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  no more lurking...hello eveyone

  by Evidently Apostate in

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  about a year ago i went through a mild meltdown.

  it hit me fast i had panic attacks and became angry with all the control in my life.

  (being a jw) i had just found out i was being screwed on a real estate development project by another self righteous jw i have known for a long time but this was a big loss (about 4 months pay plus expenses).

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  "...the times we are living in..."

  by bez in

  1. watchtower
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  so, just had one of our 'elders' ring to see how we are getting on and if we need any help etc.. when my hubby was honest and said we were ok and that we had decided to just move on with our lives and our family right now and concentrate on that and nothing else, but thanked him for their interest and care over last few months.... he replied by saying, ok, he would let the body of elders know this???

  ?, and he also reminded him to not forget "the times we are living in".... my husband told me the conversation after coming off the phone and now i feel, after being on a high the last couple of weeks (despite coming off my anti-d's cold turkey, drs orders) , i feel now actually really crap, quite scared and once again like i am making a bad decision for my kids... what is wrong with me!!!.

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  How do you handle the wickedness going on today?

  by stillin9 in

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  we know in the jw realm, satan is believed to be the main cause of all the wickedness going on in our world today.

  after taking a quick look at news headlines, and seeing the crap going on around us, i personally don't find that so hard to believe.

  but i wanted to see how you guys handle the tragedies and wickedness going on around us?

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  Intro...boring newbie alert!

  by Quando in

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  hello wonderful people,.

  i am a long time lurker and still two footed.

  i stay in for family reasons, i really do make a terrible witness only going to 50% of the meetings in a good month.

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  Excuses, Excuses, Excuses.......................About Jehovah

  by Crisis of Conscience in

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  i've had some people in the congregation lately try to give me pep talks to encourage me not to give up.. when i mention (not to everyone of course) some of the things that bother me about the org, many times they can't come up with a legitimate answer so they make up an excuse.. for example, i mention the double standards that i saw at bethel as well as the lack of love in certain brothers.

  i get a blank stare and then an, "oh, that's because jehovah allows imperfect in the org.

  but he'll clear things up when it's time.".

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  'Do not forsake the gathering of yourselves together...'

  by bez in

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  just wondering what some of your opinions are on this scripture???

  its one that has been thrown at me time and time again when i talk of my decision to leave the 'organization of god'.

  as i would not be gathering together with his people and therefore forsaking the gathering of myself together..... (if ya get me!)..

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  Bethel Rules

  by brotherdan in

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  this was brought up just in passing on another thread.

  but i wanted to see if there are any bethelites or ex bethelites that remember some of the crazy rules we had to follow when we were there..

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  Where now?

  by bez in

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  its been a long time coming but i kinda think im finally at the point of no return....... right or wrong, i have spoken to my 'friends' about my new feelings and the fact i no longer believe that this is gods chosen people etc etc... and have already been told that if i was to now celebrate my childs birthdays , her 'truth' friends would not be able to come to sleep again and associate with her... (she is 7).

  this is despite the fact they are allowed to play with there non witness friends who live down the road....why??

  the explanation is that their daughter would perhaps feel it is ok to do this when it is not... i ask why could they not just simply explain it is not our family's belief anymore (as my husband is with me on my decision), and my response is that it would be difficult to do that as we once were witnesses and now are not so it would confuse her daughter and make her think its ok to do these things now... .

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  New elders' manual - a few more details

  by sir82 in

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  per a recent boe letter:.

  -- new manual will be softcover.

  -- elders can keep their old elder manual if they choose.

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  Don't leave, its God's organization....

  by dissed in

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  recently, i've been seeing this argument displayed here more frequently by those still believing jw's.. usually in reply to arguments they can not answer well, like 1914, generation(s), etc.... its almost like, they are are having serious doubts as well, but their fall back is, "but its god organization....where else would you go......don't leave, we are so close to the end".

  as one recently shared their experience with a jc.

  the elders, when feeling trapped on explanations, fell back to this defense.

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