Posts by Hadit

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YOUR DAILY JOURNAL

by compound complex in

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dear friends,.

much of what we do on a daily basis is routine and of no particular, earth-shaking importance.

however, after reviewing letters of family going back to wwii, it is fascinating to read what dad was doing on board the aircraft carrier in the pacific on any old day, what mom was cooking on her ever-steaming range, how i was dealing with the roller coaster of emotion at bethel [mom saved all my letters], how nana wrote that she would not study with the witnesses [per my request] but 'here are some mittens i knitted for you when you canvass new york with your magazines.

Hadit

What a wonderful idea CoCo! I just noticed this thread.

My thoughts have been around my son and the fact that he is in community football. At first I was reticent because I worry about him getting hurt. However, since what has happened with the drama of finding out about the truth I'm ecstatic that he is part of something normal. Since my husband is still in I'm hoping that my son will gain some much needed outside influences to help him see that there are wonderful people outside of this religion. I'm hoping that it will help with his independence and critical thinking skills. I desperately want him out of this cult and I need him to see it for what is is for himself.

It was a beautiful, sunny and hot day here and I took advantage of it and went for a long walk. It's a great way to clear your mind and get some clarity on things.

That's it for now - good night.

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A Fond Farewell

by 5thGeneration in

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i want to take this opportunity to say goodbye to all of the members on jwn and thank you for your support over the years.. circumstances have arisen that make it impossible for me to continue posting here.. i have truly appreciated your love and support during some hard times when i had no one else to talk to.. you showed compassion and a non-judgmental, christlike attitude for thoughts and feelings that could not be openly expressed to any of the brothers in the congregation for fear of reprisal.

for that, i am so grateful!.

thanks to the many of you that could relate to the pain and worthlessness that i have felt about myself for so many years because of my experiences and upbringing in the truth.

Hadit

Sorry to see you leave. I wish you all the best. Please take good care of yourself.

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Who knows how many posters on here from west coast B.C. Any meet-ups?

by clarity in

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are west coast canadians a bit shy or what!

seems like usa has meet-ups and groups all over.

sounds like a lot of fun!

Hadit

Finally! People near me! Yay - count me in

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My Latest to the Editor

by AK - Jeff in

dear editor:.

the letter below is somewhat longer than most you run in your newspaper, i know.

i hope you will run it however, as painting the picture of cults and their insidious control is not something that can be done in a few words.

Hadit

Excellent letter!

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SMOKING

by Quentin in

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due to health reasons (cost of a pack as well) i've gotta stop smoking....terry suggested smokless cigeretts.

what's a good way to stop?

i have managed to cut down to less than 10 a day, but have got to stop period.

Hadit

Great job on getting down to less than 10! Well I've never smoked so I have limited suggestions but you could try acupuncture. Also you need to replace the habit with a new healthy habit as one habit usually turns into another. Try to find the underlying cause of your smoking - stress or whatever it may be and try to minimize it. Stay away from smokers as much as you can at least for now while you are trying to quit.

Good luck Quentin You can do it!

V665 - LOL! Great story.

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Will this Society survive ?

by WildeLover in

this is my first post and i suppose something like this has been posted before but i would love to get your thoughts on it.

really do you ever think that the society will fall apart?

or will it always be propped up by die hard members?will it see 2020 i wonder with the growth it has seen?.

Hadit

Hello and welcome to the forum! I sure hope it won't survive but, unfortunately, for the reasons stated in the above posts I think it may be around for a while yet. Fear and mind control go a long way to make sure they will be around too.

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As a Witness - What did you Notice in How Elders Got Appointed ?

by flipper in

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i found it amazing being raised in the witnesses to see exactly who got appointed sometimes as an elder.

it seemed that the criteria in my opinion had more to do with getting 10 hours a month in field service, answering at meetings, carrying microphones as a ministerial servant, or handling the magazine or literature counter !

in doing these " functions " and attending meetings on a regular basis - a man was thought to be considered " spiritually strong " and qualify to be an elder and serve on judicial committees judging people's personal problems.

