It is best to marry someone who you have a connection with, have fun with, above all respect, and of course love and adore. The WT stuff is their own rhetoric and should be disregarded.
mamalove
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"Marry only in the Lord", along with other verses, Jehovah's commands, or Paul's advice?
by miseryloveselders inwt june 1, 2004 pages 22-23. do your circumstances control your life?
i typed the first part and the last part of the paragraph in question so as to avoid the filler.. we too may face situations for which we could be tempted to seek unscriptural solutions.
for example, are you discouraged because you have no yet found a suitable marriage mate?
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About Therapy/Counseling
by Mad Sweeney inif it becomes obvious to strangers on an internet message board that you should get therapy/counseling:.
my wife and i are in therapy both separately and together.
we're not crazy; we're getting help talking through issues we've never had to face before from a professional who knows how to talk us through things.
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mamalove
Therapy is great. It does help. They are professinals and I have always been amazed at how they can help put things in perspective, etc.
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Not dated in a while - could use some tips, advice lol
by callitquits76 ini guess the title says it all, but i'll expand.. recently met this beautiful girl who through another party expressed her interest in me which was quite flattering to be honest.
im a 27 year old guy and truth is that i have really struggled with this kind of stuff since leaving the dubs a few years back now.
i guess i still have their theories floating around in my head, you know, all the old rubbish about dating some of which goes back to that youth book.. we spoke today for the first time properly and i think it's game on.
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mamalove
Dating can be fun. Nothing is more attractive than a person with confidence. Just be kind, ask her questions about herself, try to make good conversation, think of topics beforehand. Don't bring up the JW thing right away, but if it progresses, tell her, be totally honest. She won't freak out or anything. Non JW people really don't understand how hokey the whole thing really is.
As far as the other stuff referenced in this thread. A kiss on the lips or cheek is cool on the first date. Don't stick your tongue down her throat unless she does to you. Just be respectful, delicate and pick up on her ques. She is no black spider, she is just attracted to you and you to her, and that is how mother nature works. So just go with it! :)
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I've been outed...
by brotherdan inso this weekend my wife had a major grand mal seizure for the first time in her life.
she was rushed to the er.
a few hours later while i was at her side she had another major one.. it was the scariest moment in my life.
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mamalove
I am sorry that happened. It is very rare that people have seizures from emotional trauma, however it is possible. There was a sister at my old KH that had them. She was pretty kooky and no one really knew the real reasons behind them. Your wife, did she get an MRI? Is she on new medication, such as anti-depressants? You have said she has done some pretty bad things lately herself, do you think that is stressing her out?
Dan, you are ALLOWED to have your own thoughts, ya know. Your own ideas....the concept of holding another person's freedom of thought hostage on the basis of fear of life change is barbaric. Not human.
Thinking of you my friend!
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Is Being In A "Relationship" Important To You?
by minimus ini am referring to a personal/sexual relationship with someone, perhaps, that you could possibly love.. i know a lot of people who are very content to date, possibly have sex and look for another partner..
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mamalove
Yeah I guess it is. Being single get's lonely, and having a partner in life to talk to, have fun with, etc. makes life more enjoyable.
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mamalove
I haven't been on that much, but I have not seen any brawls. Normal stuff, everyone has been pretty nice from what I have seen, and no good-bye posts that are sincere either. I guess Satan isn't working hard enough on this group.
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So my dad called today...
by DanaBug inwe had a tornado watch today.
my dad called to check on us and tell us they had what he thought was a tornado near their house.
the tops of some trees went missing.
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mamalove
Maybe someday something will! I keep hope up too.
I am not DF'd. Although I surely could be for my views and holiday celebrations, etc.
Sigh...I am sorry for you and your sis. I am so tired of this religion and what it causes!
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Here i am....
by makersmark inhere i am - born in truth, hard-core spiritual everything all my life, early reg.pioneer, ms, elder, assembly parts, tour at bethel, etc, married now...... i'm trying to examine jw teachings a little closer...... i've spent the last two weeks reading many many posts, info , references on where ex-jw's are coming from.
i'm kind of concerned about a few things lately..... honestly - some points make sense to me - some don't - here are my general thoughts:.
-wt getting un membership for access to library - doesnt bother me - some passports and other governement documents have similar forms and requirements..... -blood issue - some counterpoints to the jw 'rules' makes sense (original intent of scripture is unbled animals, white blood cells similar in mothers milk) etc -however a lot of 'apostate' reasonings and proof are inaccurate.
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mamalove
Hi and Welcome! It is very exciting to know that "strong" JW's are still open minded enough to question things that seem iffy to them. I say that because, like myself, many of us are estranged from our families because we believe the religion is not the truth, so we can't be a real family now....posts like yours give me hope!
You got a load of awesome, thought provoking posts to read through. The amount of research put into every single point listed is astounding. Proof, records, photos of real books, etc. One poster traveled for his job, so he went to numerous libraries, documented it, and took photo's of dozens of books showing the fall in 587 not 607. It was there in black and white, pretty powerful. The whole 1914 thing for me shoots down the theory of the GB being the channel to holy spirit. So if they are not the channel, then surely things published can be questioned.
One thing that got my ball rolling in 2006 was reading a book about the FLDS (Mormon sect). The paralles to JW's struck me.
Sure there are some ok things about JW's, also about Presbitarian's, Methodists, Catholics, etc. They are all religions that try to teach a good message. Are any of them the way to eternal life? Are any perfect? No. If God wanted me to follow something, I think he would make it loud and clear.
Life is a journey, best to you on your path.
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So my dad called today...
by DanaBug inwe had a tornado watch today.
my dad called to check on us and tell us they had what he thought was a tornado near their house.
the tops of some trees went missing.
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mamalove
At least he called. He probably was concerned, and deep down just brainwashed. That is shocking to me about the grand kids! How cruel and cold. My mom told my 7 year old this weekend that she will never, ever talk to me again unless I come back to meetings.
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Does anyone out there understand how i feel?
by TimothyT inmy name is tim, im 23, from the uk, and im currently a jw!.
ok... to cut a long story short... i love serving jehovah but ive begun now to embrace my sexuality as a gay man.. although im still attending the meetings, praying to jehovah and trying my hardest, i can no longer lie to myself about my sexuality.. i have had enough of feeling depressed and confused now - its killing me!!!.
does anyone else know what i feel like?
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mamalove
So do you want to stay a JW, and try to remain quiet about your sexuality? Or do you want to be your authentic self and distance yourself from the religion. Because you cannot do both.
You are so young, find out the truth about the religion and then see how you feel. This site has excellent information! Best to you!