bear in mind --i havent set foot inside a KH for more than 30 years---so my suggestion might not be the best--but it might work.
let the elders meet with you--with your husband as well if you both agree: then--tell them---
you have been badly hurt--stumbled--by hurtfull unfounded gossip in the congregation. BUT--you cant name names as its just hearsay and you cant prove who said it. In the meantime you just want to be left alone--to pray--meditate on the bible and the publications----and in due time--when you feel stronger--you will be in touch with them.
then--mark the date on your calendar---and see how long before they pester you again.