Every time I read a thread like this I'm just STUNNED at how many have DA's themselves, allowed shepherding calls, etc.
These 'elders' have no power unless you give it to them.
I faded almost 3 years ago. I'm open about how I feel if asked....just last week, I lost a friend of 34 years.....an elder....who didn't even know what "generations" was..........
They leave me alone. I have no problem giving them a look of death if they try to approach. I also knew how EASY it would be to lose my cards.....they are floating around somewhere..... lost in a file somewhere.....
I still have many on my Facebook.....even though they KNOW my current state. The 'elders' leave me alone......I believe mostly because of my years as an elder and the library of dirt I have on ALLLLLLL of them in the circuit.