I had luck questioning the latest generation change. Which scripture was it based on?
With the recent part on the CA I don't know if that would be successful or a red flag for your husband?
Nice_Dream
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Need your suggestions
by angel.face inhey guys,.
hoping to get your input.. i had a conversation with my dh recently and i asked him what would need to happen for him to question his belief system.
he said that something unscripted needs to be taught by the society.. now there are many things i can bring up...i have heard you suggest not to argue with doctrine...but he is asking for it.
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HOW DO YOU CONTINUE?
by angel.face inlately i've been finding it more and more difficult to keep up a front.. .
before i learned the tatt i was the mover and shaker of our family.
i would study with the kids.
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Nice_Dream
It is very hard to keep up a front. Once I learned the truth about the truth, I couldn't handle the meetings anymore and stopped going cold turkey. Fortunately my husband stopped going too, although he still believed it was "the truth." We were probably considered fringe witnesses, low service hours, no commenting, etc., but the elders came by every month for almost a year! We did our best to avoid them and not answer the door. Once they asked us if we still believed it was the truth and we said yes. After a year and a half they no longer stop by.
To try and persuade my husband, I asked him to help me understand the latest generation change and what scripture it was based on. Then I asked him to help me figure out how to calculate 607, and he came up with a different date. He was very upset and refused to talk to me about our beliefs anymore. He also told me he would always be a JW. We argued for months about different doctrine, and then I backed off. After a year he finally told me he didn't believe it was the truth, and confessed he always had a hard time rationalizing science with the religion.
If I could go back and change things, I wouldn't have come across too strong at the beginning, and I would have gone to a counselor earlier to help me process things and have support.
Wishing you the best on this journey, PM me anytime if you like.
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still trying to get my head cleared
by beccaskids inhi, everyone my name is becky i've been in and out of the organization it wasnt untill 2 years ago i finally put a end to going at all and havent been back since.it was so hard cause i have family in it and was grown up with those thoughts and rules way of life i guess you call it.my head is still in confusion most of the time.i'm currently going to a baptist church and i love it just when witnesess are brought up it upsets me even though it shouldnt cause i'm no long going to it.i feel like i dont know who to believe anymore or what is even good to read anymore.i'm on facebook alot and see alot of things on there but dont know the right people to talk to on there either about it,so i found this here.i'm 33 years old and dont think i should be struggling with such a thing but wow it is hard to get out of your head.i like reading the bible but sometimes i dont understand what is being said which is why the watchtowers i thought helped me but im finding they didnt i guess,yep confused as ever...
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Nice_Dream
Hi Becky, welcome! I've been out for just over a year and am also still confused as ever. You're not alone! Sending you a PM.
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Panic Attacks
by trailerfitter inhi, i was reading on here a while ago that some of you guys and girls suffer from panic attacks.
how common is this in the jws?
the wife had a bible study today and i was sort of listening looking for a discussion point.
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Nice_Dream
Once I started having doubts about "the truth" my heart would race when we got to the meetings and wouldn't slow down until I left the Kingdom Hall. Once I stopped going to the meetings, I didn't feel panic anymore.
Lots of JWs are on medication for anxiety and depression. It's difficult trying to be someone you're not, and knocking on people's doors when you're super shy! I hope your wife decides to stop studying.
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Did any of you need counselling or psychotherapy as a JW?
by TimothyT ini have just started my new course to be a qualified counsellor.
naturaly i am studying this because of my own background and now i want to help others who have had similar strains on their lives.. i know the pressure that the jw organisation puts on its members, so i was wondering, if you dont mind saying so of course, did any of you attend counselling sessions due to the pressures and problems that the jw life brought along?.
i can imagine that the majority of my old congregation (myself, my dad and my brother included) would need some form of counselling or medication in order to remain sane.
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Nice_Dream
Two counsellors recently told me they both have a few JW patients who are feeling trapped and want to leave the religion.
Now I need counselling to help me deal with learning 'the truth about the truth.' Sending you a PM Mickey Mouse
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A question regarding SEX ???
by Greybeard inwell, sorta about sex .
myself and two other male jw friends of mine have been fading from jw's in the last year plus or so.
all of our wives are devoted and active jw's.
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Nice_Dream
I discovered TTATT first, and my husband later joined me. I would never have turned him in if it was the other way around.
I asked him to help me understand "this generation" and 607, and later backed off to give him space to make up his own mind.
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Nice_Dream
Mine is one of my favorite Radiohead songs. I was also in a "Nice Dream," but realized it was an illusion.
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I told the baptist church pastor that I'm gay!
by TimothyT inhis reaction wasnt as liberal as i hoped it would be.
he said that we needed to discuss it.
however, gone are the days where im putting myself in the firing line and not sticking up for myself.
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Nice_Dream
Sending you a PM
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My first English Essay for college, I wrote about my experience as a JW.
by JonathanH inso i am in my first semester of college, and i'm really enjoying it.
i am already tired since i work full time in addition to going to school full time, but i will get over that hump eventually.
anyway in my english 101 class our first essay due was to be a personal narrative, 4 pages(ish), in mla format using microsoft word.
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Nice_Dream
Great job! I could feel the fear, seeing two brothers in suits at your door...a sight no one wants to see! I'm waiting for a call like this after being MIA for just over a year.
That is also heartbreaking about your friend. I hope one day he realizes how loving you were and apologizes for his actions.
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The (study) WT November 2011 Makes Me Puke !
by Hairyhegoat inthis study edition is an absolute attack on kids going to higher education, and you all are getting too cosy at home with your sky tv and the internet, get out on the doors you idle dogs.. oh and if you have a good job already you could not be putting the kingdum first !.
here is some of the crap in the mag, and the article temporary residents in a wicked world.. 10. .
in view of the imminent end of the present system of things, as jehovahs servants.
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Nice_Dream
My husband had a 3.99 GPA in college, but only took a diploma program because degrees were frowned upon. Now it's going to take him 6 years to get the degree he could have earned 8 years ago.
It's sad to imagine all the wasted talent and potential amonst the young JWs.