Gee, I totally see this as a lightening up. It directs the parents to "give a little bit" while still limiting (basically, don't talk religion, and don't see them every day) so the children want to return. The policy was pretty extreme already, and I think this loosens things a little. I agree that it already is not being enforced everywhere. I know of an elder whose daughter was recently disfellowshipped who immediately stepped aside, telling the other members of the BOE that if his little girl needs him, he will be there for her. He tells other people too, so lots of us here in the congregation know. No body thinks anything about it, and most of us completely agree. He has been an elder for over 35 years, and everyone respects his opinion.
So, you elders on this board, don't think the congregation isn't paying attention as you make small changes and comments. They do, and it changes the way the R&F feel about things. Your example in this regard is very meaningful.