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  just got my first shun.:(

  by unstopableravens in

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  laverite

  First of all, who are the trashy acting people in that situation? NOT you!

  Perhaps practice some responses to the shunning. Maybe think about how would you like to respond and mentally go over it and maybe even "practice." It couldn't hurt! Over time, hopefully you will see that you can refuse to give them permission to "make" you feel like anything. You can, with practice, gain control over your feelings in a way that does not let their immature and outright bad behavior hurt you.

  Good luck. You may have felt like "trash/worthless" but the people who were shunning you were the ones who were the real "trash(y)/worthless" ones -- based on their horrible, inhumane behavior.
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  Trying to overcome my homophobia.

  by Julia Orwell in

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  i had a music album by a gay guy before i was a jw and had no problem listening to it.

  it's good music.

  some of the lyrics are what you might call 'gay', that is there's some talk about boyfriends, gay bars, and queens and the intolerance the artist encountered as a gay man.

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  laverite

  Try not to be so hard on yourself, Julia. The fact that you care about this shows you are a good person. No need to worry... Your emotions will catch up over time. In the meantime, please keep letting gay folks buy birds from you. And just try not to worry about what you think or how you feel about gay people. You will continue to evolve. It's a process.

  PS - I am gay and I adore birds.
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  JW Preaching Work Ends in 20th Century ?

  by Scorpion in

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  page 12 of the january 1,1989 wt original magazine paragraph 8 ends with the statement that the apostle paul's missionary activity laid a foundation for a work that would be completed in our 20th century.".

  (a subtle prophecy that 'the end' will come by the year 2000 a.d.).

  this sentence is changed in the bound volume reprint to read "a work that would be completed in our day.

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  laverite

  Very useful thread!
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  A typical day in the life of an awaken JW

  by suavojr in

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  2. beliefs

  today is saturday and you all know what that means.

  today is the day for our special worldwide event of our new tract number 38. luckily our (sales route) sorry... our preaching was rained out.. now you may ask how can i stomach the wt propaganda and be able to take the group out in service, still give public talks, comment, etc?

  very simple answer, love.

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  laverite

  I've seen a few 20 and 30-something JWs out and about in FS the past couple of weeks. When they walk door to door, they walk so slowly you'd think they were in a Matrix like slow-motion movie scene. It's rather hysterical to watch. Nothing urgent or "life saving" about it. It's all about wasting as much time in between houses. Bless their hearts. But at least, Suavojr, you find better ways to avoid talking to people. Good for you.
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  When You Were In, Did You Think Everyone Was Out To Get You Because You Were. A Witness?

  by minimus in

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  did you feel that everyone in the world was out to get jehovah's people?.

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  laverite

  I was terribly paranoid, and very scared as a child. I was expecting the Great Tribulation at any instant. I was constantly worried about persecution. I was paranoid about demons and dreamt of demon attacks on a regular basis. I was terrorized by the meetings -- the talks on demons, persecution and armaggedon.

  I had the horrible misfortune of being in an earthquake when I was home alone as a youngster -- my first earthquake. I was on the sofa taking a nap and when it started to move, I jumped up, terrified and jumped right out the living room window (the door was right next to the window; why I didn't walk out the door, who knows). Neighbors found me running up and down the street utterly hysterical screaming about demons and shouting JEHOVAH. How damn humiliating is that?!!

  I grew up in fear imposed by Watchtower Corp and the imagery in its publications. That's child abuse and plain and simple.
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  Do You Think Many Engaged JW Couples Fooled Around B4 Marriage?

  by minimus in

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  when i was an elder, i had a few couples approach me to confess that they either played around or went all the way.. i suspect there were many more that did not admit to it, though..

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  laverite

  Ahhhh...Bless your heart Minimus.
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  Stupid English People !

  by Simon in

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  these are apparently real complaints received from a uk tour operator.

  no country has a monopoly on having stupid people!.

  these are actual complaints received by thomas cook vacations from dissatisfied customers:.

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  laverite

  My personal favourite: “It took us nine hours to fly home from Jamaica to England. It took the Americans only three hours to get home. This seems unfair.”
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  I will give my husband the divorce he wants

  by losingit in

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  not because i agree with him.

  because i do not want the divorce.

  but because i love him and i want to respect him.

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  laverite

  Losingit,

  I went through an awful, awful time once. It lasted for a few years. Very emotionally traumatic. I'm quite amazed I survived it. At times, all I could do is to remind myself "just breathe." Some days, putting one foot in front of the other seemed near impossible. So..."Just breathe" worked -- I focused on that.

  Also, when things would get quite difficult, I would have a cup of tea. It may not have made anything any better but the way I look at it, it couldn't hurt any.

  If you find yourself teetering, perhaps have that cup of tea. It may not make anything better, but at least you will have had a cup of tea.
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  just when you think you've made friends with a "normal" person

  by Hortensia in

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  rode over to the farmer's market with a couple of neighbors, nice women, seem sensible.

  the driver stopped in the middle of a block and stared at the coca-cola truck that was parked there.

  she said, "do you see the round tower?

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  laverite

  Hortens,

  She sounds interesting, and fun to hang around! A lot more fun than your average, dull as dishwater person who complains regularly of being bored. At least she has towers and gypsies to busy herself.
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  How do I Know?

  by mouthy in

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  2. experiences

  how do i know my youth is all spent?.

  but in spite of it all i am able to grin,.

  when i think of the places my get-up has been.

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  laverite

  Mouthy - did you write this? I *LOVE* it!