Posts by jurs

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photo of my stepfather

by Mulan in

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here is a photo of my stepfather and mom, at their wedding in november 1969. mom has one of him with hayden covington and milton henschel taken forever ago, but i like this one better.

mom looks good at 57, don't you think?

henry was 54, and you can see the twinkle in his eyes.

jurs

Mulan,

Thanks for sharing your picture. I can tell you loved him much.

Hugs to you,

Jurs

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posters on several recent threads have waxed eloquent about reforming, reorganizing, reinventing, mainstreaming jehovah's witnesses.. the comparative efficacy of internal or external pressure has been one of the subthemes.. as a former 50 year "true believer", this seems like such an exercize in futility.

if this is really an organization sponsored by the god of the universe, why dare steady the ark.

if not, why bother?.

jurs

Hello TMS,

I have been curious about reformers and had thought it to be a lost cause. Perhaps I'm wrong. Pressure, Lawsuits ect. have been effective in the past and perhaps will bring needed "light" to other harmful issues. On the other hand.............................. Blood, shunning ,pedophiles,The lifestyle of JW kids not being able to do much of anything thats fun ,proms, sports, ect. no college ,living life with fear and guilt deeply embedded. How in the world do you reform something so screwed up ? There's so much to reform. I believe the ROOT of all of this and the key to reform is if JW's were able to look and research the information for themselves instead of having to rely and trust completely and without question on the org.
What I would like to see happen , is to have the public educated about the org. Most people have no idea what the JW's are about. I think the internet, Dateline ( if it airs), and other publicity helps educate people about the JW's. Also former members talking openly and sharing their experienes as well as teaching people what the org is like is beneficial. Hopefully one day it will be recognized as a cult to the public much like how the moonies are a well known cult. If so it will prevent many from joining and leading a conrolled and unhappy life. It would make leaving easier in the aspect that they won't have guilt that they are leaving Jah but that they are leaving a cult. This is the area that I am interested in pursing. People are curious why I left. I have found that people are interested in JW's .
jurs

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My stepfather died tonight

by Mulan in

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i have just finished making phone calls informing the family of the death of my stepfather.

i was an adult when he married my mother, but i loved him very much.

he was a wonderful man.. although he was a faithful jw, for his entire life (he was born to it) he was a really good man, and a true christian, i believe.

jurs

Marilyn and Princess,

I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Your both in my thoughts..........Jurs

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Is this ALL you people do?

by Bibleboy in

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bicker and complain all day?

why not try to show some love around here?

just wondering.... with love,

jurs

No this is not all I ever do. Except when I turn on this silly computer. Am I the only one who can't believe how many hours I can spend at this site. Once I sit down I'm hooked!!!! I AM GOING TO TURN IT OFF!!! My house is a mess, I've got loads of laundry and homework to boot. Right now my husband is pacing waiting for me to get off so he can do some work from home...........
Jurs

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JW Kids Leave the Organization: Facts

by Maximus in

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the october 1 watchtower 2001 features articles on training children "properly" and dealing with a "prodigal child.

the latest inside u.s. figures reveal that 86% of jw children leave the fold, with some 29% who eventually come back for reasons of family ties, most never "reaching out.

" that means over half leave permanently.

jurs

What a GREAT topic. I don't have any statistics to offer but I have 2 kids and that sure gives me the inside scoop on my former hall. It seems to be that many of the kids live double lives and once they get caught their disfellowshipped. Recently one JW boy (14 years old) got kicked out of school for possesion of drugs. I had talked to his mom , this happened just before I DA'd myself, and she said she could not think of a single elder that she could call. her and her husband cried and prayed but felt they couldn't turn to anyone. Another girl told my daughter when we left the org that she wished her mom would leave too. Her mom studies.
I also wanted to add that I think ANYONE can make a big difference.I was a non important pip squeak in my hall. I had no family in and had a non believer husband. I was the weak sister sort. I was very insignifcant in my hall. Now thats all changed. The ridiculous title of apostate has made me this dangerous threat!!!! I've called bible studies, given out literature to several people and openly educate people like co workers , family friends and another weak sister who hadn't been going to meetings. I had an effective heartfelt talk that was sucessful with 3 people so far. The weak sister an I talked for hours and she felt the same way. She never knew others felt as she did and I referred her to COC. To make this short and sweet without all the details, I know I have already made a difference in some lives and I have only been out since May. I'm no Ray Franz but I like to do my part !!!!
Jurs

