Posts by letsslatejws

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Alot has Changed and I'm going BACK

by Butterflyleia85 in

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i bet people has forgotten me but thats ok because i know they have helped me a lot on here.. .

anyways i think the last time i been on here i mentioned my jw sister not going to my wedding.

for those that do remember my story, the wedding was beautiful on the beach in key west, fl!

letsslatejws

@ Butterfly, me & my hubby have faded since Oct 2009, this has resulted in many JW's ignoring us when they come across us in the territory, including my inlaws..

The problem we have is that an elder & his wife frequently visit us at our home to encourage us to come back to the meetings. They visit anything between 2 weeks to once a month to bring the latest WT / Awake. We hate having to pretend to be all down in the dumps and spiritually low'.... (We even took to hiding behind the wall between the hallway and the lounge!) Fading is hard. If you arent seen to be making progress then one way or another someone gets to know ... The inlaws dont know for sure that weve stopped going to the meetings, (because we are not in the same district ie: were at least 12 miles away) but all the same the family are shunning us ~ so I do feel that your attempts to get re-instated, so as to fade are a fools errand....

I wish there was an easier way for you to get your family back, but there isnt. You need to remember this is not your fault, but that of the WBTS because of their CULT teachings.

Your husband deserves better than to be dragged into leading a double life. Your potential children dont need to lead this double life either. Are your children going to have to spend their days not celebrating birthdays or Xmas just so they can live life under the radar too....?

I pray that you think this through, because this last year has been a very rough ride for my 4 children who are aged 9 yrs, 11 yrs, 13 yrs & 16 yrs... it has been incredibly hard living below the radar. They know as we do that they have been in a CULT & now want to be completely free to participate in Xmas and birthdays etc without having to constantly watch over their shoulders....

As much as you love your family you need to start looking after you and your hubby... no going back. You just cant put your fingers in the fire and not expect to get burnt, because you will.

Wishing you well - Big hugs from me and my hubby who is newly on here as the Hairhegoat xxxxx

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Friends....

by letsslatejws in

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i have 2 worldly friends and 1 faded jw.. loads of aquaintences but that is my lot.

this makes me feel bitter (because ive led a sheltered life!

how have the rest of you faired?.

letsslatejws

I have 2 worldly friends and 1 faded JW.. Loads of aquaintences but that is my lot. This makes me feel bitter (because Ive led a sheltered life!) ...

How have the rest of you faired?

Me & my hubby have an invite to a party at a random persons house we barely know, as much as I'd like to go, it scares the crap out of me? Would you go ?

We feel like 2 fish out of water !

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New Little Miss Neal arrives...

by garyneal in

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my wife and i became proud parents to a 7 pound 2 ounce baby girl on september 16, 2010 at 4:50 a.m. est..

letsslatejws

Ah how lovely. ~CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU BOTH~

xx

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if you only knew (1st Post here)

by lil.lady.03 in

i've been in pain too long.

i have this whole entry i want to post but i don't know if it is too long to read.

i'll post it in parts.

letsslatejws

Fade & fade fast.

I woke up to the fact that the WBTS was not the truth just under a year ago now. I soon came to compare my life to that of someone being in a drug induced coma. Whilst going to the meetings it was like I was constantly recieving an anaesthetic. This anaesthetic was because of mind control. The WT and book studies are used to mind control (brainwash!) everyone into believing what they are hearing is correct. Since no one is allowed to question what they hear then they are forced to accept what they hear is the 'truth' & not a lie as it comes from the (most honorable) Faithful & Discreet Slave....

When I stopped going the meetings I was able to look back in like a fly on the wall and I soon started to wake up. It quickly became clear that the Slave Class hadnt actually been as discreet as they should have and that the so called Light that was getting brighter & brighter was just a ploy/scape goat to cover up that they were actually the False Prophet.

Prophesy after prophesy has been changed (even though they are recieving super spiritual Holy Spirit direction straight from the horses mouth). This alone made me see them for what they are.

