They usually can't...and they don't care. They're hanging on to their fascist dreamworld and don't want to face the realties of life.
To be able to throw the responsebility of their life unto the Org., the authority have to be unquestionable. "The Greater Good" is manitaining the picture of peace, unity and cleaness, where the elders stands as guardians that "protects" the picture and sort out all that challenges to the image.
Like all fascists, they really do not care about any of the "principles" or teachings they uphold. They care about living in "the good and trouble-free community", whatever that is. If there were a "Religion of the Year Contest", they would go out of their way to win it. THEIR community is the best, and nothing must challenge that.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gfj4LIg_riY&feature=player_detailpage
Sorry. Your wife will not listen, untill she is ready to break out of the safety of the picture she is living in. Things look SO much better, when looking into the magic mirror that changes nightmares into images of flowerfilled poetry. She needs to want to look away. The rest will come from there.