Welcome both Grace and glenswoodwoman.
Both of your experiences show how damaging that cult is. I'm glad you both are strong women to get out of there.
Glen, please go to Al-Anon meetings. You may be surprised by the support you get there from others dealing with alcoholic mates.
Enjoy the fun stuff that goes on here at JWD. It does get very addicting but comforting to know others understand what you are venting about.
Joy