Posts by Lozhasleft

Well you're in a bit of a corner arent you...time for asking yourself some questions...do you love your wife enough to fight for her despite your differing beliefs? As someone said what about a truce where neither of you forces your opinions on the other? Importantly there are children for you both to consider. I dont actually believe she has grounds for divorce legally? or scripturally? so maybe she will see this herself and calm down?

I wish you well however things pan out ...

Loz x

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Have become seriously angry ...all of a sudden...

by Lozhasleft in

another thread has set me off ...the one about anniversaries ...and i read an extract that blondie posted on there....suddenly i am soooo bl**dy furious...so indignant!!!!.

why did we allow a bunch of men to dictate to us not only what we believed, but even how we parented our kids,and then even how we spent our free time?????

how could we allow this stuff?????.

Lozhasleft

Thank you for all the caring posts everyone...strangely since the anger I've now also had two nights full of terrible nightmares as well...I'm sure you're all right ...it needs to come out and will keep doing so until its resolved in my heart...if ever...

Loz x

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SO sad! The elders never cease to amaze me...

by babygirl30 in

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on fb yesterday, an old friend of mine 'friended' me....and once again, i was hesitant to actually accept because i didn't know how she would feel about me being df'd.

but i accepted, and she sent me a msg.

well we ended up talking back and forth for awhile, and found out that she lives right around the corner from me!!!!!!!!!!

Lozhasleft

Its really disgusting to read these stories of such injustice ...these judicial committees should be banned...

Loz x

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Have become seriously angry ...all of a sudden...

by Lozhasleft in

another thread has set me off ...the one about anniversaries ...and i read an extract that blondie posted on there....suddenly i am soooo bl**dy furious...so indignant!!!!.

why did we allow a bunch of men to dictate to us not only what we believed, but even how we parented our kids,and then even how we spent our free time?????

how could we allow this stuff?????.

Lozhasleft

Its something to do with being outside the Org now and able to 'see' so clearly too....it seems unthinkable that an Org wants to control people to such an extent...and even more alarming that I let them do it to me.....

Big hugs for all angry ones....and for those supporting us too..

Loz x

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The revolving door and the hardcore ones

by dgp in

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i understand that the number of people who join the wt is roughly equal to the number of people who leave.

there's a small difference, overall, but in some countries the number of those leaving might even be slightly above the number of those joining.

and this has been a problem for ever.. i would like some insight into the minds of those who stay in, not because of family reasons, not because of fear, old age, parental control, but because they really believe the scam.

Lozhasleft

I honestly think a lot of people are deceived into believing that by staying they are showing loyalty to God....I certainly was.

Loz x

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Have become seriously angry ...all of a sudden...

by Lozhasleft in

another thread has set me off ...the one about anniversaries ...and i read an extract that blondie posted on there....suddenly i am soooo bl**dy furious...so indignant!!!!.

why did we allow a bunch of men to dictate to us not only what we believed, but even how we parented our kids,and then even how we spent our free time?????

how could we allow this stuff?????.

Lozhasleft

Been thinking on your replies...wow there's a lot of us with a lot of anger isnt there? I think we could call it 'righteous indignation'...

Loz x

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Feeling really sad

by NiceDream in

my husband and i have been married for almost 10 years.

we were married really young, and tried to make the best of it.

recently, i began listening to my lingering doubts and realized i've been so unhappy because i was living a lie.

Lozhasleft

Nice Dream - Oh dear its understandable that you're sad. To be fair though your hubby doesnt seem to be so strong in the 'truth' himself either. He may be disappointed with both of you as well as possibly the Org itself?

If you love him and think he loves you I think its worth the fight, personally, like you say there is a child involved here too. I would suggest that for now you shelve the discussions re the Org and as BS said go slowly, and let him learn for himself...but meanwhile

Focus on being happy with him...start talking more....do things together and as a family...show him you love him....make the time outside meetings really pleasant and good as best you can....I hope it will re-energize your marriage and you can build on that....

Loz x

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Have become seriously angry ...all of a sudden...

by Lozhasleft in

another thread has set me off ...the one about anniversaries ...and i read an extract that blondie posted on there....suddenly i am soooo bl**dy furious...so indignant!!!!.

why did we allow a bunch of men to dictate to us not only what we believed, but even how we parented our kids,and then even how we spent our free time?????

how could we allow this stuff?????.

Lozhasleft

Thanks so much guys...you're all so lovely...this came as a shock because I really thought I was through all of this part of the process and had moved on - but maybe it is cyclical and probably like Outlaw says it'll continue til I'm dead lol...

Its true though, at least I'm out of there, better late than never I suppose....

Loz x

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Have become seriously angry ...all of a sudden...

by Lozhasleft in

another thread has set me off ...the one about anniversaries ...and i read an extract that blondie posted on there....suddenly i am soooo bl**dy furious...so indignant!!!!.

why did we allow a bunch of men to dictate to us not only what we believed, but even how we parented our kids,and then even how we spent our free time?????

how could we allow this stuff?????.

Lozhasleft

Lol I dont like my avatar pic but this evening its a good likeness

Loz x