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  A question about those who are disassociated

  by OUTLAW in

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  when i disassociated myself i just walked out and didn`t come back.i gave the elders no explanation,i just told them not to bother me again,that was in 1974.when i read the posts on this forum,it seems as though some feel the need to give a formal explanation.why is this ?are the jws demanding an explanation if you leave?if so why would you go along with this invasion of privacy?i would appreciate it,if someone could bring me up to date on this...thanks...outlaw

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  WhooooHoooooo Thomas!

  Wish I had done that. Hey, wish I had been there when "you did it your way."
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  A question about those who are disassociated

  by OUTLAW in

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  when i disassociated myself i just walked out and didn`t come back.i gave the elders no explanation,i just told them not to bother me again,that was in 1974.when i read the posts on this forum,it seems as though some feel the need to give a formal explanation.why is this ?are the jws demanding an explanation if you leave?if so why would you go along with this invasion of privacy?i would appreciate it,if someone could bring me up to date on this...thanks...outlaw

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  Hi Outlaw.

  I had not been an active witness for about 8 or 9 years. I just slowly stopped going back. But I still held the belief that "If there was one right religion, JW's had to be it." Two elders came to the house and said they had a hard time finding me (I had moved about 40 minutes away) and that they wanted to talk with me. Told me that they were not accusing me of doing anything wrong, but I should think about DAing myself or they would have to disfellowship me. Said it would be easier for me to get back into the organization if I ever decided to straighten my ways.

  So, being intimidated by "God's Organization" and thinking that I had to do things right towards my God, I agreed to send in a letter DAing myself.

  I was almost at the point of reinstatement in September of this year, and beat a hastey retreat when I found out about the changes in so many things and the locking of their doors in New York and then lying about it.

  Would I send a letter of DA at this time in my life? NO! I am not intimidated anymore. And I was told this last time back that DA or DF is the same, no difference. So they lied to me about the DA process. Why am I not surprised by that?

  J
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  Was my face red

  by Judith in

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  while sitting with the principal of my son's elementary school and explaining why my son would not be saying the pledge to the flag, i heard this announcement over the loud speaker, "and the pledge will be said by ryan b.

  " my son!

  his voice loud and clear over the loud speaker and i sat with a burning face.

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  Hi LDH. I agree with your statement. My son just wanted to be part of the group at school and his self esteem was good enough to raise his hand and say the pledge for the school. I hated going to the teachers to show them the school booklet (or whatever it was) and tell them why my children would not be participating in anything. Now my anger is coming up again. But on the lighter side. My children did quite a bit of rebelling and some I knew about and others are just coming out now. I have to laugh about that.

  Hi Lilacs. The principal didn't wait for me to leave before he began laughing. And who can blame him?

  Hi ZazuWitts. Good for you painting those valentines. That gave me a laugh. I am glad that we both had something funny to share. You little rebel you. <smile>

  Wasn't there an actress named Zazu Pitts? A long time ago. Just curious.

  Judith
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  Seventh Day Adventist Funeral

  by Judith in

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  i attended a seventh day adventist funeral today.

  she was a really nice person that i had worked with some years ago.

  she was kind to everyone, never a bad word about anyone, always willing to help, and didn't toss her religion down your throat.

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  Hi Liquidizer

  I am off to study the link that you provided in your last post.

  Thank you

  Judith
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  Seventh Day Adventist Funeral

  by Judith in

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  i attended a seventh day adventist funeral today.

  she was a really nice person that i had worked with some years ago.

  she was kind to everyone, never a bad word about anyone, always willing to help, and didn't toss her religion down your throat.

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  Hi Barry. Thanks for answering. May I ask you another question? Are you happy with your chosen religion and how different is it from the JW's religion? I ask the questions because I am searching and feel a bit lost right now.

  Judith
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  Reasons to Quit

  by Frenchy in

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  -some of you might recognize that caption as the title to one of merle and willie's biggest hits but this is not about drugs and alcohol but about something many of us here hold in common.. i have read many reasons stated here for those who have left the organization either formally (through df'ing or da'ing) and those that are still technically in but mentally out.

  some (quite a few as i expected) have left to pursue lifestyles inconsistent with teachings which they evidently once held dear (they were questioned about those beliefs prior to baptism) but have now abandoned.

  that reasoning is absurd but it makes good sense to the rank and file.

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  Hi Frenchy.

  I don't know that I am "hanging on" anymore. I am just kind of hanging out, trying to enjoy life as I see it now. I appreciate your words about a sighted person not wishing to be blind. That hit home with me. No, I do not wish to be blind physically or religiously. I am who I am, oops! Didn't God say that? Or was that Popeye the sailor? <grin>

  Had lunch with my youngest son today and he prayed before eating. He then looked at me and said, "I don't even know why I am doing this." He started back to the Kingdom Hall four months before I did. A friend of his died and he needed he comfort of religion to make sense of it. Now we talk about what is out there and if we can ever believe in any religion. So we both continue our search but not like our lives depend on it. He also said, "If worshiping God means living like a JW, I don't want it. God would not want people to be so bogged down and unhappy." I agree.

  Thanks for your input.

  Judith
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  Was my face red

  by Judith in

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  2. family

  while sitting with the principal of my son's elementary school and explaining why my son would not be saying the pledge to the flag, i heard this announcement over the loud speaker, "and the pledge will be said by ryan b.

  " my son!

  his voice loud and clear over the loud speaker and i sat with a burning face.

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  Judith

  While sitting with the principal of my son's elementary school and explaining why my son would not be saying the pledge to the flag, I heard this announcement over the loud speaker, "And the pledge will be said by Ryan B." My son! His voice loud and clear over the loud speaker and I sat with a burning face. And I had to go on and tell the principal why he would never do it again and why? - cause we are JW's.

  This happened when my son was in kindergarten and he is now 25. It just popped into my head and I thought it rather humerous.
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  Bizarre Urban Myth...have you heard it?

  by Preston in

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  i remember a couple of years ago when i was out in field service i heard a story (haven't we all) about a district convention in california where the speaker was invited to give a talk, and as he was standing before the platform, he unexpectedly began to tell a slurry of sex jokes, profanities, and stories about his sex life.

  everyone in attendance was shocked, and after he was removed from speaking, an elder had to inform the audience that what happened was completely unexpected and uncalled for.

  being that i was a jw at the time i had no use for critical thinking, so i thought every word of it was true.

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  Moxy

  Thanks for the ending to the story about the dog. I forgot the part where he confessed.

  How ridiculous some of these stories are.

  I must have been an absent minded JW mommy cause I let my kids watch the smurfs. Ha! I always forgot that I grounded my children too. They would tell me later when they came in from playing that I had forgotten that I grounded them. So I would just laugh and kiss their little faces and tell them I wouldn't forget next time. But I always did.
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  Seventh Day Adventist Funeral

  by Judith in

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  i attended a seventh day adventist funeral today.

  she was a really nice person that i had worked with some years ago.

  she was kind to everyone, never a bad word about anyone, always willing to help, and didn't toss her religion down your throat.

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  Hi RR

  Please do tell me, who are the Bible Students?

  Judith
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  Seventh Day Adventist Funeral

  by Judith in

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  i attended a seventh day adventist funeral today.

  she was a really nice person that i had worked with some years ago.

  she was kind to everyone, never a bad word about anyone, always willing to help, and didn't toss her religion down your throat.

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  Hi Barry

  Thank you for the information on Seventh Day Adventist. You say you are a member but you do attend the memorial at the Kingdom Hall. Will you share the reasons why you attend both religions?

  Thank you

  Judith