So glad there is treatment out there for Coltin and you are able to take advantage of it. We're so lucky to be living in a time when such things are available.
All the best to you and your family.
exwhyzee
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A little update on my family
by sooner7nc ina few of you may remember that my wife had a kidney transplant early last year.
since then the kidney has been incredible, giving her a new lease on life.
it's really been good to see the light in her eyes that i had missed for quite a long time.. the counterpoint to this good news is the problems we have had with our son coltin.
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Skirts and trousers (pants if you're in the US)
by Chariklo injust what is it that the watchtower thinks is so much more modest and respectful to jehovah about wearing a skirt instead of trousers?
that is, unless you live in a culture that has trousers as the norm for women, as in india.. something today brought this to my mind.
i can't even remember what it was, but it led to thinking again about this.
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exwhyzee
When I was in elementary school the girls weren't allowed to wear pants unless it snowed. If it snowed they were allowed to wear them under a dress or skirt. It was another hold over notion from a bygone era that most people came to realize was ridiculous. Not the Watchtower gang who take themselves so seriously. They made a stand on it back in the day so they have to stick to it or they think they'll loose ground. It's the same with beards or hair past the ears for men. God always agrees with whatever they decide.
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A fun break from yard work today...
by Rocky_Girl ini'm outside in the 90 heat doing landscaping with my neighbor/ friend.
two women in dresses, nylons, and heels walked carefully across the newly tilled dirt to get to us and start their presentation.. woman 1: we are talking with your neighbors about the increase in crime lately.
do you worry about your safety?.
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exwhyzee
Woman 1: *clearly offended* I can assure you, we are not a cult.
No one in a Cult ever thinks they are in a Cult while they're still in it.
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Andy Griffith died
by glenster inandrew samuel "andy" griffith (june 1, 1926 july 3, 2012) rip.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uj5rzwttmoa.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zrf7u55gvpw.
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exwhyzee
He's gone to that big "Mayberry" in the sky. Emit has the keys to the Pearly Gates that he stole off Don Knotts and Aint' Bee is waiting with a big ol'slice a pie.
Did you ever hear the lyrics to the theme song?
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Anderson Cooper is gay!!!
by laverite inaccording to the la times, anderson cooper is gay and no one was surprised about it.
was anyone here shocked by the news?
http://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/opinion-la/la-ol-anderson-cooper-gay-20120702,0,1530321.story.
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exwhyzee
The old men in Bethel had my mind for over twentyfive years..
I would LOVE to get them in bed!!!!!! Boy talk about GRANNY!!!!!!She would show them a thing or twoGoodness Brother Russell....is that a copy of the Finished Mystery in your pocket or are you just glad to see me ?
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Had a visit from JW's yesterday.
by exwhyzee init took almost 3 years after we quietly left our last meeting (memorial 2008) before anyone came looking for us.
after nearly 25 years raising our family in the same hall and it was as if we didn't exist anymore.. that happened about a year ago but yesterday the boys and our daughter in law were here and were all having a late breakfast and lounging around in our robes an p.j's having a nice morning.
we were sitting at the kitchen table looking out the sliding glass door at one of those summer rains where it just buckets down all of a sudden.
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exwhyzee
Thank them for the invite and tactfully let them youre not availible to join them. Are you faded?
Yep...faded like a favorite pair of bluejeans.
I'll be tactful but I know they're gonna ask why we won't go. Then there will be a line drawn that may not be crossable anymore. Old friends are hard to come by these days.
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All JWs share the same belief
by biometrics ini was having a discussion with a (currently serving) elder recently when he brought up a straw-man argument that went something like this:.
elder: i've been invited to speak with other christian groups, you know what they do when studying the bible?.
elder: they read a verse or chapter, then go around the room asking how everyone interprets the reading.
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exwhyzee
They read a verse or chapter, then go around the room asking how everyone interprets the reading.
Doesn't that sound interesting? Almost like a book club. Can you imagine a Watchtower Study where it was actually a discussion that was kept on topic by a moderator ? Where there were no wrong answers or foolish questions. I think it would be really enlightening, stimulating and would draw the congregation closer together.
Most JW's I knew didn't talk about the Bible to eachother because we already knew what the other would say on any given subject. If you had thoughts of your own, you knew better than to voice them.
