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  Might Get to See My Grandchildren Today

  by mrquik in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my oldest daughter is still in the cult.

  i haven't seen my grandchildren in 5 yrs.

  my son-in-law's father died this week & the funeral is today.

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  ABibleStudent

  Live well . . . Enjoy life, mrquik. At least you are free of the WTBTS.

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  Robert
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  Overseer's wife accompanied my Elderette, to answer my question, "Who really is the faithful and discreet slave?"

  by Faithful Witness in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  as usual, i was unprepared for a "drop-in" visit by a jw.

  they seem to have a knack for coming when you're in the middle of something, or your house is a complete disaster... for me, both things are almost always true.

  it's better if you call me and warn me before you come over.

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  ABibleStudent

  Hi Faithful Witness, For someone who has not prepared much to overcome BITE control (and has low blood sugar) you did good.

  What did you learn from this experience? Did you learn that you must be more prepared? Did you learn that you either must have some excuse to make an appointment when they can come back, or to have something for you to boost your low blood sugar? Did you learn to always ask (in an inquiring tone of voice) where is that in the Bible and to ask more questions that lead the JW to trip over the WTBTS's logic and thought-stopping platitudes? Did you learn to forgive yourself for making mistakes with JWs who you don't know so that you are better prepared to help JW family and friends?

  Remember to be prepared and to control your emotions.

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  Robert
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  Need advice for asking a girl out

  by DuvanMuvan in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  well long story short, i've been meaning to ask this girl at school out for a while but i can never do it because her friends are always there in the way and i would prefer to ask her in person.

  we've liked each other for a while (i was oblivious until about a month or two ago) and i'm also i bit worried she'll get tired of waiting.. i was just wondering if anyone had any advice or something that they could give me.

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  ABibleStudent

  Congratulations on overcoming your fear DuvanMuvan! Remember how relieved you felt after asking that girl instead of continuing to worry about whether that girl liked you. Now what other girls do you like? Go ask them out.

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  Robert
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  Might Get to See My Grandchildren Today

  by mrquik in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my oldest daughter is still in the cult.

  i haven't seen my grandchildren in 5 yrs.

  my son-in-law's father died this week & the funeral is today.

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  ABibleStudent

  Best of wishes mrquik. If it helps you, think of going to a funeral as a celebration of a person's life and visiting with people who you have not seen in a while, and not an infomercial of the WTBTS.

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  Robert
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  Joining a Church and advice from co-workers!!!!!!!!!!

  by Jon Preston in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so im obviously out mentally....i havent da-ed but i cant care less!

  but.....my co workers are encouraging me to find and join a church.

  this person is particularly "wisdomonian" meaning she seems to solve and assist many an ailing indicidual in my field.

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  HI Jon Preston, If your coworker is referring to the Church of Christ of Latter Day Saints (Mormon), you would be leaving one dangerous cult for another.

  I would suggest going to several different churchs such as Luthern, Presbyterian, and Episcopalian, or just purchase a study Bible like an NIV Bible with commentary on every page by bible scholars who are listed by name at the begining of the book.

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  Robert
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  Update of course

  by Jon Preston in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so my wife is slowly waking up!

  but cognitive dissonance is thick indeed!

  my wife knows the gb are false in many ways but she still holds to the "theyre more right than others!

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  Hi Jon Preston, Have you thought about asking your wife what three things would make her distrust the WTBTS? Then, show her how to do her own research to critically think for herself.

  IMHO www.jwfacts.com would be a great starting point for WTBTS specific topics. Another would be watching one of Steve Hassan's videos on his website www.freedomofmind.com. You could start off gently by showing your wife How Big is the Phenomenon of Undue Influence? (2:01) or show her the video Strategic Interactive Approach explained 2003 (1:23:23) where Steve Hassan says that JWs are a dangerous cult.

  Best of wishes helping your wife to critically think for herself.

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  Robert
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  Need advice for asking a girl out

  by DuvanMuvan in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  well long story short, i've been meaning to ask this girl at school out for a while but i can never do it because her friends are always there in the way and i would prefer to ask her in person.

  we've liked each other for a while (i was oblivious until about a month or two ago) and i'm also i bit worried she'll get tired of waiting.. i was just wondering if anyone had any advice or something that they could give me.