I agree you need to read the book Crisis of Conscience written by Ray Franz, an Ex Governing Body member. This will free you from all your mental torment and help you to quickly break off all the chains that have been tied around you for years....

Welcome to this site. Really hope that you continue to wake up & finally escape permanently....

Im a 40 year old mom of 4 Junior/ teenage children. I was not born in to JWdom, but was one for 21 years. My husband 43 years (JW since he was 2yrs old). He too has escaped, so we all have freedom like never before ...

Thinking of you. All our love xxx

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Do more born ins leave the Org rather than those who converted?

by Little Imp in

my husband was brought up in the faith since around the age of three years old.. he stopped believing their crap when he was a teenager and indeed didn't attend for many years.

however, even though he moved over 100 miles away from his parents his mother visited him and got the local congregation to put pressure on him.

she also telephoned and wrote to him regularly to make sure he attended.. his parents in the past have been treated very badly by the jws (long story) but they are still in the thick of it despite being in their eighties.. my husband thinks that because his mother converted she could never admit that she is wrong and for this reason will not stop attending.. just wondered what others thought on the subject?.

letsslatejws

I was a convert. It took me 23 years to wake up & finally escape. Hubby was technically a born in (as he was 2 when he became one) and was one for 43 years. He always thought something was up with them, but due to fear it never occurred to him to seriously question what he knew. Once he did, everything fell into place & we all ditched !!!!

From my experiences everyone that I know of who converted are still active JW's. All the teens and others who were brought up JW's have long since ditched.... There only the odd few who are super holier than now that are still there. (More fool them!)

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How can they look at babies........

by jambon1 in

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............and really believe that it is right that god will destroy them soon?.

a baby is a beutiful, innocent vulnerable little human being.

how can they really believe that it is right and just that god destroys millions of babies and children?.

letsslatejws

QUOTE ....but then God will ressurect all the miscarriages, still borns etc... even if their mothers have been destoryed at armageddon?.....
From my memory JW's dont think miscarried babies or still borns would be resurrected because non of them would be breathers...
Either way only a heartless God would go killing babies at an Armaggedon, just because their mothers/fathers arent believers....

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Are You Afraid Of Death?

by minimus in

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when we were jws we were told that death is an enemy but if we were faithful to jehovah, we would be alive always in his eyes.

death wasn't something to be feared.

we were only "sleeping".. do you fear death at this point in your life?

letsslatejws

Very Scared. In fact too scared, its immobilising my life, giving me panick attacks and wrecking my sleep patterns.... Half the time I feel like Im going to have a heart attack and then Im even more scared.

Hate it, Can't face it, but have no choice but to....

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ex-jw-uk

by bigmac in

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i'm quite new to this site, & have realised some members have a union jack symbol under their avatar.

i don't.. could we have a "show of hands" from any uk members?

i've already found several by reading older posts..

letsslatejws

@ Hotspur - Your meet with bigmac will probably be at the local mcdonalds with his mrs in toe - Me & my family met them last week for a good old natter. Ironic is the Mcdonalds is in the grounds of their local Kingdom Hall.... Close enough to fling those vile gurkins....

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Top 5 Flawed Teachings

by MrFreeze in

this is for all of you out there who post wells of information on the doctrines of jw's.

let's say you had to present your top 5 arguments for why jw's are not the true religion, which five would you choose?

i'd like to hear all of your thoughts.

letsslatejws

My contribution to one of the Top Five erronous doctrines would stem from the information found on this link devised by freeminds:

http://freeminds.org/images/articles/generationjw.jpg

You can double click upon the image to enlarge it.
It is a printable A4 sheet which can be printed off and given to any JW who you may come across.
The information itself speaks volumes...
In one Foul Swoop, It clearly shows the Faithful & Discreet Slave to be the False Prophet.

How one scripture could be mis-interpretted soo many times over such a lengthy period as time as this is unforgiveable...

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Top 5 Flawed Teachings

by MrFreeze in

this is for all of you out there who post wells of information on the doctrines of jw's.

let's say you had to present your top 5 arguments for why jw's are not the true religion, which five would you choose?

i'd like to hear all of your thoughts.