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Had a visit from JW's yesterday.
by exwhyzee init took almost 3 years after we quietly left our last meeting (memorial 2008) before anyone came looking for us.
after nearly 25 years raising our family in the same hall and it was as if we didn't exist anymore.. that happened about a year ago but yesterday the boys and our daughter in law were here and were all having a late breakfast and lounging around in our robes an p.j's having a nice morning.
we were sitting at the kitchen table looking out the sliding glass door at one of those summer rains where it just buckets down all of a sudden.
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An update on this posting:
I just got home from work and there was a pink envelope under the front doormat. It was a card from that couple who stopped to give us the invitation to the D.C. It said that they really enjoyed visitinig with us and thanked us for being so hospitable even though they dropped in unannounced. They said that it's a sign of a good friend when you can do that and be made to feel so welcome. It said they miss us and they want us to sit with them at the assembly this weekend. They left thier new phone numbers and want us to call and let them know.
It was really nice for us to see them too and I don't want to hurt their feelings. They are the first ones after all this time to actually ask us to come back. But I can't imagine going to the assembly unless I could go anonymously in another city and be a fly on the wall just to see what it would be like after all this time. I do wonder if the old anxiety would come back like it used to as soon as smelled the new literature and I heard the music and heard them testing the microphones by announcing "And this good news of the kingdom will be preached throughout the world and then the end will come !" That used to freak me out for some reason. It's been so great to be free of that horrible sensation that I don't want to risk it returning.
Anybody have any ideas of how I could put it to them gently that sitting with them aint gonna happen this weekend ? I wish I knew their email adresses so I could just send them a note rather than call . (coward)
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Had a visit from JW's yesterday.
by exwhyzee init took almost 3 years after we quietly left our last meeting (memorial 2008) before anyone came looking for us.
after nearly 25 years raising our family in the same hall and it was as if we didn't exist anymore.. that happened about a year ago but yesterday the boys and our daughter in law were here and were all having a late breakfast and lounging around in our robes an p.j's having a nice morning.
we were sitting at the kitchen table looking out the sliding glass door at one of those summer rains where it just buckets down all of a sudden.
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exwhyzee
The dog barked, there came a knock at the door and Captain Obvious appeared out of nowhere just in the nick of time. LOL !
Now that I've been informed that the assemblies are open to "anyone", it would be interesting to go to a Dc in another city where I didn't know a soul and listen to the program knowing what I know now.
Honestly, I think most of the old friends we once had feel ashamed about what happened to us and aren't quite sure how to go about making up for it. Actually it turned out to be the best thing in the end. Who knows how long I would have continued to wrestle with myself and how bad the anxiety would have gotten before I reached the breaking point. By doing exactly what they were instructed to do, they drove an entire family of life long JW's who were still making a valient effort to live up to their dedication, out from their midst. If anyone is missing a "millstone" I know where it is and who is wearing it around their neck.
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Hardest most awkward parts of being mentally out but physically in
by BU2B ini am still physically in but am completely out mentally.. i was curious for those who spent some time in the borg while being mentally out or are still in that position, what is the worst, hardest or most awkward parts... for me i intensly dislike attending the meetings however its bearable as i can just let my mind wander, but field service is awful.
i cannot try to bring someone in to a group that i am trying to plot a way out of.
so now i try my best to either spend the day driving around to others fruitless rv's (we have somewhat rural territory) or eating out at an extended breakfast or if door to door cannot be avoided, i try to work alone and not ring bells.
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exwhyzee
I was mentally out but physically in for quite a few years before the "last straw" that made me make up my mind to leave, happened.
It took a toll on me in the form of panic and anxiety attacks. I didn't listen to my body telling me something was seriously in need of changing in my life. Unlike you, there was no way I could go from door to door in good conscience feeling like I did. Besides the anxiety I was having was too great. It wasn't until a week after I decided never to set foot in a KH again that I noticed my years of serious anxiety had suddenly quit and 4 years later hasn't ever returned in fact I'm filled with peace and contentment most of the time. My social life is practically nill now but most days I think it's worth it.
I hope you can find a way to be "in" and still enjoy the social benefits and the parts of it that work for you. Hopefully you'll work it out so that your situation won't take a toll on your well being. So many I knew dealt with Depression and Anxiety and I'm sure it was mostly because on some level they knew they were playing games with themselves.