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Regarding Candles

by silentlambs in

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this is my first time to be back on the boards in about a week, much to follow up on and i have quite a story to tell regarding the events of the last week.

before i go into that though i would like to make a clarification for all concerned regarding our family business.

while i do appreciate the efforts to offer support personally, it has never been the intent to profit in any way from silentlambs.

jurs

Silent Lambs

I had respect for you before and it has increased even more. Its too bad that more people aren't as ethical as you are.
Jurs

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What was your biggest pet peeve ?

by jurs in

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my biggest pet peeve was the " instant friends " theory.

i went to 3 different halls.

we moved around colorado.

jurs

Bridgette,

Hi ! I live between Elizabeth and Parker !! I went to the Franktown congregation as well as the brighton and Longmont congregation.
I don't know anyone from Golden but thats where we have had our assemblies (at the school of mines).
It's nice to know that there is another fellow Colordoian.
Jurs

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I'm back

by sennabrasil94 in

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well i've been away for a while, lot of stuff to sort out in my life.

so anyway i've been takeing the info from this site and all the other apostate related sites (ha ha) and haveing some debates with my family, they don't know anything i'm talking about and realy got the brain washed replys youd expect.

and to prove a point, i'm now deceptively after 14 years in exile studing with an elder....to challenge him, and unknown to him i want some satisfaction for what they did to me.

jurs

Hi Senna,

In another thread poster "just a mom" brought out a scripture that I thought would be beneficial for you to point out to the elder. Ezekial 34:4.
Jurs

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How would you react to a sheparding call?

by friendorfoe in

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put aside for a moment your statis of the organization, it's saturday morning and your on the other side of the ole familar knock.

"hello i'm brotherdoesnthavealife i haven't seen you in a while" how would you react?.

it happened to me after about 6 years of being inactive and it was an elder and a c.o.

jurs

Just a mom,

I went and read Jeremiah and Ezekial !!! Bravo for pointing those out !! I especially enjoyed Ezekial 34: 4. I'm jotting that one down. Next time I run into a witness at the airport or see them in parking lots , I think I'll stoll over and ask them about it !!!
I think that scripture would have stayed with me and nagged at me. Little seeds of truth are very powerful.

JURS

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Ritsfield Victory!

by silentlambs in

hello everyone,.

i am bill's wife.he just called me from washington and told me to let you all know that erica won her case today!.

that sick child molesting bastard is in jail now as we speak.. his sentencing is set for september 24th i think.. one down many more to go.. thanks to all who have supported this cause.. sheila

jurs

I have tried to stay out of this thread but I can't hold my tongue any longer.
Mommy, This is nothing personal against you. You seem like a nice lady with good intentions but your missing the boat on this one.
You said that it is unfair to label a child molester a pedophile when he has ONLY molested once. You've implied that you also don't think its fair that they should spend the rest of their lives paying for that crime against that child.
I have a big pet peeve against do gooders who think they are so nice and holier than thou when they cry for , light a candle for, and defend a child molester saying Its not fair, Give them a second chance. (excuse me while I puke).
Do you realize its people like you who let these guys go free so they can go and rape and molest another child.
I for one , don't really give a crap about being FAIR to any child molester. I'd rather focus my energy and SUPPORT to a victim. They have to live with the crime committed against them for the rest of their life. It doesn't bother me a bit if the molester has to pay for his crime the rest of his life. He made that choice.
Even if that perpertraitor was himself a victim it still doesn't make it ok. He's dangerous. Most if not all child molesters have more than 1 victim.
No one gets a pat on the back from me for defending a child molester. You may think your being kind and forgiving but you may just be enabling a molester to hurt another child.
Theres my 2 cents on the subject.
Jurs