Hadit

Great points Flipper!

I noticed that I wondered way too many times how most of them became elders (a few I knew were truly decent and loving people). Most lacked love, they lacked tact, they lacked skills, they didn't take care of their families, they treated their wives like servants and all their wives were alcoholics and taking medications for depression (no wonder!), they were egotistical, misogynistic and chauvanistic. Many of them creeped me out at the way they stared at the other sisters. I remember a sister telling me of an elder who approached her at the hall and was picking something out of his teeth and he said "Ya - I'm just picking the short and curlies out of my teeth" and then winked. PIG! Yes sir Holy Spirit appoints them!

The whole thing is scary. So many people entrust their lives to these unqualified men who then take advantage of others. They are also privy many times to personal information about people in the hall which is very dangerous considering the history of some of these men.

I knew of an elder who would seek out depressed sisters who had been abused and on medication and rape them. He would use the date rape drug many times on people as well. The whole thing was so disgusting that it's one of the things that jolted me awake. I just couldn't let it go and it didn't make sense to me that he gets away with this repeatedly from hall to hall. I asked questions but it got me nowhere! They hide and lie. So infuriating.

Okay - talking about this guy is making me angry and upset so I'd better end my post!

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Treatment of Women In the Watchtower Society

by phoebed in

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i am new here- and very very depressed.

my story is very long and i can not now even tell all the story.

i am shocked, disoriented, depressed.

Hadit

Welcome phoebed! Many hugs to you! I'm so sorry for your situation. My heart goes out to you. You mentioned about not giving your details - please do be very careful about the details you give in order to protect your privacy.

The subject of women and the WTS is an infuriating one. They are awful in their treatment of women. The chauvanism and misogyny of the organization is DISGUSTING.

As jamiebowers said - if there is any violence involved please get OUTSIDE help!

I look forward to your story. You've come to the right place to share it. You will get empathy, compassion, care and love here. There is a lot of good advice as well. Just knowing that others are going through or have experienced similar things is a great help and comfort.

Right now you need to take really good care of yourself. You can do this! It gets better one day at a time.

Hadit

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I've Completely Abandoned My Principles~~For Gals

by StAnn in

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when i was a girl growing up, my mother always said that makeup was for old women and prostitutes.

she never wore much makeup.

i played around with makeup for awhile as a teen but once i grew up, it began to bother my conscience.

Hadit

Oh dear! The age crisis. It SUCKS! I don't wear makeup either - only once in a blue moon. I know I look a bit washed up at times but I figure if someone doesn't like the way I look - it's their problem. Easier said than done I know!

We are VERY hard on ourselves and we shouldn't be. You are still that natural beauty - that doesn't go away - it just changes a little.

As for wearing some makeup you are not selling out! You are doing something for yourself and that is great. We tend to neglect ourselves sometimes and doing little things really can help us to feel better. Wearing it doesn't make you fake either - it accentuates your OWN looks! I bet you look damn good !

I've decided that I'm going to take better care of myself and have started to do all my "home" beauty remedies again on a weekly basis. They really do help and make a big difference. I am happy to share some of them with you if you would like.

Hang in there - I'm in the same boat! Sending hugs.

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Lessons Learned....

by AllTimeJeff in

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want to briefly address why i am here.. i did say i was done with jw forums.

and i am in a sense.

i would like to announce a couple of things.

Hadit

Well I for one like your posts! Attention whore? LOL! A little attention can be good.

Get to know yourself, and give yourself time to do so.

I think that is a very important thing to do. As witnesses we never got the opportunity to get to know ourselves. We were too busy putting on the fake personality and thinking things we thought we had to think so that we don't get destroyed by our loving God at the big A. We were too busy being clones of the WTS and were fearful of our real thoughts that tried to creep up on us. As a result we never got to know ourselves and have paid the price in many ways. Bad marriages, bad work relationships, bad relationships with ourselves - low self esteem, depression, etc. They also never gave us the time to get to know ourselves - service, meetings, assemblies, clean homes, clean service case, clean car for service . . . ad nauseum!