Tattogirl,
Most Japanese `freak-out` when they find out that one of their
family members is studying with the JWs. There are many reasons for
this. For one, the JW religion is viewed as being quite anti-social.
In other words, JWs will make decisions regardless of what friends
and family think. That means they cut across the grain and cause
friction. Certainly there are times when going against the flow and
doing what is right is necessary and good. However, in the JWs case
they carry it to an extreme. i.e.no birthdays, no holidays, no blood,
no voting, very little involvement in community life, leaving work
early to attend meetings, taking off work days to go to conventions
regardless of how busy their company might be, very negative stance
towards higher education,etc. They also have a high divorce rate in
Japan and are considered to be `anti-family`.
Here`s a common scenario. A housewife starts to study at home without
her husband knowing about it. He comes home late from work anyway.
Then one day when he comes home he finds that his wife has left a
note saying, ` she`s gone to a meeting and will be back about 9 p.m.
It says his lunch is in the frig. `. This takes him completely by
surprise so when she comes home he asks where she was. When she says
she was at a Kingdom Hall, he is shocked and tells her to stop going.
She was warned that there would be opposition and feels his attitude
is a `fulfillment of the WT prophecy`. She had felt a little guilty
about hiding the fact that she was studying with the JWs, but when she
meets opposition she feels hurt and justified in studying. From then
on they fight every Tuesday , Friday and Sunday when there are meetings. The husband calls her parents and the family gets together
to try to make her quit. By this time, the sister studying with her
has loaded her up with verses about persecution so she is thoroughly
convinced that she is suffering for the `Truth`. It no longer matters
what the WT teaches and she begins to forget her own original doubts.
Now it`s merely a matter of `survival`. After several years of this
domestic tension, the husband begins to give up. He purposely stays
late after work on the nights there are meetings. He feels very resent
-full towards his wife for not listening to him. He may even begin an
affair as a way of `getting back at her`. As their children get older
another round of strife begins. This time it`s the issue of college.
The father wants to send his son to college, the mother wants him to
skip college and become a full time pioneer. The battle rages on and
if the son has been faithful at meetings he sides with his mother and
skips college. The father is devastated and gives up. He seeks a
divorce.
Various versions of the above have been repeated countless times all
over Japan. One of the nation-wide newspapers ran an article which
told about how high the divorce rate is for JWs. And so it goes.
Perhaps that will help you understand why your mother reacted as she
did.
JWD