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  New Here!!

  by Free!! in

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  i've been watching from the sidelines for a while... reading about your experiences and it has helped me a lot!!!.

  i am a 27 yo girl, i converted into a jw @ 20, at was going thru a difficult time in my life and they bastards sucked me in!!!

  i did not realize how controlling things were going to get... about 1 year into my study i moved w another single sister and then baptize, looking back i think i went thru w baptism because i fell pressure by the "loving" congregation that wanted the best for me... i remember coming out of the pool and one of the brothers saying "another victim" and taking a pic of me... anyways, that wasn't the worst of it.... remember single female!!

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  Thor

  Welcome Free! Glad you are here!

  I hope you get to finish college and do all the things you want to do.

  Have fun!
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  Any of you folks from the awesome state of Colorado??

  by SweetBabyCheezits in

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  my wife and i are thinking of moving our family to a better place in the us....away from jw family and out of the southern bible belt.

  just curious how many of you live around co and, more specifically, near fort collins?

  of course, we're open to any city that is less conservative and has awesome summer weather and outdoor activities.

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  Thor

  We moved to Boulder in 1981 and still live in the area and love it. The weather is great, the mountains are awesome in all seasons. Before we became witnesses we would go camping just about every weekend in the spring, summer, and fall. There are hiking trails everywhere for every level of difficulty, mountain biking galore, skiing in the winter and spring, tons of festivals of every kind, and tons of other stuff that we are now enjoying even more since we left the borg. Boulder also has a bunch of breweries! We would definitely recommend the Boulder area. Check out Louisville, Lafayette, Erie, Broomfield, and Superior. These towns are all close to Boulder. The Loveland and Ft Collins area are also nice but further from the city. If you have any questions you could PM us.

  Thor
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  new poster

  by doughnuthole in

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  hi, i'm not new here, been lurking forever, just a new poster.

  i was a jw for 25 years, did it all,been out now for 7 years, for the most part have healed pretty good.....but some things can't seem to shake.

  the thing i'm most regretful of is raising my children in that cult, if i could just re-do that, i think i could be totally over the trauma of the 25 years i was in.

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  Thor

  Hi Dough! and Welcome!

  So much of what you have said we can relate to! We were in the borg for more than twenty years. Our biggest sorrow is that we raised our kids in the organization. Some may feel that at some point you just have to get over it, and I agree, but being in something so life consuming for so long we all need to understand it's going to be part of our psyche forever. We have been out for four years now, and I still have some pretty vivid dreams about it all.

  We have also been helped by this site. It's good to know that you are not alone in some of these feelings.

  Our kids have said that they forgive us, and we are each others best friends. We do still agonize about it sometimes, but are doing ok and we are happy. So I would say to you, to keep being positive and forgive yourself!

  Mrs. Thor
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  I just got my memorial invite

  by twinkle toes in

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  well technically it is an anniversary invite/special talk invite.

  the car group was just here.

  i was home but hiding and my husband got the door.. i want to tell them exactly why i am not going , but i haven't got my head quite there yet.. i think i am gonna have to just decline!.

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  oooooo....... no way will we be going
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  Here i am....

  by makersmark in

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  here i am - born in truth, hard-core spiritual everything all my life, early reg.pioneer, ms, elder, assembly parts, tour at bethel, etc, married now...... i'm trying to examine jw teachings a little closer...... i've spent the last two weeks reading many many posts, info , references on where ex-jw's are coming from.

  i'm kind of concerned about a few things lately..... honestly - some points make sense to me - some don't - here are my general thoughts:.

  -wt getting un membership for access to library - doesnt bother me - some passports and other governement documents have similar forms and requirements..... -blood issue - some counterpoints to the jw 'rules' makes sense (original intent of scripture is unbled animals, white blood cells similar in mothers milk) etc -however a lot of 'apostate' reasonings and proof are inaccurate.

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  Thor

  Hello Makersmark and welcome!

