If you are being shunned, do you ever feel out of obligation that you should be the bigger person and check in on parents or siblings who are still JW's and have nothing to do with you? I have reached out to my sibling and get zero back. It hurts, and I am angry about it, yet from time to time I still feel a tenderness in my heart and let it be known that the love and care and concern is there. I am numb inside towards my mother. She has burned me so badly that I truthfully feel that I will never feel the same way about her ever again. But I do feel pangs of concern because she is getting older, and who knows when her health could turn. Out of pure moral obligation I sometimes imagine contacting her and letting her know something....but what? What do I want to say? That I love her? I have no desire to open up a can of worms.
mamalove
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Do you feel moved or obligated to check in on JW family?
by mamalove inif you are being shunned, do you ever feel out of obligation that you should be the bigger person and check in on parents or siblings who are still jw's and have nothing to do with you?
i have reached out to my sibling and get zero back.
it hurts, and i am angry about it, yet from time to time i still feel a tenderness in my heart and let it be known that the love and care and concern is there.
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A question for the ladies
by I quit! ini'm wondering if all women are like this.
my wife is always saying she doesn't have any shoes to go with this or that.
right now we're getting ready to go on vacation.
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mamalove
It depends what pants or skirt or shorts that you are trying to match. That's why!
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JW obsession....
by light_bulb inhi i'm new here.. i've been dfed for almost 2 years.
despite the usual familly problems that i have had to deal with, i found i was living life successfully... so happy to be out in the world, experiencing new things and just enjoying the freedom to be me.
i never really have too much time to worry too much about what i have left behind.
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mamalove
I know how you feel. I am very open about it with friends if it comes up in conversation. It is normal to process new conclusions however you need to. Your brain is thirsty for definition, explanation and experiences of others. I know how you feel about the shunning. It is greatly upsetting that family can write you off so easily. It does get easier with time. My respect for them is so low that things will never be normal unless they came out of the org. Hang in there and do what you need to do to process and grieve your past.
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I just can't do this anymore
by Awen indear friends:.
for years now after my exit from the wtbts i have searched for god.
as i have previously mentioned in other threads i looked into many other religions, including druidry, zen and tibetan buddhism (not really a religion), asatru, native american shamanism, kemetic orthodoxy, gnosticism and pandeism.
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mamalove
There is a certain humility in saying "I don't know." I think it is appropriate considering how small we are in the universe. At least you gave it a thorough chance in research. Perhaps something will come along later and evolve your thinking, but as long as you are a kind hearted person, who treats others with dignity, and respect, that is a great start.
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AWESOME coincidence today in college!
by TimothyT inlast week was my first week in college on my new counselling course.
last year i decided i wanted to join a course which would help me to understand my own sufferings and try to help others to do the same.
we introduced ourselves to our class mates and i made it very clear to them all that i am gay and i was kicked out of the jehovahs witnesses and now im much happier.
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mamalove
That gave me chills. Good for you! What a cool story!
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I think time travel is possible...
by AGuest in(fluff thread).... no, seriously, though (may you all have peace!)...
there are times when, within seconds after submitting a post, someone posts a response to it.
now, that isn't unusual in and of itself; however, my posts can be quite long sometimes.
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mamalove
I don't think it is possible because of the Earth's rotation. But if it was, I would go back in time and not eat those three peanut butter cookies after dinner.
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Could the JW's survive another 1975?
by i_drank_the_wine inthe only years that i'm aware of in recent history that the jw's lost numbers was after the 1975 debacle.
someone posted on another thread about the damage control they're doing with the new "generation" nonsense with an assembly part where one person explains the "new light" to another that isn't too sure of it.. if they're having to do damage control like this over something relatively minor in comparison to 1975 (just some more "new light" as always), how do you think they would hold up under another 1975-level "oopsy"?
people seem to get less and less willing to be locked into religious systems that just don't conform with the modern world as it is.. if the internet was around, how many more people do you think would have google'd "jehovahs witnesses" at some point in 1976, perhaps while alone on the computer after the world didn't end?
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mamalove
As time goes on, the numbers will dwindle. I believe the information gathered points to the fact that more born ins leave than stay for the balance of their lives. My opinion is that the numbers will eventually get lower regardless of rogue teachings. Most are no in for the teachings. It is a way of life. Network of friends.
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mamalove
I don't get the babbling response from their explosion of holy spirit. Why the babble? If god wanted us to have holy spirit like that wouldn't he want us to sound a little more believable?
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How many of you haven't fared too well since your exit?
by i_drank_the_wine ini know that i've had a hard time piecing things back together after losing my wife and family a couple years ago and haven't really gotten the ball rolling to say the least.
just curious to hear if anyone else is in the same boat, or was in the same boat and how long it took them to get a "new life" figured out and going..
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mamalove
Hang in there please! It will get better, but you have to make an effort. Try to make new friends, get a social life. Get passionate about something. Do things that you would not do by yourself, like take a good book and treat yourself to a nice glass of (real) wine and a great meal. Are you divorced? If so, try dating. Do some home improvement projects. I seemed to be in a depressed hole that I realize was my months of releasing the brain wash. It lasted about 6 months and then I felt very happy.
Sometimes I get angry about things and come back here and read and vent. But overall I know without a doubt losing half my family and all of my friends was one of the smartest things I ever did. What I gained is not measurable. I have my life to live as my own, and I am truly my authentic self.
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Special day Last talk "No formula"
by MommieTiger inthis weekend at our special assembly day, let gods will take place the final talk was a head shaker.... the bethel speaker was quite entertaining when he joked @ the shortcomings of the elders.
he also made us laugh with the comment "we were told the end of the system is right around the corner, but we've found its been more than that, we've been around the blocks a few times.
" he told the young ones to make the truth their own by researching in the wtbts publication (only).
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mamalove
Thanks for the report. So do you think you will be back?