. But I take after my dad's side (five foot nothing) and I think my son takes after me. We'll see. He gets a few extra years of growing than I did. I remember things being really hard for my baby brother growing up, he was so much bigger than everyone else. He got blamed for everything. He had the anger issues too, but he's the one who got that under control. He was afraid he'd kill someone in a rage one day if he didn't.

  Bullies SUCK!

  Misery - I hope you're right. He's a good kid with a good heart, and I hope all my worrying and efforts help him to come into his own. I have faith that he will; and we're going to work to make sure he does; but worrying is my duty.

  Sylvia - I do feel better hearing about everyone's experiences, but of course I'll continue to worry. That terrible temper runs rampant in my family (seems to have skipped me, thankfully) and I'll feel so much more at peace once we start getting that in hand. And yes, I think we don't understand that fighting instinct in males. My son read Misery's first post over my shoulder, and while he won't make sense of the lessons in it right now, he did LOL at the translation: whoop some a$$.

  Tammy
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  Feeling down

  by tec in

  1. social
  2. family

  my son got suspended from school for fighting.

  not just fighting but choking another boy during their fight.

  he started it in anger over something the other boy did, but none of that actually matters.

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  tec

  Sylvia - Oh no! Not about the butt-kicking. Good for him. But that he has to do this after losing his Dad.

  Tammy
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  Feeling down

  by tec in

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  2. family

  my son got suspended from school for fighting.

  not just fighting but choking another boy during their fight.

  he started it in anger over something the other boy did, but none of that actually matters.

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  tec

  Thanks everyone.

  Bluecanary - I'm going to check that book out tomorrow. I've never even heard of it. My son is eleven by the way.

  CoCo - Thanks for sharing. I've just been assuming that most of his anger comes from having been bullied, but I don't know anyone who has gone through this as a child. He's the smallest kid in his class, and smaller even than the grade beneath them. He usually can't keep up with the sports and games the others play. I'm glad you made it, and that the counseling helped.

  Shamus - One day at a time is the only way to keep sanity in things like this. Thanks for the kindness.

  Miseryloveselders - Everyone is helping with their stories, so thanks so much for sharing your experience too. And I would never, ever, want to go back and do high school over again. I wasn't bullied or anything, but it was just so awkward and awful and full of pretense. Maybe those high school comedies are made by people who were homeschooled!

  to all of you.

  Tammy
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  Feeling down

  by tec in

  1. social
  2. family

  my son got suspended from school for fighting.

  not just fighting but choking another boy during their fight.

  he started it in anger over something the other boy did, but none of that actually matters.

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  tec

  Beks -

  Talking about this doesn't stop the worry, but it does seem to be calming me down some.

  Thanks all.

  Sylvia- I told him you prayed for him. He teared up and said that made him happy.

  Tammy
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  Feeling down

  by tec in

  1. social
  2. family

  my son got suspended from school for fighting.

  not just fighting but choking another boy during their fight.

  he started it in anger over something the other boy did, but none of that actually matters.

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  tec

  Thanks, awildflower, and I'm sorry about your boy too.

  I have thought about homeschooling, but he can be such an introvert as it is. I don't want to make his social skills worse, and the few kids I know who have been home-schooled do suffer socially. I think I would prefer to pack us up and move to a completely new area to give him a fresh start with new kids before pulling him out of school completely, but I don't rule the option of homeschooling out completely. We'll have to see how junior high goes, with the outreach, and also the counseling.

  I don't want him bullied, but I don't want him to turn around and become the bullier as a defense against getting bullied either.

  Tammy
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  Interesting "godly?" experience

  by k9groomer in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i haven't been here in forever hope i get back to view the replies.

  i had an interesting experience recently and wanted to share.

  i was raised as a jw for 18 yrs.

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  tec

  I tend not to pay much attention to these things. That could be a fault of mine, or not. But by this reasoning, I could blame the awful day I had today by taking the magazines given to me at the door this morning, instead of refusing them.

  Trying to read signs would drive me nuts. I prefer to just live life as Christ taught, and accept that I'm making mistakes along the way.

  Tammy