  Glad you are here
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  New member - my story

  by Millions in

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  just a brief introduction, i thought i would try out one of the more established forums, have done some stuff on youtube and other places but thought i would give this a try.. potted history: raised jw by mother, in it for 30 years or so, baptised at age 18, regular pioneer at 20, ms a couple years later, mts at 26 and got assignment to a new cong, elder at around 29, came off pioneering around 31, came off as elder around 32, started to slowly wind down, completely stopped attending about 3 years ago, disassociated dec 2010. pause for breath.. the last 5 years or so have been a painfully gradual process of deconstructing myself and then piecing together fragments of my shattered life that are still valid outside the organisation.

  the question 'who am i?

  ' has been a continual investigation; every day for the first couple of years i would realise another subject or issue that i didn't have my own opinions about.

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  Hi and welcome millions!

  My husband and I just read your story and comments, and watched some of your videos.

  We found ourselves nodding along in agreement with so much and enjoyed hearing about you!

  Life is looking great!

  Mrs. Thor
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  Here's one more free mind...

  by Pika_Chu in

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  hey, here's one more free mind.

  i've been researching and reading posts here and finally decided to join.

  i have to say i'm grateful for this site.

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  Thor

  Welcome! and congratulations Pika Chu on your free mind!
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  Things in the past that show you that your doubts started earlier than you thought

  by sabastious in

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  i was just talking to my wife this morning about underlining or highlighting the wt paragraphs.. when i was 13 years old i would fight with my dad because i refused to highlight the answers.. the reason was because i wanted my comment to be genuine.

  i felt that highlighting the "answer" made me lean on just using that as a crutch and not truly putting it in my own words.. i still hold that argument now, and i am 26. the only reason you would ever have to highlight something in a study book would be if you needed to remember it, maybe it is fairly complicated or subtle information that could be easily forgotten.. so many times in the wt the "question" has the same phrase that's in the paragraph!

  it's literally like playing connect the dots.. so what i would do is not highlight during the family study.

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  Thor

  This is such a good post.

  I agree with so much of what's been said. I definitely had my doubts with so much, but somehow reasoned things away. Amazing how hind sight is so clear, and at the time it was muddled.

  The "Revelation" book irritated me each time we went through it. All the 1918 and 1919's spouted off, and how they made everything fit every little thing they did, crazy!

  Mrs Thor
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  As a JW, what did you do on Christmas Day?

  by Magwitch in

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  growing up a jw, we always had family from out of town visit or we would go visit family.

  it was fun to get together with my other jw cousins over christmas.

  (however, it was hell going back to school in january as the only girl without a new sweater).. as a married jw though it was a different story.

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  Thor

  Hi Magwitch!

  In the really early years after we came into the "truth" we actually went out in service a couple of times on Christmas morning. We quickly realized that was no fun, so we didn't do that anymore.

  We were both raised out of the borg, so Christmas always had a special feeling even though we didn't "celebrate" it.

  Most of the witnesses we knew dreaded Christmas and complained about the music in the stores etc.

  We on the other hand started looking forward to it more and more because we always had a long weekend off work, and the kids were always off school. We started our custom of going out of town for a couple of days to spend time as a family together. We went to Keystone a lot, Breckenridge, and Vail. We also got to go to Mexico a couple of times, and really had fun there.

  Now we are starting new customs together, and enjoying ourselves! We went to Keystone again last year and stayed in a really nice condo, we might go there again this year. The kids and their significant others love to snowboard, and it's only about a two hour drive. Keystone has night skiing, so everyone can just play all day and have fun!

  Love, Mr. and Mrs Thor
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  Were you ever embarrassed or somewhat ashamed when the WT patted themselves on the back in their own articles?

  by miseryloveselders in

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  i was browsing through the december 2010 awake, and noticed an article on the earthquake that happened in haiti earlier this year.

  it didn't take long for the article to disturb me.

  the third paragraph initiated the sanctimonious tone that is present througout the article.

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  Thor

  The horn honking never stopped. At conventions they thought they were the best dressed, most holy, cleanest, most honest, most polite people on the planet. And witness kids were the smartest kids in the schools as a result of their theocratic training. Oh, and the assembly parts where the kid was fending of girls who wanted to have sex with them. Crazy!