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  HI DuvanMuvan, Walk up to her and non-chalantly ask if she will meet you for coffee or lunch today or tomorrow. (The timing is unimportant. Just provide two different times so that she doesn't automatically say that she is busy because she is.) Ask her for a date while you are having coffee or lunch together.

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  Robert
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  Mr. Pierce...Mr. Pierce...Mr. Pierce... Mr. Guy Pierce

  by confusedandalone in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  a few minuites ago talking to my sister who is finally seeing the watchtower for what it is and is scrutinizing it alot brought something to myu attention that troubled my longtime jw mother dearly.

  she said after reading the article about the death of guy pierce she noticed that they never refered to him as brother pirce.

  she said everytime they mentioned his name they refered to him as mr. pierce.. .

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  I apologize in advance to those with loved ones still stuck in the WTBTS. I hope that those left on the GB are less reasonable than Mr. Pierce, so that JWs may awaken quicker. I don't like wishing anything bad on people, but it seems that JWs are more likely to awaken the more the GB demands that JWs work harder and give more.

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  Robert
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  Photography and HDR

  by ILoveTTATT in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  as i have mentioned before, i love photography, and specially a technique called hdr.

  hdr stands for high dynamic range, and it means the ratio of the "lightness" of the lightest spot in the picture to the darkest.. .

  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/high-dynamic-range_imaging.

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  ABibleStudent

  Hi ILoveTTATT, I like the lake. Where is it and what is its name?

  I know enough about photography to always use a flash in sunlight to remove shadows on people's faces. I also use the automatic red-eye removal feature.

  I do like photos in black and white with a large f-stop and either the fore-ground or back-ground is out of focus and some filters are used.

  How do you display your photos? Do you print and mount them, or display them on revolving display screen?

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  Robert
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  Black sheep of the family-my life as an ExJW

  by bsand20 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was a 3rd generation jw, half the congregation i attended was made up of my entire mom's side of the family, 2 of the 3 elders were my grandpa and uncle.

  my first memory of the organization was when they announced my mom's name in the meeting saying she had been reinstated....it was 1988 and i was 6 years old....i didn't understand it then, but when i asked my mom why was she crying and why did they say her name in the meeting, she said "it's because i've been good!".

  so she went back and after a period of time assisting constantly, she was reinstated.

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  ABibleStudent

  Welcome bsand20, I'm sorry that JWs have treated you so poorly, so that they can reach a false promise of Paridise by the WTBTS. The best way to overcome the WTBTS's indoctrination of JWs is to live a successful and happy life free from coersion by the WTBTS.

  Instead of being angry, love your children and give them the childhood that you regret not having. Learn how to communicate better with your JW relatives by either reading books by cult exit counselors, like Steve Hassan's books (i.e., "Combatting Cult Mind Control", "Releasing the Bonds: Empowering People to Think for Themselves", and (his latest book) "Freedom of Mind: Helping Loved Ones Leave Controlling People, Cults and Beliefs") and/or visiting websites like www.freedomofmind.com and watching FREE videos. I feel that you might learn a lot from watching Steve Hassan's video Strategic Interactive Approach explained 2003 (1:23:23).

  Some things that you can do that will not raise a JW's cult persona are to:

  1. Send your Mom postcards/emails with lots of pictures of you and your family on fun vacations,
  2. Create a/update your FB page and include lots of pictures of you and your family having a lot of fun at birthday parties, christmas, on vacation, and enjoying life.
  3. Invite them to do fun activities with you where they will meet non-JWs, who they may share common interests.

  Have you thought about sending your mother a short note about how you love her unconditionally but you resent her pressuring you to be baptised at 13. You were not mature enough to make such a commitment. Now she feels that she must shun you for being baptised a JW to make you return to the WTBTS. You will never return to the WTBTS, so your Mom does not have to shun you so that you will return. You love her enough not talk about the WTBTS with her so that she can share happy moments with your family and be a loving grandma to your children.

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  Robert