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Did You See A Lot Of Drinking Among JW's???

by minimus in

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i did!

most jws that i know of love to drink.. interestingly, i noticed the heaviest drinkers were bethelites..

Nice_Dream

That's all they seemed to do. My worldly friends didn't drink in high school, but my JW friends and I did. Some of my parents friends seemed to have major drinking problems, but still pioneered and were elders. Our local needs talks were often about alcohol consumption.

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Memorial

by TOTH in

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the memorial is back and i know i am going to be harassed into taking my father in law to it.

i refused last year and i have every intention of not going this year too.

it is just so frustrating to me that he has a pioneer for a supposed wife who can take all the other sisters to doctor appointments and shopping and gets high praise for this by the congregation even as she neglects her sick husband.

Nice_Dream

Have they phoned you to arrange a pick up? I think it is rude of her to assume you will be available, considering you weren't planning on going to the Memorial. She needs to respect your boundaries and focus on the well being of her ill husband instead of her outward appearance. If she wants to pick up others, she could drop off her husband first so he isn't inconvenienced, or arrange a ride for him with someone else who was planning on going. You're not being an a-hole.

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Update on my son...

by diana netherton in

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friends

first of all, thank you everyone for your advice.

some of it was a bit harsh,.

but it made me scrutinize myself a bit more..but here is the outcome....and i .

Nice_Dream

Exciting news! What a great learning experience for your son.

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Tim Horton's

by Sic Semper Tyrannis in

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i have a question for my canadian friends here.

i go there often, and i see a tim hortons on pretty much every street, like mcdonalds is down here.

i've gone in to see what the fuss was all about, and all i saw were donuts and pastries i can find in every grocery store or gas station back home.

Nice_Dream

That's where the Dubs would meet after service. I love the honey cruller donuts and timbits.

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Soul Searching, need advice re: Physical Attraction

by Nice_Dream in

ok, so i was a young jw when i got married, and married a nice guy who was my first boyfriend.

i thought we had chemistry, but things weren't really working out in the sex department after we got married.

we had a pretty infrequent sex life for our whole realtionship...i'm talking months of dry spells.

Nice_Dream

Thank you for all the wonderful advice everyone. I'm not in OZ, or NZ, but that is interesting I sound similar to someone you know WOZ.

I guess another thing I question about our relationship, and have for the past 8 years, is that I don't feel we have an emotional connection. So that is something I need to figure out. He is a great guy and father, but I don't know anything about his feelings. But perhaps guys are just really closed off? He was more open when we were dating, and then seemed to have shut down as a person after that.

We've been trying to work on things now, and perhaps I'm just bitter because I wanted to work on things 6 years ago and wonder why he wants to fix things now that I'm apathetic. An honest discussion is definitely due, I just worry about his reaction, so perhaps it would be better to tell him at the counselors.

And thank you for the advice about attraction as well. I didn't sleep with that coworker, but I had never felt like that before and was confused.

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Soul Searching, need advice re: Physical Attraction

by Nice_Dream in

ok, so i was a young jw when i got married, and married a nice guy who was my first boyfriend.

i thought we had chemistry, but things weren't really working out in the sex department after we got married.

we had a pretty infrequent sex life for our whole realtionship...i'm talking months of dry spells.

Nice_Dream

Thanks for the advice. I definitely love my husband and don't want to give up on our marriage. Sometimes I just wonder what marriage should be like because I don't have any other relationships to compare ours too, but we do 'click.' He likes my lame jokes, puts up with my BS, and is the nicest guy I've ever met. I'll definitely keep up with the counseling and learn what I need to change to improve things as well.

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Soul Searching, need advice re: Physical Attraction

by Nice_Dream in

ok, so i was a young jw when i got married, and married a nice guy who was my first boyfriend.

i thought we had chemistry, but things weren't really working out in the sex department after we got married.

we had a pretty infrequent sex life for our whole realtionship...i'm talking months of dry spells.

Nice_Dream

Ok, so I was a young JW when I got married, and married a nice guy who was my first boyfriend. I thought we had chemistry, but things weren't really working out in the sex department after we got married. We had a pretty infrequent sex life for our whole realtionship...I'm talking months of dry spells. A few years after we married, I was really attracted to a coworker, and finally felt was sexual attraction was like and wasn't sure what to make of it.

My question: Does chemistry fade in time and it is better to be married to a friend? I feel like we don't really connect on an emotional level either...and I'm not sure if it's just me or if we're not super compatible. I don't like giving up on our marriage, and we've been going to counseling to work on things. I just wanted other people's opinions on what being married is all about.

Thanks!

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