SKally,
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“Oh and incidently, just how many ex elders are on this forum?”
You and smolderingwick broke my heart to read your stories. I am one of those ex elders who was part of the ugly system. I am so sorry for what you both have been through. And so many years later it still hurts.
Let me tell you one of the reasons I’m out. About this time last year a sister was facing a JD for something that happened five years ago. I tried with WT references to convince the body of elders to let it go. Having failed, I volunteered (not supposed to but they usually use any sucker willing to volunteer) to be on the judicial committee. I hoped to try to mitigate the damage these yahoos were about to inflict on her.
Before we were able to meet with the sister she was on the phone talking suicide if her husband found out why we wanted to meet with her. In the meeting I tried to point out what kind of a good person she had been for the last five years. She really was a loving, giving type sister. Then brother Twoface, who felt she was not being honest with the committee, said: “If you don’t confess everything right now and get this all out in the open with the Judicial committee then God will NEVER FORGIVE YOU.” I then committed the ‘unforgivable’ sin of becoming her advocate. I spoke up in her behalf and told brother Twoface that he was wrong. “Her past sins were between her and God and we are only here to see if see is a danger to the congregation.”
The committee eventually voted for private reprove. The process did nothing for the congregation nor for this sister, except harm.
Brother Twoface was not going to let my insubordination slip by. When he could not get the Body of Elders to discipline me he spoke of writing the service department and the CO. He did eventually get the CO on my case which lead to my resignation, but over other issues.
I just want you injured ones to know I’m sorry. I wish I was never part of it and that I could have been there for you. Keep talking about it and working through your feelings Its good for all of us.
Jst2laws