Its quite possible that what you are missing is a support network, not a spiritual experience.
A good support network will likely provide the good habits, maybe even the singing and fellowship you desire.
As GoneAwol stated - its always the JW way or the highway. Don't let self-deception of longing for things you enjoyed deceive you from the the truth about the truth. Living a lie is not an easy thing to deal with, and comes at great emotional cost.