I decided to make a new thread instead of posting my response on the old one
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?d=22330&site=3&page=2
sf asked:
As a "disfellowshipping elder", did you EVER once utter to the disfellowshippee that "jehovah will no longer hear your prayers or cries for help. Only Satan can now"?
If you never said it like this directly or verbatim, HOW did you say this to them? What did/ do elders say re: the prayers that you utter AFTER being "cast out"? And how did you feel AND think about saying such to a child who had been disfellowshipped?-sf
SF,
I am neither an ex-elder or disfellowshipped, but this happened to me.
I had been away from the meetings for about 4 months or so. My label then was "inactive" as it is today. I had stopped attending due to personal reasons and still had some contact with the "friends". One day, I was driving past an elder's new house...I saw that they were home and on the spur of the moment decided to drop in and say "hi". (The elder and his wife had pioneered with me and we were good "friends") When I had arrived at their house, I was full of smiles to see them. I hugged them and told them I missed and loved them. They gave me a tour of their new house...it was nice to see t hem. We chitchatted for about 30 minutes on all the latest gossip at the hall. Then the tone changed...
Apparently, this elder had been planning a "visit" with me but, I had not been there when he dropped by. In front of his wife, he began the "shepherding call" he obviously had been waiting to make. He mentions that we are commanded by Jesus to attend all the meetings...and that by me not attending, I was directly going against Christ. He went on to read several scriptures about "not forsaking the gathering of ourselves together.." and the one in Hebrews that says "Beware, for fear there should ever develop in you a wicked heart lacking faith by drawing away from the living God." Then he tells me that the reason I have become inactive was that I lacked faith. That by leaving God, He will leave me. I was trying to be non-confrontational...I had not really researched too much. I was pretty much still a JW through and through. I had stopped attending meetings because of some traumatic things that happened in my family. I was diagnosed with Major Depression and was on Prozac at the time, (which was good because it prevented me from becoming emotional when this elder was telling me these things.) I calmly asked...so, you're telling me...that even though I am the same person I was when I attended meetings, that now because I am inactive I lack faith in God? I reassured them that I did indeed still have faith in both God and Jesus. He then said, "I am telling you that because you have chosen to stop attending meetings, you will be destroyed at Armageddon." "...and don't bother praying, because Jehovah won't hear you."
At this time, I didn't have a lot of information I could use...and I had no intention of doing anything that could be construed as "apostate." I had been secretly chatting in the "Disfellowshipped JWs" room on AOL and one thing I learned there did come to mind. I asked the elder and his wife if I could borrow their Reasoning Book. I had to ask several times, it was obvious they didn't want me to have it. I told them I wanted to share something I had discovered with them...and not to worry, I was just going to read directly out of the book. I turned to page 359 and read the sub-head "Is anything more than faith needed in order to gain salvation?" I then read Ephesians 2:8,9 straight out of the RB. "By grace ["undeserved kindness," NW] you have been saved through faith; and this is not your own doing, it is a gift of God-not because of works, lest any man should boast." I said "Notice what the Society themselves said regarding this scripture..."The entire provision for salvation is an expression of God's undeserved kindness. There is no way that a descendant of Adam can gain salvation on his own, no matter how noble his works are. Salvation is a gift from God given to those who put faith in the sin-atoning value of the sacrifice of his Son.) I then read Acts 16:30, 31 straight from the RB "'Men, what must I do to be saved?' And they [Paul and Silas] said, 'Believe in the Lord Jesus and you will be saved, you and your household."
At this time, this elder's wife...who had remained completely silent, watching both of us from her chair...started shaking, turned red and jumped up out of her chair and said "Smoldering Wick (my name deleted lol) YOU SOUND LIKE A BAPTIST!!" "How DARE you come into MY home and talk to MY husband this way!!! "Get OUT of MY house RIGHT NOW!!!"
So, I put my shoes back on (had taken them off because of the new carpet) and walked out the door. The elder followed me and we talked for another 45 minutes by my car. He apologized for his wife...said that she really really LOVED me and that "this" (me becoming inactive) had hurt her real bad.
Needless to say, this visit prompted an official visit from this elder to my home. He brought another elder along with him. (The second elder had gone to pioneer school with me) The visit was pleasant...lasting about 2.5 hours. They talked a little about my problems and how the congregation "missed me." But, most importantly they wanted to know how I now felt about the witnesses. Then came the dreaded "Apostate" question. A few days earlier, I had had a discussion with an exjw online and asked him what he told the elders when they visited. He said, he shrugged his shoulders and said "I don't know." Well, here was my turn. The second elder asked me "Do you think that Jehovah's Witnesses are God's channel on earth today?" (or something to that effect) I said "Well...I have my doubts" lol I said I didn't think that the witnesses were the only ones that were going to be saved. I shared scriptures with them on how Jesus had died for ALL men and that salvation was by faith and not works. (things I had learned from my AOL chat buddies) At the end of this visit, there wasn't much these brothers could say...only that they agreed with the verses I had read from the Bible...they "understood" and still cared about me. Both of the elders hugged me and told me they loved me before they left. I haven't seen them now for 3 years.
Wick
(of the totally ignored class)
well, i'm really sleepy guess i'll just hit the post button w/o proofing this. lol i'll probably be sorry when i read it again in the morning (ok..one small edit...i messed up a code lol...but, that's it)