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  JWs Depression and Suicide

  by 00DAD in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  since jehovah's witnesses supposedly have "the truth" and are part of god's visible organization living in a "spiritual paradise" you would naturally expect that they should be the happiest people on earth!

  this clearly is not the case.

  wha happened?

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  There was a wonderful woman in my hall 15 years ago who took her life. Her children had recently moved out, and her husband was an MS or elder (can't remember). He was a super nice man too. He was the one who found her...heartbreaking.

  They had a funeral for her at the Kingdom Hall, and I remember the elder giving the talk said we're all friends here, but she died thinking she had none. That was the most real thing I heard off the stage. I think about her often. She had such beautiful children, and never got to see her grandchildren.

  I also had a friend growing up in the Hall who attempted suicide a few times. She had a horrible home life with an abusive father and the elders encouraged her Mom to stay with him. Thankfully her Mom eventually moved out, and they all have better lives without him in it. I detested when he would be asked to say a prayer at the meetings because I knew he was a horrible person.
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  Just seen "Ides of March"

  by hamsterbait in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  beautifully photographed -.

  the wench said she was drooling over george.

  the dialogue was soo taut.

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  This looks like a great film. I can't wait to see it! Lots of great actors in it.
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  Confused...

  by raxxxx in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

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  hiya and... i do not really know where to begin... currently a jw... slightly starting to fade... got a girlfriend baptised... i am baptised also... my head is a mess... i do not know what to believe anymore... never really fully trusted elders as it comes to 'leading the flock'... got burned a few times with their ... decisions etc.

  read a few articles in here about their alleged false beliefs... do not really know what to do... wondered if any of you felt like that at any point... when something that you trusted and followed most of your life... does not seem to be what you thought it was... .

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  Nice_Dream

  Hi raxxxx, I was in a similar place 2 years ago. I believed this religion 100%, it was all I knew for 26 years of life! I was afraid I was letting Satan fool me too, so I prayed to Jehovah daily to let me know if I was on the right path or not. I also read another Bible translation without the Watchtower goggles on and got a different perspective.

  Take your time, read, and pray. Your answer will come to you!

  Also, many people feel depressed when they are making huge life adjustments. You are questioning your belief system which is no small thing! I felt like my world shattered, and the foundation my life was built on was a lie. It takes time to rebuild your life, but it sounds like you're at a perfect age to start creating yours. All the best to you!
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  How many ex-JW's are musicians on here?

  by NoRegrets in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  just wondering how many of us on here are musicians, what we play, and if we had witness bands and/or performed.

  i have had quite a few funny moments of being in bands that wanted to be cool, but always had to nerf the edginess of any songs we played and watch the noise!

  i played with different elders who loved to rock out, but when they played at a congregation party didn't even want to use overdrive of any kind!

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  My Dad is an awesome musician! He plays guitar and bass. He loves classic rock, all the stuff JWs couldn't play. He'd be in bands with elders and other JWs and have to play really crummy country music that wasn't controversial. Now that he's not a JW, he's in a regular band and can play music he actually enjoys.

  My husband and I are both learning to play guitar...better late then never!
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  Halloween as a Jehovah's Witness Kid

  by Badfish in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  what was your experience like as a kid on halloween growing up in a jw family?.

  i was raised in a jw family but never got baptized.. my father used to make me and my sister put old awakes and watchtower's in the trick or treaters' bags.

  we would say: "i don't celebrate halloween but here's a treat for you!

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  I'm sorry your father made you do that. We just had to keep quiet and not turn on any lights. I remember celebrating Halloween before my parents became JWs and I missed dressing up and getting candy.

  This year I dressed up as a cat and am taking my little one trick or treating for the first time. We carved a pumpkin too. Being a JW is really a drag, it stifles creativity and individuality.

  Please don't be so hard on yourself. It's difficult feeling like you fit in when you've felt like an outcast for most of your life. Many people really aren't all that normal or have it all together like you might think.
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  Halloween

  by MrFreeze in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so, do any of you ex-jw's partake in any halloween celebrations?

  do you give candy to the trick-or-treaters?

  do you dress up and go to parties?.

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  The last time I celebrated Halloween I was 3! Now I have a three year old and it will be his first time trick or treating, carving pumpkins, and watching fireworks. He's going as a pirate, and I'll put on some cat ears.
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  Weird Avon Lady story?

  by Joliette in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  can someone tell me that i wasnt the only one who was told the story of this avon lady who died because she wasnt protected by angels??

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  I heard that story in Western Canada growing up. It made me feel safe on service...
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  Need your suggestions

  by angel.face in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  hey guys,.

  hoping to get your input.. i had a conversation with my dh recently and i asked him what would need to happen for him to question his belief system.

  he said that something unscripted needs to be taught by the society.. now there are many things i can bring up...i have heard you suggest not to argue with doctrine...but he is asking for it.

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  I had luck questioning the latest generation change. Which scripture was it based on?

  With the recent part on the CA I don't know if that would be successful or a red flag for your husband?
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  HOW DO YOU CONTINUE?

  by angel.face in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  lately i've been finding it more and more difficult to keep up a front.. .

  before i learned the tatt i was the mover and shaker of our family.

  i would study with the kids.

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  It is very hard to keep up a front. Once I learned the truth about the truth, I couldn't handle the meetings anymore and stopped going cold turkey. Fortunately my husband stopped going too, although he still believed it was "the truth." We were probably considered fringe witnesses, low service hours, no commenting, etc., but the elders came by every month for almost a year! We did our best to avoid them and not answer the door. Once they asked us if we still believed it was the truth and we said yes. After a year and a half they no longer stop by.

  To try and persuade my husband, I asked him to help me understand the latest generation change and what scripture it was based on. Then I asked him to help me figure out how to calculate 607, and he came up with a different date. He was very upset and refused to talk to me about our beliefs anymore. He also told me he would always be a JW. We argued for months about different doctrine, and then I backed off. After a year he finally told me he didn't believe it was the truth, and confessed he always had a hard time rationalizing science with the religion.

  If I could go back and change things, I wouldn't have come across too strong at the beginning, and I would have gone to a counselor earlier to help me process things and have support.

  Wishing you the best on this journey, PM me anytime if you like.
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  still trying to get my head cleared

  by beccaskids in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  hi, everyone my name is becky i've been in and out of the organization it wasnt untill 2 years ago i finally put a end to going at all and havent been back since.it was so hard cause i have family in it and was grown up with those thoughts and rules way of life i guess you call it.my head is still in confusion most of the time.i'm currently going to a baptist church and i love it just when witnesess are brought up it upsets me even though it shouldnt cause i'm no long going to it.i feel like i dont know who to believe anymore or what is even good to read anymore.i'm on facebook alot and see alot of things on there but dont know the right people to talk to on there either about it,so i found this here.i'm 33 years old and dont think i should be struggling with such a thing but wow it is hard to get out of your head.i like reading the bible but sometimes i dont understand what is being said which is why the watchtowers i thought helped me but im finding they didnt i guess,yep confused as ever...

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  Nice_Dream

  Hi Becky, welcome! I've been out for just over a year and am also still confused as ever. You're not alone! Sending you a PM.