Posts by Thetis

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Feeling sad, dunno why ...

by Dudu in

today i received great news .. one more customer to my business, compliments from my boss at work, and some payments i was waiting for.

but i feel sad, guilty, mix of feelings.... i ve been thinking about my life in the jw org, after 2 months of fading im having these feelings :( :(.

Dudu, it's not easy to just erase everything you believed to be true.....It's like starting your life all over again, minus the guilt which has been so deeply ingrained. When good things happen, it's like a hollow victory........

I am often too afraid to be happy in case I become sad, afraid to accept any good things that come my way as I feel I don't deserve them, afraid to reach out in case I am rejected.....all from a life time of training.

As the others have said, go easy on yourself and expect to climb those steps and then take a few backwards again, it's all part of the process. Professional help is a good idea but make sure they understand otherwise this can make you feel worse.

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Rugby World Cup 2011

by dm6 in

21 days to go!.

whos looking forward to it?.

any kiwis here on this board?.

Thetis

Could it have been a ploy to have sheltered their A players then?- perhaps by doing this, they are actually well prepared or rested. I think many

feel the current coach has ridden on the success of the previous one and now the wheels are falling off. As you say, time will tell. Then the nation

will go into mourning....chuckle...

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What's The Worst Thing About Ever Having Been A Jehovah's Witness?

by minimus in

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for me, it's the waste of precious time and being lied to.. stupid time consuming things to do that are utterly worthless!

and on top of that being told that you were going to live forever on paradise if you followed their decrees..

Thetis

Being in a coma as to living life. Always playing catch up - from a social aspect to a financial one (and everything in between)

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Rugby World Cup 2011

by dm6 in

21 days to go!.

whos looking forward to it?.

any kiwis here on this board?.

Thetis

Too true - SA not playing their best rugby. I think spirits were high when they defeated the All Blacks in the last game of the tri-nations. I guess

many just overlooked the fact that it wasn't their best side... in my opinion. Tough pool for both I guess. Wales & SA.

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Rugby World Cup 2011

by dm6 in

21 days to go!.

whos looking forward to it?.

any kiwis here on this board?.

Thetis

Yes, up early and watched Fiji V Namibia - not too shabby. Looking forward to SA v Wales though...

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Your top 5 most irritating doctrines/practices?

by cedars in

it's clear that virtually everyone on here is infuriated by wt teachings/doctrines/practices, but i would really like to know what is of most concern to people who frequent this forum.. here is my top 5, number 1 being the most significant/infuriating:.

the disfellowshipping practice - expanded to include family members (but not parents) who are old enough to leave home.

wrecks families and creates abject fear once people find out the truth about the organization.the blood issue - another unmerciful teaching, but one that costs lives.unquestioned authority of governing body - a handful of men make life-altering decisions as representatives of a larger group of people who they never see or speak to, and yet they demand unquestioning obedience on pain of being disfellowshipped.failed prophecy - the fulfilment of huge swathes of bible prophecy, including revelation, has been attributed to the events of the early 20th century, and the actions of a small group of men.two-tier christianity - faithful and discreet slave are anointed who go to heaven to whom ransom provisions apply directly, whereas remainder, or "great crowd" stay on earth and form a sub-class, only access benefits of ransom through fds.i realise that many of these issues are inter-related, but that's roughly how i would put them.

Thetis

Would like to add another one which is my pet peeve.... Discouraging any involvement in charitable work....

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Your top 5 most irritating doctrines/practices?

by cedars in

it's clear that virtually everyone on here is infuriated by wt teachings/doctrines/practices, but i would really like to know what is of most concern to people who frequent this forum.. here is my top 5, number 1 being the most significant/infuriating:.

the disfellowshipping practice - expanded to include family members (but not parents) who are old enough to leave home.

wrecks families and creates abject fear once people find out the truth about the organization.the blood issue - another unmerciful teaching, but one that costs lives.unquestioned authority of governing body - a handful of men make life-altering decisions as representatives of a larger group of people who they never see or speak to, and yet they demand unquestioning obedience on pain of being disfellowshipped.failed prophecy - the fulfilment of huge swathes of bible prophecy, including revelation, has been attributed to the events of the early 20th century, and the actions of a small group of men.two-tier christianity - faithful and discreet slave are anointed who go to heaven to whom ransom provisions apply directly, whereas remainder, or "great crowd" stay on earth and form a sub-class, only access benefits of ransom through fds.i realise that many of these issues are inter-related, but that's roughly how i would put them.

Thetis

1. Shunning/Disfellowshipping

2. Blood

3. Treatment of women as second rate citizens - this would include the humiliation of young women by elders during JC's

4. Their stance on higher education

5. Their stance on worldly psychologists

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Rugby World Cup 2011

by dm6 in

21 days to go!.

whos looking forward to it?.

any kiwis here on this board?.

Thetis

I'll be rooting for the All Blacks - although not my home country. Perhaps its something to do with my Dad always supporting them - then again, it could be the haka... Interesting info about the Haka Sizemik....

Hope to be back to watch the opening ceremony..

I don't hope for an upset on Sunday though....

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My family just found out my grandfather died...6 months ago!

by noni1974 in

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yeah thatnks jw step grandmother bitch.

i can't believe that she would not call her step sons and let them know their father had passed away.

my father is a jw also and my little sister sees this woman at assemblies and she didn't bother to call anyone.

Thetis

This is something that truly touches me. My first husband was tragically killed when my son was very young. I recently heard that his Father, my

son's grandfather had died about 6 months ago. I'm angry that elder ex BIL or his current wife couldn't have let us know - specifically my son.

The ties that bind a family are non existent in their world. At the drop of a hat, they erase you from their life and think nothing of it. They speak of

love which they do not practise.

Sorry you had to go through this.

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My Father passed away during the night

by jwfacts in

dad was a great man, great, despite the religion.

he was powerful, tall and intelligent, yet humble and kind.

he was an introvert, and a circuit overseer.

Thetis

You seem to have inherited so many of his qualities. I am so sorry for your loss but happy that you had time to make peace.

I often think my Dad, by not being too dogmatic, also gave me freedom, albeit at a heavy price.