with the proliferation of the vague concept (to most jws, not me!
) of a conscience matter, do you think there are more liberal (i don't mean politically) jws?
have you come across many or any halls where the boe or the membership are content to really let the conscience decide the small stuff rather than the iron-fisted approach?.
I was part of a centrist hall and a hall that was very fundamentalist. But in both halls, it really depended on your relationship to the higher-ups in how the rules were applied to you personally.
I've observed the same type of thing in non-JW settings, though. I think part of it with them is indoctrination, and part of it is just plain old being human.
my son and i were talking about our family's past involvement with the jws.
he told me he can't recall anyone we knew or any specific things we were taught at the meetings.
the only thing he remembers is that we used to give him answers when he raised his hand, so he could feel like a big boy, lol!i i'm so glad for him and his younger brother that we left when they were young (7 and 5).
My son and I were talking about our family's past involvement with the JWs. He told me he can't recall anyone we knew or any specific things we were taught at the meetings. The only thing he remembers is that we used to give him answers when he raised his hand, so he could feel like a big boy, LOL!I I'm so glad for him and his younger brother that we left when they were young (7 and 5). There was minimal damage done to them. Not so their older sister and brother:(They have scars like me:(
and your wishes for 2008.. jeff .
Hmm, let's just say I swallowed the red pill.
I realized that there is four generations of verbal, physical, and emotional abuse of women in my family.
I realized that my nuclear family has been affected by this and our JW affiliation MUCH more than I ever realized.
I realized that no amount of hoping, analyzing, or compromising will ever make the dream marriage I held in my head a reality-it really was just all in my head
I lost my grandma, who was my best friend in the world, but who's life lessons are in my heart forever
I stood up to my mother and no longer let her dictate my life path to me, nor do I hold creedance in her opinion of me anymore
Ditto my father
I survived nursing school, graduated at the top of my class,passed the NCLEX, and learned that maybe I'm not the serious screw up my parents and husband have always led me to believe I am
I've learned that it's best to let one-way friendships go
I've learned it doesn't pay to try and have a close relationship with your children by compromising everything you believe in to placate them, because you feel guilty for raising them in a stupid cult (doesn't work anyway-they just hate you for being a "hypocrite" or "wishy-washy"). You can love your children and not like their behavior, and they can do the same with you
My Plans for 2008:
Find a nursing position and get comfortable in it (they say it takes at least a year)
Get my credit straightened out now that I no longer am at my husband's "mercy" financially (whoohooo! I can finally pay my overdue bills and buy myself some NEW CLOTHES)
Decide whether I'm going to continue my nursing education, or pursue my advanced degree in another field
Get to better know a woman who has recently expressed interest in becoming friends with me
Continue exploring what I want out of my life for me, and practice being more assertive
READ READ READ
this year we have a themed christmas party.. gangster/mafia...... what to wear.. was going to wear a flapper dress but hey who has a body to wear one of those...lol...... so its going to be a gangster moll outfit.
hubby he is wearing a black suit with a black shirt and white tie.. will post pics of the night (16/12).. i have rumours that they give out 'trophies' for things that have happened throughout the year or if you have a 'quality' ( i know one girl who is very chatty and i think they are going to give her a set of those chatty teeth that you wind up).
so what are you doing for your works christmas party???????.
The boss decided we aren't having one, because the employees don't get along. Some of us got kinda sick of constantly having to cover shifts for one woman who refuses to hire a babysitter for her kids, and who calls in whenever her mother or husband can't watch them, or when she's assigned to work a shift she doesn't like. We were joking about it the other day, and he overheard.It doesn't seem to matter to him that WE are getting deprived of family time with our children, and time to get errands, etcetera done, because she is cutting into our time off.
I don't really care. I put my notice in and will be out of there before Christmas anyway.But I may spring for a party for myself and the two other RESPONSIBLE employees.
i have 2 stories of accidents/funny things that has happened at our thanksgiving dinner.. when i was newly married, my wife and i invited 2 other couples over for dinner on thanksgiving, because "turkey was cheap" so we bought one - we weren't really celebrating a holiday, it was just that a turkey was too big for just 2 people.
we were in denial.. my job was to make a cake, something i had never attempted and since i was a ms and the "head of the house" i didn't need any help from my lowly wife.. i wanted to make the cake fron scratch so i used the recipe on the back of presto baking flour.. because i was watching football at the same time i was trying to make the cake, i transposed the directions for sugar and baking powder - 2 cups of sugar bacame 2 cups of baking powder and a tablespoon of baking pwder bacame a tablespoon of sugar.. i mixed the ingredients and sat down to finish watching the game as the ckae baked.
after about 15 minutes there was a huge explosion in the kitchen, the entire oven door had blown off and there was cake batter over the whole kitchen.. needless to say the dinner was ruined.. no thanksgiving dinner for us that year.. second story, not to be outdone, last year my daughter 20 years old was in charge of making the turkey for thanksgiving.
We have our lab crated in the kitchen right now, because she just had surgery. I was scraping dishes to load in the dishwasher after dinner last night, and I heard a rattling sound behind me. I turned around and looked, and all I could see was a little pink tongue poking through the holes of the crate, licking the stuffing off a spatula that had veered into doggy range.
i got my car from an elderly sis from my congo and it only had 52000mi and its a subaru gl-10 wagon '88 it looks just like this.
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My mother wouldn't allow me to have a car. I didn't get my first car until I was 28. It was a red Dodge Daytona Shelby Z. TOTALLY unfit for field service, as I was often remindedI LOVED that car!
what is nanowrimo?.
national novel writing month is a fun, seat-of-your-pants approach to novel writing.
participants begin writing november 1. the goal is to write a 175-page (50,000-word) novel by midnight, november 30.. valuing enthusiasm and perseverance over painstaking craft, nanowrimo is a novel-writing program for everyone who has thought fleetingly about writing a novel but has been scared away by the time and effort involved.. because of the limited writing window, the only thing that matters in nanowrimo is output.
Go Terry!
Nope, I had to quit. A family member had emergency surgery for brain cancer, then when I got back from there, I got stuck working six in a row. Then got sick. I give UP. But I do have a great start on my manuscript, and will work on it at a little slower pace around everything else that's happening in my life right now.
minimus' thread on tv shows has inspired me to ask all you guys (and gals) who you would prefer to "be with".... ginger or mary ann?.
jeanie or samantha?.
wilma or betty?.
Shaggy or Freddie?
Speed or Rex Racer?
all in the family is one of the very best series, in my opinion.. when i see re-runs of the andy griffith show, i smile.
when i was a kid, i never really appreciated don knotts and the gang as much as i do now.. taxi was another favorite.
hill street blues was great.
MaGyver-That was his name! I couldn't remember it.
Emergency! I remember they were always giving someone lactated ringers solution, lol.
What was the name of the show with the guy that flew the military helicopter?
Oh, then there was CHiPs-ooh,oooh, gotta run off to another thread
minimus' thread on tv shows has inspired me to ask all you guys (and gals) who you would prefer to "be with".... ginger or mary ann?.
jeanie or samantha?.
wilma or betty?.
Don't worry too much, White Dove I picked Ginger "the slut" and Professor And the Skipper
That three hour tour got REALLY REALLY long
