Honey bucket - becoming self aware is one of the hardest things in life IMO, in those terms you are doing very well indeed, well done. It's true everyone 'likes to be liked' and most want to be accepted. The difficulties that arise when we aren't being 'true' include the fact that most people even subconsciously have a very highly tuned 'bull**** button' and are able to detect falseness in others. This is an immediate turn off. Think about it, if you meet someone who expresses who they are, warts and all, it is so refreshing. We might not perhaps like their past behaviours for example, but we instantly respect their honesty and their acceptance of themselves.
All you need to do is start responding to your inner voice, feelings, thoughts. Teach yourself to be true to what you really think and feel. Soon you will see that others will detect who you are and respond accordingly. Then you will feel accepted truly because they are responding to the REAL you. Many many years ago I had a friend at work, we grew very close and she asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding. Her fiance though didn't agree and said it was because he didn't believe I was the person I showed to the world. He felt that I was too 'nice' to be real. I was appalled at the time, but years later I realised how right he was and that I'd played a part quite unknowingly. Sometimes we try to be how we believe others want us to be, it can never work, noone wants to love an imitation, a copy, a fake.
Your post is so self revealing and your honesty within it is commendable, keep going down that road and I'm sure you'll progress into your own person very well. Oh and if you haven't already done so please think about leaving the WTBS so that you have real freedom to be yourself in your life and not be bound by the false 'loving' witness personality. It's not real.
Loz x