Posts by jurs

I've read a number of your posts but didn't know your situation. It helps talking and sharing with others. This site has been helpful to me when I was struggling and needed to vent or a listening ear. Perhaps in some small way it may help you too. It also may help knowing that your not alone.
I think its helpful knowing others are going through the same thing. Biblexaminer , I don't know how you do it. You have more self control than I do. I could never keep my feelings bottled up.
Hang in there. You'll be okay, your just finding your way. I hope things turn out well for you.
Jurs

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I was such a b_tch

by Pierced Angel in

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when i was a witness:.

i used to think they were materialistic, wordly and didn't raise their kids right.. i used to tell my non-jw husband that if he didn't come to the meetings that we wouldn't be together forever.

i'd say that when he'd say something like "i'll love you forever".

jurs

Hi P. Angel,

I think I was a bigger Bitch than You. I did all the above and then some. I would go through periods of threatening divorce if my husband didn't go to the meetings , so he would attend a few and then stop going because I was no longer on my rampage.
I looked down my nose and felt disdain for all Catholics. I was raised one. When my mother- in law would talk about church or God , I would smile and say nice things and then after she left I would tell my husband what a hypocrite she was because she had a boyfriend and led a sinful life
All the while I didn't notice my own hypocrisy.
Jurs

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To any computer savvy person

by jurs in

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how do i put my picture up.

i scanned it.

then i went to the screen where you can alter your profile.

jurs

How do i put my picture up. I scanned it. Then I went to the screen where you can alter your profile. now I'm stumped . What do I do next
jurs

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Am I The Only One................................?

by Big Jim in

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am i the only one that catches myself either whistling or humming kingdom songs?.

usually i catch myself before i go to far as not to embarase myself.. my wife who is still very active gets a pretty good charge when she catches me at it.. you would think after being away for almost six years that would not happen.. just wondering if it happens to any of you?

jurs

Hi Ya Troubled,

You have to admit you were in the vast minority of JW's that sing your heart out. I've belonged to 3 different halls in different cicuits and it was all the same. It really bothered me that there was no enthusiasm in the singing. I wasn't raised a JW i, I came in through the door to door woek. I've been to many churches when I was searching. The JW's were the worst singers. I even said that once to an elder who also wasn't raised in the truth. He agreed.
jurs

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Were you afraid that the JW's were right?

by jurs in

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many posters have said that initially they had doubts and then cane to the internet to check things out.

were any of you afraid that maybe you would find that the org was the truth ?.

i was worried about that.

jurs

Many posters have said that initially they had doubts and then cane to the internet to check things out. Were any of you afraid that maybe you would find that the org was the truth ?
I was worried about that. I had doubts but I also was beating up on myself thinking that it was my fault. THat if I went out in service more or studied harder I wouldn't be doubting.
When I sat down at my computer and started reading I had tears of joy that I didn't have to miserable or feel overwhelmed to serve Jah. Then anger that I lost years of my life. Then determination to help others and make some noise..
How about you guys ??
jurs

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the internet, does it really matter??

by astra in

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hi, i have been following some of the discussions about the internet and jw.

some people think that it seems to make a big difference, that it will seriously reduce wts ranks because people get access to all sorts of information and because they can get in contact with people who maybe have the same doubts and thoughts as themselves.. but how big a difference do you think that the net is making?

how many people do you think have withdrawns from jw because of infomation or contact achieved over the net?.

jurs

Hi Astra,

I don't know for sure how big an impact the internet is but I believe its HUGE. I recently left the org (in May) due completely from the info from the web. There are so many websites that have loads of info.
I use to wonder at meetings and assemblies , why they stressed staying away from the internet. Point blank stay away from unofficial JW websites. I use to think that one elder was especially paranoid about it. He brought it up frequently.
Well, now I understand their need to frighten the flock. They can't and won't answer questions that the member will now ask. They know that they will be exposed . They got to stop brothers and sisters BEFORE they come here by making them feel like their sinning if they check things out.

jurs

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night you will be disfellow or reproved should u?.

by jazz in

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go to the hall and face the music or stay home and watch t.v this thought went through my head when an elder asked a sister if her husband was to embarrased to sit in the hall when they made the announcement what do you think?

jurs

Dear Troubled,

There is another website and darnet I dont have it to give to you about shunning. Its from Beacon. I think if you type in Jehovah witness shunning it will pop up. Its the one by Beacon. It is so good. When 2 elders came to see me over my DA letter i brought up all the points from that web site and they turned white.
After reading it you'll see that shunning is not a christian practice and wasn't in the 1st century.
I encourage you to read it.

jurs

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night you will be disfellow or reproved should u?.

by jazz in

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go to the hall and face the music or stay home and watch t.v this thought went through my head when an elder asked a sister if her husband was to embarrased to sit in the hall when they made the announcement what do you think?

jurs

I did not attend the meeting when they read that I DA'd myself. I was out of town that week. I wish I would have went. While I was a witness ,over the years, there were several DF people present when their names were read. I admired them for having so much courage. One in paticular was a single sister with 4 small children. Her JW husband had recently left her and she had commited immorality with another brother. She sobbed through out the whole meeting. It was heart breaking. I wanted so bad to give her a hug. That was my first squirm over shunning someone and feeling crappy about it. She continued going to meetings for awhile but eventually stopped. I cant imagine how she did it as long as she did . She had no JW family and her baby had health problems. That incident sat on the shelf in my brain and later when I doubted I thought of her again from a different perspective.
jurs

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Thoughts For Erica

by silentlambs in

i have been getting a steady stream of notes from people around the world who are not able to make it to the trial, but want to offer their support for her.

i thought we might extend the opportunity to those on the board to send her a note that would be delivered when we arrive there.

if you would like to make a note here, it is welcome, or if you would like to send it privately send it to: [email protected]

jurs

Erica,
Big Hugs to you. I wish I had the circumstances to be there . My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Sent with love,
Laura Jursnick