Posts by mamalove

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What Are You Passionate About?

by minimus in

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what's your passion?.

some people are very intense when it comes to politics, religion, jws, sex, love, the arts, music and almost anything that could get them revved up..

mamalove

My Kids

Finding a new job

Finishing my degree

Wine

Cooking

Decorating

Fantastic shoes and clothes (shallow I know...)

Some music

Gardening

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Are you a fader, Df'd, DA'd, or Still In?

by brotherdan in

i thought this would be an interesting poll that would show everyone the backgrounds of all of us when we left, if we have.. for myself, i am not df'd, but i am attempting a fade.

i still go to some meetings with the wife to help with kids, but that's it.

no commenting or field service.. what about everyone else?.

mamalove

I walked away officially summer of 2009. No announcements have been made.

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Test Yourself. How much are you a JW ....

by sleepingbeauty in

are you a jw or if you were one do you still have any jw traits left?

take this quiz to see... .

http://www.thebentinel.com/jw-quiz.php.

Did having a Bethelite travel to your congregation and deliver a talk motivate, encourage, or excite you?

by miseryloveselders in

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i ask this, because i just got wind that at my hall, we're paying the travel expenses for a bethelite to come and do our memorial talk.

i don't know how much this is going to run us, but i fail to see the practicality of it.

he's not delivering a special memorial outline or anything.

mamalove

Nope, they were all run of the mill JW talks. Nothing I can remember stands out.

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Latest Big Love reaction at the undercover house...

by undercover in

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so i dvrd the last couple of episodes of big love.

wasn't able to watch them at first broadcast the last couple of weeks.. we've watched this series from it's start and haven't missed an episode.

as the cultishness of the compound and even bill's family became more central to the story...and the off-hand criticisms of the 'real' mormon church are leveled, i sense mild anxiety at times while watching the show.

mamalove

Wow, that sounds like you really have done well. I think I have looked at your story before and I thought you were having trouble with getting her to retreat and then you had to go back, but I must be thinking of someone else.

Your wife sounds alot like me except I was fine with doing all of the forbidden JW things and never looked back. But I like working and trying to advance my career, travel for work once in a while and the social stuff is very fun and enjoyable too. She sounds like she will be ok eventaully.

Does she ever get mad at you to never have anything to do with it and attempts to go back? Does she feel guilty for not going?

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Is it just human nature to gossip or are JW's worse? Feelings are hurt....

by mamalove in

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it is so strange how once you distance yourself from your kingdom hall and friends, that they find it necesary to discuss and contemplate your departure and put out all kinds of statements that simply are not true.. i am licking my wounds today because some kind of nasty things were said about me to a friend of mine who is df, from her ubber righteous sister.

it was via text, so it was there to read.

the thing i can't figure out is i have nothing to do with this woman.

mamalove

Thank you. I do feel better today. It totally ruined my night which had some fun potential. I feel like a walking zombie though from the lack of sleep!!

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Latest Big Love reaction at the undercover house...

by undercover in

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friends

so i dvrd the last couple of episodes of big love.

wasn't able to watch them at first broadcast the last couple of weeks.. we've watched this series from it's start and haven't missed an episode.

as the cultishness of the compound and even bill's family became more central to the story...and the off-hand criticisms of the 'real' mormon church are leveled, i sense mild anxiety at times while watching the show.

mamalove

Reading about Mormon esacape's was what enlightened me. When people at the KH found out I was reading a certain book about it, I was told not to read it because it would weaken my faith. It is obviously well known there are similarities. I hope she continues to watch and doesn't push away.

Can I ask how you have been working at getting her away from a JW lifestyle?

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Is it just human nature to gossip or are JW's worse? Feelings are hurt....

by mamalove in

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friends

it is so strange how once you distance yourself from your kingdom hall and friends, that they find it necesary to discuss and contemplate your departure and put out all kinds of statements that simply are not true.. i am licking my wounds today because some kind of nasty things were said about me to a friend of mine who is df, from her ubber righteous sister.

it was via text, so it was there to read.

the thing i can't figure out is i have nothing to do with this woman.

mamalove

It is so strange how once you distance yourself from your kingdom hall and friends, that they find it necesary to discuss and contemplate your departure and put out all kinds of statements that simply are not true.

I am licking my wounds today because some kind of nasty things were said about me to a friend of mine who is DF, from her ubber righteous sister. It was via text, so it was there to read. The thing I can't figure out is I have nothing to do with this woman. I was not friends with her, and she made comments that I was "bad news" and that I blame Jehovah for things. Where is she geting this from? Even you all have read my comments and I rarely speak about "Jehovah" in general. She said it is not Jehovah's fault I married an idiot.... I am just perplexed where she got this from!

So I believe my DF friend and I were the topic of discussion at a recent superbowl party where lots of shall we say "pretenders" were present. You know, the ones that are considered weak, but stay in for social reasons and because they are weak thinkers and just do the minimum or to please others.

I know I should not let it bother me, but I am not a robot, and dammit my feelings were hurt being called bad news. I have never spread any seeds of doubt or tried to pull other JW's away from their lies. I guess it could have been alot worse. It just stung. I need to get a thicker skin. Thanks for letting me vent!

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If hindsight was 20/20, would you have done the same things given the chance to change?

by sinis in

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in respects to the dubs.

what kind of things did you miss out on, accomplish?

for me, i probably would because now i'm free and while in i met my wonderful wife (who is also free) of 18 years.

mamalove

I think I would have been a bit more outspoken about things that bothered me when I quit attending meetings. People ASSumed things that were untrue and could not fathom that I didn't care for the religion being a born in and all. I would have liked to explain a little bit. But I cannot undo what the past was, only move forward.

But the early years yes, finish college, which I am trying to do now. Not shun my one side of the family like I did.

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As an Ex-JW (or whatever you are) Tell Us Your Core Hope / Dream / Wish

by OnTheWayOut in

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what i ask is for some specifics.

it helps to say it, type it, get it off your chest.

read mine and maybe you will have a good idea what i mean.. i hope that i get my wife out of the jw's by all of the positive reinforcement i have given her to be an independent thinker.

mamalove

Make sure that my kids come out of this exit unscathed and normal. Their happiness and success is huge in the scheme of things in doing the "exit."

Finish my degree

Hopefully come to some kind of happy medium with my JW sis and mom

Make a little more (or alot) of money (hey it never hurts, right?!)

Be content, happy, fulfilled in a loving relationship

Maybe have more children if the circumstances were right