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  Welcome Lunaazul!

  by yknot in

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  welcome to the forum!.

  i noticed you were new and wanted to say 'hi'.

  i also noticed you got a little offended on your second post and wanted to encourage you to 'hang in there' letting some of the negativity roll of you like rain!.

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  Lozhasleft

  Hello and welcome.

  Loz x
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  first post

  by antes8080 in

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  i been looking at this site for around five years alot this past two mos.. and am not convince either way... by you guys or the org....

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  Lozhasleft

  Hello and welcome. Take your time but research well for your own sake.

  Loz x
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  To Christmas or Not to Christmas (inspired by Watersprout's DA thread)

  by Mad Sweeney in

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  my wife and kid want to do christmas but i don't.

  i am not against it but i have no reason to celebrate the holiday.

  i'll get the kid some presents, and maybe my wife, but is that alone really "celebrating christmas?

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  Lozhasleft

  I like it and I'm glad to have it back.

  Loz x
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  Hey folks, it's finally FRIIIIIIIDAY!!!!!

  by Newborn in

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  have a great weekend!.

  i'm going to the movies with friends tonight and then i've no big plans.

  feels wonderful!

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  Got soaked in the British rain today and hubby has man flu...plus the damn Ryder Cup is on the tv so am not really in a Friday mood...lol..lets hope things improve?

  Loz x
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  Update re my counselling

  by Lozhasleft in

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  i promised to update so..... i went along today for the assessment...it was just a young girl and i was doubtful about how it would go ...quite quickly though she realised it wasnt your 'average' dilemma with me.... she is planning to confer with her superiors about whether either.

  person centred therapy.

  post traumatic stress disorder therapy.

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  Lozhasleft

  Wow Broken Promises ...good to hear you found someone who wants to help. The girl I saw is only an assesser so I'm hoping for a more experienced person when I get to the treatment. All the best to you too.

  Loz x
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  loosing it!

  by bez in

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  anyone else have any experience of a couple of months after leaving the org...feelings etc??.

  my husband has left too and feels the same as i do.. but we just seem to be arguing constantly at the moment, though i do feel this may be my own fault!

  i feel soooo angry, bitter and annoyed at how things have turned out.

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  Lozhasleft

  Yes the anti depressants sound like a good idea if your dr can find one that suits you better. Tell him how down you're feeling, wont you? Take all the help you can get hunny. Your plans for the future sound really good...I'm wondering if you can do some voluntary work in schools while you wait for the training aspect to start? I dont want to pry but I get the feeling you're in the UK by the way you write and I'm in Manchester UK if that can help you at all please dont hesitate to get in touch.

  Loz x
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  loosing it!

  by bez in

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  anyone else have any experience of a couple of months after leaving the org...feelings etc??.

  my husband has left too and feels the same as i do.. but we just seem to be arguing constantly at the moment, though i do feel this may be my own fault!

  i feel soooo angry, bitter and annoyed at how things have turned out.

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  Lozhasleft

  Shunning is a terribly cruel thing. It devastated me. Its all about being absolutely rejected as the person you are and it really hurts. Before long you will make friends who arent 'conditional' and who cant be induced or bullied into shunning you ever.

  My heart goes out to you. Just keep going one day at a time yea? Try and do something to make yourself feel good every day. Let your focus be yourself and then hubby and kids...on healing and recovering. You will need to be your own 'best friend' and be kind and patient with yourself.

  Loz x
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  loosing it!

  by bez in

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  anyone else have any experience of a couple of months after leaving the org...feelings etc??.

  my husband has left too and feels the same as i do.. but we just seem to be arguing constantly at the moment, though i do feel this may be my own fault!

  i feel soooo angry, bitter and annoyed at how things have turned out.

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  Bez - Its understandable that we all have gone through these similar feelings...we have been in a highly controlled community ...distanced from normal real living...putting lives on 'hold' til the 'new system' - its all so unnatural and unreal.

  You must count your blessings in terms of your age, you have escaped with so much future to live normally. (I was in my mid 50's when I became free and had spent nearly 30 years in the org andI've lost all my adult kids as many others have. ) I realise it isnt easy but now you have to grab life with both hands for you and your family. Investigate what is on offer in your community, how about returning to education, (even if only a night class) and start building loving family traditions to make yours strong.

  Many of us need some kind of therapy/counselling after leaving which may not be true for you and your husband...but nevertheless there are feelings and resentments and disappointments to deal with. You do have each other but as you say it can happen that this means discord as you both come to terms with whats happened to you.

  If possible why not consider some family/marriage therapy just to enable you to talk about your feelings openly with an objective listener? You are going to need to pull together and unite and make sure that you care for each other and offer each other comfort through this difficult time. If you havent done so already get hold of S Hasson's book about exiting cults and whatever else you can read to help you.

  I really wish you well. Time is a great healer and if you start to replace alternative social situations you will find that there is a lot of pleasure to be found in meeting people in the 'world' with all kinds of diverse beliefs who will enrich your life.

  Feel free to PM me anytime and make good use of the great people on here who have great advice and support to offer.

  Loz x

  PS About the praying...he is still listening and is feeling your pain...worry less about 'prayer' and just talk to him, if you know what I mean? x
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  Dog For Sale. Free to good home. Excellent guard dog.

  by whereami in

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  dog for sale: whether you own a dog or not, .

  you must appreciate the efforts of this owner .

  to sell her dog.

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  Lozhasleft

  Lol - liking the street name !

  Loz x
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  Update re my counselling

  by Lozhasleft in

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  i promised to update so..... i went along today for the assessment...it was just a young girl and i was doubtful about how it would go ...quite quickly though she realised it wasnt your 'average' dilemma with me.... she is planning to confer with her superiors about whether either.

  person centred therapy.

  post traumatic stress disorder therapy.

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  Lozhasleft

  Thanks everyone....you're lovely people

  Loz x