Thanks for the list. It helps knowing tHAT OTHERS ARE GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING AND ITS NORMAL. I especially could relate to the lack of making decisions on my own and seeing everything in black or white. when i first came to this site ,I was kindof hoping that other ex JW's could point me in the right direction of the real "truth". i.e. another religion that really is the truth.. instead its helping me think for myself. Its nice to know that it can be hard for others as well..
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17Common Psychological Problems of Mind Manipulatio
by Jang incommon psychological problems of mind manipulation:.
the following problems and emotions are common with survivors.
these are all normal emotions and will pass as you recover.. keeping a journal and sorting one's overwhelming feelings is most healing and helps work through feelings of betrayal and abuse.
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Can someone answer this???
by jurs ini never really had a clear understanding of how jw's labeled someone apostate.
some time this week the elders will receive my letter disasociating myself.
in the letter i accuse the organization as being a cult.
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Hi Everyone!!
I never really had a clear understanding of how JW's labeled someone apostate. Some time this week the elders will receive my letter disasociating myself. In the letter I accuse the organization as being a cult. I also mention their strange superstitions (demon smurfs, buying stuff at yard sales) and unscriptural rules no dresses ect. ect. I wrote that there was no offense to them personally because I believed they were brainwashed to. I also accused an elder in a different hall for being a hypocrite. I let them know I am reading forbidden material!!! This will probably come as a shock to them since my feelings have drastically changed in a short period of time. Also I have told my kids school teachers, work associates ect. that I have left what I believe to be a cult. I am sure this will all get back to the congregation. My question is-- I think that might make me be considered an apostate, Will it?? the second question is Can someone that is labeled apostate ever be reinstated in the congregation? I once heard that an apostate is someone that sins against the holy spirit and will not be forgiven. I'm not worried about it, just curious... JURS -
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Hi
by heff ini have been lurking around here for quite some time now, posted a few short replies, and engaged in a little chat from time to time.
its almost hard to remember, just a few months back, feeling like i was the only one to live through a jw experience and not be sorry that i am no longer a part of it.
i am very happy to have found this site.. i would like to better introduce myself as i have seen several others do.. i was born in '78 to a fanatical jw mother and an unbelieving alcholic father.
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Hi Heff,
Its nice to meet you. I think ALL JW parents fool themselves thinking "our kids aren't missing out." I have 2 kids ages 10 and 11. We celebrated our first holiday today. one of my presents was them showing me a home video of our last X-mas. They were 1 and 2. My 10 year old said she wanted me to remember when we were happy. Out of the mouths of babes!!!! My heart hurts for you , My kids, and all JW kids!!!!! I suspect your experiences and how you felt is true of most all JW kids. I hope you keep sharing. You can't believe how helpful it is to me to know I made the right decision to leave..JURS -
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Farewell to a friend.
by dshields1 indear friends,.
i wanted to take a moment to remember a friend.
he was a jehovah's witness and was raised in the same insane environment that i was.
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Doug,
I'm sorry about your friend. Your compassionate posting perhaps my help someone else.
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Sisters with unbelieving Mates
by slipnslidemaster ini asked this in one of the threads ( http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=5335) but i would like to explore it further.. am i the only one to think this or did it seem like the sisters with unbelieving mates and children seemed to be "tolerated" or marginalized?
they never seemed to be "full" witnesses to anybody in the congregation?.
my name is slipnslideius masterus: commander of the armies of the north, general of the felix legions, loyal servant to the true emperor, marcus aurelius...
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I wanted to add a little more... Conventions and assemblies were always the worst for me. I would be sitting with hundreds of brothers and sisters and feeling totally alone. Break time (lunch) and before the program started was the worst.. I would sit and talk to no one. I would walk around (you know how we strolled during the break) it was very awkward. I usually cried on the way home feeling sorry for myself. I think that assemblies and conventions show the lack of love best. I use to beg my husband to go, not because I thought he would have a change of heart but to have someone to eat lunch with. Finally I found a solution to my problem. Visa or Mastercard, I went shopping during breaks!!!! JURS
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I ate meat on Friday
by chester ini was raised as a catholic.
it used to be considered a sin to eat meat on friday.
even for a little boy who was at the age of reason.. i remember very well the time when i was in the second grade about the age of 7 that i did eat a hot dog on a friday.. i knew that it was a sin but i ate it anyway.
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Hi Chester,
I appreciated your post.
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Sisters with unbelieving Mates
by slipnslidemaster ini asked this in one of the threads ( http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=5335) but i would like to explore it further.. am i the only one to think this or did it seem like the sisters with unbelieving mates and children seemed to be "tolerated" or marginalized?
they never seemed to be "full" witnesses to anybody in the congregation?.
my name is slipnslideius masterus: commander of the armies of the north, general of the felix legions, loyal servant to the true emperor, marcus aurelius...
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I was a sister with an unbelieving mate. I've been in 3 different congrgations. It depends on the congregation. The first congregation I had several close sister friends but never felt apart of the congregation. The second congrgation was the worst as far as feeling welcomed. I only had one sister friend. I never got invited over and my kids never got asked to play at JW houses. The sisters were especially cold. I felt uncomfortable talking to brothers because it seemed like I was being judged by sisters as being a threat. I know that probably sounds conceited but I felt very uncomfortable in that hall. The third hall, the congrgation I just left was very warm. I will miss them. I thought the elders were kind and genuine and felt apart of the congrgation. The sisters were also nice. The hall didn't seem as fanatical as the other two as well. Its strange that I starting doubting in a kingdom hall I was happy in. I'm sure missing meetings helped me. A chance to stand back and think!!!!
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To Carmel
by jurs inhi carmel, i read that there is an apostafest in montana.
i was born and raised in butte, montana.
i live now in colorado but i go every year to visit family.
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I live in Parker, CO. I don't know if the apostafest is in Butte. I just heard that Montana has one in the summer. I'm from Butte MT, and I was hoping Carmel could tell us when and where in Montana this get together is held.
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"Why confessing to the elders
by MacHislopp insomeone asked me references in the "commentary to james' book.
something relating to the "confessing of sins "...here are some points:.
*** cj 204-7 chapter 5 *** (published in 1979).
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I've confessed before to the elders. Once for smoking and once for getting drunk before going to the ice capades and puking in the bathroom all through it. While confessing, other sins popped into my mind so I was there awhile. I'm sure it was entertaining. I felt sooooo awful. I was disiplined but not in a harsh way. That was over a year ago and I never regained one of the privledges I lost. I never understood the disipline part. My disipline was that I couldn't auxilry pioneer. Didn't make sense to me!
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To Carmel
by jurs inhi carmel, i read that there is an apostafest in montana.
i was born and raised in butte, montana.
i live now in colorado but i go every year to visit family.
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Hi Carmel, I read that there is an apostafest in Montana. I was born and raised in Butte, Montana. I live now in Colorado but I go every year to visit family. When and where is this fest?? I would love to go!!!
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