Posts by GrandmaJones

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My Story Part I - My Parents

by Farkel in

part 1 - my parents.

it's a funny thing, time.

notwithstanding einstein's relativity, time means vastly different things throughout life.

GrandmaJones

It felt like I could hear the boy inside you, so well did you explain.

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"Just when I thought I was out, they pull me back in."- Michael Corleone in Godfather III. Sorta reminds me of my life.

by miseryloveselders in

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most of you recognize that line from the godfather iii, which wasn't the greatest film in my opinion, but that line was classic.

it perfectly depicts my life as it stands now.

i'm at a crossroads in life, and my heart is being tugged in different directions.

GrandmaJones

This is certainly very absorbing. Not what I expected. I have somehow pictured you as shy...

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Elder wants to do "other activities" with me

by InterestedOne in

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i'm fully aware that this is a cult, and i was waiting for the social elements to kick in.

so far, i have just been doing the "bible study," discussing doctrine, etc.

however, recently one of the elders said he wants to get together with me to do other activities.

at this very moment one year ago today my dh and i were in an "interview" with 2 elders in regards to a night out in late november 2009. that "interview" turned into my judicial committee with a 3rd elder who just happened to be at the hall that night........because of admitting to having been drunk on occassion over the years with the most recent being 2 years prior.

the "interview/impromtu judicial committee lasted almost 3 hours as they tried to convince me that i had stabbed jah and asked what i was going to do to correct my drinking habits.

i am not a huge drinker......just like to drink socially with friends once in a while.

GrandmaJones

Don't you feel now they did you a favor? Aren't you glad to be out?

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I'm addicted to this site

by Found Sheep in

by far not the most known here, i'm not the funniest, i don't reseach the new jw stuff or have much to say.

but, i'm reading this all the time.

i write when i think i have something to say.

GrandmaJones

Oh, yes I am addicted as well. I am seriously trying to wean myself little by little. I am spending entirely too much time here. I can't help myself.

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I am no longer an Unbaptised Publisher

by XPeterX in

just like that.

GrandmaJones

I hope this takes the pressure off you emotionally. Do you feel free now?

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I thought it wasnt bothering me. But it is.

by mamalove in

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do you ever feel that way about your jw past?

maybe i need more time?

i know that it is a lie.

GrandmaJones

Yes, and I will be heartbroken when my son and daughter-in-law shun me...

What a truly terrible policy. How unnatural.

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delema... thoughts of not deprograming son

by Aussie Oz in

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this might sound a little strange but i hope some of you might understand.. my 17 year old boy is hot and heavy with his jw girlfriend.

he told me the other day that they had talked about getting married an two or three years, how they want to travel the world before having kids etc.

i asked him where getting baptised fitted into this, as they will need to be baptised if they want a kh wedding.

GrandmaJones

I did just go back and look at your older posts about your son, and it appears he just is turned seventeen right? Perhaps you should just let the whole thing blow over. He can't take any action yet anyway, right?

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delema... thoughts of not deprograming son

by Aussie Oz in

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this might sound a little strange but i hope some of you might understand.. my 17 year old boy is hot and heavy with his jw girlfriend.

he told me the other day that they had talked about getting married an two or three years, how they want to travel the world before having kids etc.

i asked him where getting baptised fitted into this, as they will need to be baptised if they want a kh wedding.

GrandmaJones

It's the sex, of course. Even "worldly" kids don't think seriously about getting married that young. JW kids feel they have to marry to have it. A parent sound like a satyr to suggest anything else, I suppose.

I don't know all your personal circumstances, and what risks you assume in being straightforward with him. One thing I would mention though, is the danger that should he marry a JW girl, then his odds of staying in increase a lot. Yes, 50% of marriages end in divorce, but don't forget that 50% of them DON'T end in divorce. You are risking the lives of your grandchildren as well.

I was a born in who left before baptism, stayed out for 16 years, and then got all invigorated because I resumed bible study with a sister that I liked. This was followed by thirty years in "the truth" most of which I was vigorously active. I raised my kids in it, and my one son and daughter-in-law have spent their entire lives in full time service and have not had children due to their zeal for the work. She is probably too old to change her mind now, and it grieves me to know that my ignorance is the cause of this situation. Most people who knew me during the sixteen years I was out would NEVER have thought there would be a day when I would be so IN! You just never know what the future will bring.

It is for this reason that my sister is going to discuss this with her own daughter, who is a "casual" JW. Who knows whether her grandson will be casual or zealous, wll attend or not attend college etc, or will marry someone like that? She feels that she must take the risk.

It is because I don't want my son and daughter-in-law to spend any more time in a work and life that is not for and to the purpose of truly serving god, not an organization that I intend to speak frankly with him. I gave most of my life to this. It has to stop here. My son is an elder, holding two of the top positions in the congregation, serves as the head of the hospital liason committee, is a full time pioneer, and a former bethelite, is active on the body of elders of the RBC committee in our state, and is a convention overseer. He is the golden boy of the circuit and district, and the darling of the CO and DO. Given that, I expect that I will be quickly disfellowshipped. I am going to do it anyway. He is my firstborn, my child whom I dearly love, (as much as all my others who will certainly leave) and I have to do this as his mother. I don't feel that I have a choice. It is a moral obligation as far as I am concerned.

All that being said, EVERYONE IS IN DIFFERENT CIRCUMSTANCES!!! These are only my own thoughts and opinions and are no better or worse than anyone else's. I only offer these as something to consider in making your decisions.

You have to do what you think is right in YOUR circumstances, given the personalities and inclinations of everyone involved.

The very best of luck to you. I hope you let us know what you decide, because I learn from the experiences of others, as we all do.

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KH closes without any sign or notice- why?

by moshe in

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i was in my old city in 2009 before i moved away i noticed a kh that i had helped build back in the early 70s was closed, with no sign or notice anywhere.

i looked in the windows and saw some discarded papers , folding chairs & light fixtures laying around.

i was surprised that they didn't have a sign like, we have moved to a new kh on 1313 mockingbird lane, call elder kumquat for directions and meeting times, etc.

GrandmaJones

Also, I would imagine that you would still need to own the property to keep signs notifying the public where you have moved...