Hi Jon Preston, Are your feelings to DA yourself inluenced by the WTBTS's indoctrination (i.e., phobias)?
If you need reasons to miss meetings/FS, talk with your wife about getting additional education/training to provide a more secure financial future for your family. It has been over 120 years since Charles Taze Russell first predicted the Big A happening in 1877.
Also, if you feel comfortable studying the Bible with your wife, help your wife to critically think for herself by showing how the Pharisees and Sadducees used BITE control techniques to victimize Jews and how Jesus Christ felt about it. Let your wife connect the dots between how the Pharisees and Sadducees behaved and the WTBTS victimizes JWs. If you don't know what BITE control is, please watch the following video: Strategic Interactive Approach explained 2003 (1:23:23).
If you do not like sneaking around, I would recommend either buying a smart phone/tablet and enjoying coffee/pastries at a coffee shop with free WiFi.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert