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  JW's and depression

  by FeelingFree in

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  i was wondering how many of you suffered badly with depression when you were in "the truth" and if you feel your depression was related to being part of the organisation?

  are you better now you have left or still have issue's?

  whatever your experience's i would be very intrested to know (if you feel you can talk about it.).

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  Nice_Dream

  How long have you been out tresdecu? It is challenging to lose your entire belief system and having to start over. I think one of the biggest challenges is to accept that we don't have all the answers, and that's ok. I've been out for 5 years, and things are definitely better than they were, although it was a very difficult journey to get to where I am today. I did have a time where I needed to take medication, and talking to a therapist helped as well.

  It's nice to feel free, and not have a feeling of dread come over you Friday night when you realize you're expected to go on "service." Life is a process, happiness is something that comes and goes. Trying to find something that give you meaning in your life can help one feel better. It's a process finding that as well. And there is no hurry, it will come in time.

  My brother in law suffers from debilitating depression, and because he's in "the truth," he won't go to a therapist because he fears they will "talk him out of being a JW." I find this incredibly sad. He is a very intelligent man who is wasting away because of this harmful religion.

  To anyone who is struggling with depression, it can get better! I have been down so low that I didn't feel like life was worth living. Just take one day at a time, and I promise it will get better. <3
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  Do you have Chromecast?

  by Iamallcool in

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  if you do have chromecast, are there any cool apps that you like?

  i was wondering can i get text messages on chromecast?.

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  Yes, I use it mainly to stream music from Songza or YouTube from my iPad or use Netflix. I haven't tried to rent a movie yet, I live in Canada, so things are maybe a bit more expensive than the States?

  Chromecast needs to be used with a tablet, smartphone, or computer, and you can't get text messages that I know of. It's a media renderer, to play songs or movies (so says my computer geek husband). Hope that helps.
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  Sleep Aid Recommendations

  by LV101 in

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  in addition to the recent thread, "how to shut your mind down .

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  " (which is excellent) but there was another thread about the same time i'm searching for and unable to locate.

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  Nice_Dream

  Sometimes I take Melatonin that I buy from the health food store or Costco. It usually helps me go to sleep within 15 mins.

  If I wake up early and can't go back to sleep, I listen to a podcast, or a really boring sermon. ;)

  There are mediation and relaxation podcasts, or some people like listening to audiobooks when they have insomnia and it helps them.
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  Seattle Convention Videos

  by exwhyzee in

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  this is the link to the website that was set up for the intl.

  convention here in seattle the weekend before last.

  we went to dinner in the city with family members afterward and saw a lot of old friends.

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  Hi exwhyzee, I've been out for 6 years and still feel a bit sad when it's convention time. I miss feeling like I'm part of something special and feel like I'm missing out (even though I know I really don't want to be there).

  The video of the group making totes reminded me of making sandwiches as a child at the convention. I was so excited to help! Without celebrating holidays, going to the convention was a highlight of the year for me.

  Maybe we'll always feel a bit nostalgic about the conventions... it was fun getting new books, seeing our friends, checking out new guys/girls. But hopefully as we fill our lives with new friends and make new memories we won't feel left out when convention time comes around.
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  Is it normal to feel you have betrayed your spouse when you learn TTATT?

  by BU2B in

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  i am trying to look at it from a believing mates perspective.

  they married you as a jw expecting you to continue as one.

  if you have kids, she enjoyed the stability of both spouses being united.. when you learn ttatt, you find out the wt is a dangerous mind control group and lies to its members and is hypocritical.

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  I think it's normal to feel that way. I learned TTATT before my husband did, and I felt horrible causing him such pain as his belief system crumbled. I also felt like I drove a wedge between him and his entire family of devout JWs. We now walk on eggshells so we aren't complletely shunned by his family. Learning TTATT gave us freedom, but we also lost our structure and purpose in life. It is taking us awhile to adjust still. The only consolation is that our children are being raised as regular kids, and they will have many more opportunities than we had as children which makes it all worthwhile.

  Being married at such a young age, most JWs haven't fully developed themselves, let alone question their belief system. People change over time, and it must be very challenging for those whose spouses remain inside the religion.

  We weren't intentionally trying to betray our partners; the JWs make it seem like losing your faith is the worst thing in the world one can do. However, we were betrayed by the Watchtower into believing their version of "the truth."
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  Have You Been Invited To The Memorial?

  by minimus in

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  one of my best friend's, who is an ex elder had two elders visit him at his home yesterday to invite him to the memorial.

  he was cordial to them because they were'nt over the top.. so far, i have had no invites, thank god..

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  Sd-7 - happy your son is feeling better! Although that could be a handy trick to get out of meetings in the future as well.

  We got an invite from 2 witnesses I'd never seen before (yay!) It was an awkward pulls into the driveway and they were coming down the sidewalk moment. I need a garage!

  And a sweet elderly brother left an invite saying he misses our family. (I miss him too, but not enough to attend the memorial, lol).
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  OH NO!! The latest clip for kids on JW.ORG so very wrong!

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so the latest clip on jw.org for kids is so wrong!.

  it is about the "victory song".

  lets all sing songs about how vengeful and destructive "our loving god" can be...along with cartoonish pictures...... all rejoice at the death of the evil people who used their "god-given free will", then got punished for doing so!.

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  Someone on YouTube made a video for this song with movie clips that is pretty frightening! I was getting Armageddon flashbacks.

  Skip video to 1:57, it's pretty crazy.

  http://youtu.be/inlhb4Mcozg
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  Books!

  by dynamiterose77 in

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  i feel like i wasn't allowed to read a lot of books when i was younger, a lot of which i'm discovering are positivly phenomenal.. i was allowed to read edgar allan poe, who remains my all time favorite writer.

  but, i've discovered the joys of stephen king, anne rice, joyce carrol oats, neil gaiman, george r. martin, david sedaris... and so so so many more.. i'm currently getting through "the shining" so i can move on to "doctor sleep".

  i'm interested to see if anyone else that discovered the many joys of "worldly" literature, jumped immediately into what they weren't allowed to read... and what was your favorite?.

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  I always loved magical books, which of course were considered "bad." So the first books I really enjoyed after leaving the JWs was the Harry Potter series. They are fantastic! Next on my list is The Lord of the Ring trilogy.

  I also like Kate Morton, Sarah Addison Allen, and Hugh Howey.

  Hugh Howey has a cool series called "Wool" which is about a community of people who live in a silo underground. They have all these rules and one day someone tries to escape. It's really good!

  I used to feel guilty about reading books instead of the JW literature...and now I just enjoy reading whatever I like!
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  JW.org Propaganda video " The Best Life Ever" PUKE WARNING

  by Watchtower-Free in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8wmz3nvlek.

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  This seems like a copy of the "I am a Mormon" commercials. Except the Mormons at least are cooler, and are surfers, or doctors, crafty moms, etc as well as Mormons.
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  Dating

  by d in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  as a ex jw i am cyncial to dating perhaps because i did not do much dating as a jw.

  do any of you still feel this way?

  i am not against dating but i am still that dating and getting yourself emontionallt attached is sort of a way of being in chains..

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  Nice_Dream

  It must be nerve wracking to ask someone out, but practice will make it easier. I loved this quote: "Sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it." It's from the movie "We Bought a Zoo."

  At college, a guy from high school asked me if I wanted to go study in the library with him. And after he asked me out for dinner. If I wasn't totally brainwashed at the time, I would have gladly accepted. He was awkward and adorable.

  Maybe you can ask the girl if she wants to go for coffee sometime, or study in the library? Is it possible for you to take a class with her? That would be a good way to get to know her better.