Backseat - if it's ok, I'd like to share an experience with you. I have visited Bethel many times, as I am from a very zealous family. I've eaten at Bethel. I've visited the Farm. We've had close family friends at Bethel. Bethel was part of my childhood (or at least a portion of it, especially the teenage years). But here's my last experience:
After I came out as gay in college, I visited NYC with my college boyfriend. We were both "college age" and he wanted to walk across the Brooklyn Bridge. I was like "oh man, I know what's on the other side!" Anyway, after we got across the bridge, and as we walked into WTBTS terriroty, he wanted to hold hands. I thought, "oh why the heck not?" There were so many Bethelites on the streets. SO many of them had not just disgusted looks on their faces, but also made fun of us and called us terrible names. At a certain point, I actually felt it was dangerous and we could be attacked by the "brothers." It wound up being a very scary experience. That was in the 90s.