Posts by 1Robinella

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Making the final break - stopping attending the Memorial

by Eiben Scrood in

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i started my fade in 2004 and completely quit regular attendance in 2005. i have, however, gone to all the memorials since.

i still consider myself christian and felt it was a somewhat decent way of respecting the sacrifice.. i am thinking of not going this year.. i am generally disgusted at what the memorial observation actually entails.

there is almost no talk about what jesus went through on that day or even the tremendous sacrifice involved and the love that motivated it.

1Robinella

"Have others here followed a similar progression of continuing to go to Memorials for some time but then finally stopping that as well?"

In my situation I think it was unique because several people that I have personally known that stopped being a JW had serious issues with certain things. For example: The holidays. For me, as soon as I figured out on my own that this was not the religion for me I went out and bought a Christmas tree and all the lights, just went hog wild like a kid in a candy store. Lol.

I figured that "It is possible that this religion has it all backwards so I should figure out if this holiday thing is for me." Lol. But the first year that the Memorial came, we had just been invited to a friends house for dinner on the same night. We went to dinner and I remember talking to them about my mixed feelings about it because it was pushed into my head growing up that it was a MAJOR sin not to go. So I finished the meal, had some wine to ease my pointless guilt, we all laughed about it and I went home and had a good cry. After my cry, I was fine. For me, it was a relief that I did not go but it was hard to have fun at the dinner at the same time. I have not been to a Memorial in years. Lol.

It is instead mainly a recruiting session to get new people in and faders back.

Your so right When I used to attend the Memorials I was also sad about all the pressure and felt it was more about recruiting then about Jesus. Jesus is soooo much more important than recruiting.

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Do JW's (and uppity-christians in general) walk around with a false sense of accomplishment?

by Joliette in

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i ask this because so many times when i was growing up, i was told that a certain sister or brother wasnt spirtually enough because of this or that.

i wanted to ask the person who said this: what makes you so spiritual, especially since you do the same thing that the so called unspirtually person does.

except you do it behind closed doors..

1Robinella

I think they act uppity because they think they are the only ones that know the "truth." I know my mom does.

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Ghosts and Spirits

by Cold Steel in

i've been watching the bio channel lately and hearing people relate their stories of ghosts and the supernatural.. although i think some people do experience demonic presences, i think some people (for whatever reason) find it difficult to move on.

jws believe everything is caused by "demons," but there are many near death experiences where people clearly seem to see family members who have helped them and who have manifested themselves with feelings of peace and serenity.

since i don't believe that satan can duplicate these feelings of well being, i was wondering what you think of such manifestations, good or bad.. also, have you ever had any experiences, again, good or bad, in your lives?

1Robinella

"If that should ever happen, no one would believe you."

"Trust me."

So true Judge Dread your words taken out of my mouth.

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do any of you have jw family that do not visit you but make up excuses ?

by looloo in

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do they give various reasons why they cant ie you live too far away, but visit jw family who live a lot further away .

and even try top blame you for the lack of contact !

but they never say its the society that dont allow us to visit you !

1Robinella

No. But only my mom is a JW and if it wasn't for her two "worldly" daughters taking care of her she'd be all alone. Hummm I wonder if she's using us?

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What's your pet-hate Witnessisms? Mine is 'in the truth'. Blegh!!

by oldlightnewshite in

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what's your pet-hate witnessisms?

mine is 'in the truth'.

blegh!!

1Robinella

"Worldly" that's what my mom calls me and my sister....lol... What a way she shows her love.
"Sister" & "Brother"
"If you want to be one of Jesus' "sheep," you must listen to the Kingdom message and act on what you learn."
"The good news"
"Stricken spirit"
"The complete suit of armor"
"The helmet of salvation"

It goes on and on...

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Are some of you scared?

by BlackTwisted in

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are some of you scared that armageddon may be coming anytime?

lol.

just the thought and the picture in your head that anybody can get killed....>.<.

1Robinella

JW's really know how to throw the "fear" game around to scare everyone. Just to keep them coming back to the meetings. Growing up I never really believed in Armegedon. To me it just sounded like a made up thing the JW's did to keep all of us scared s#!&less. I can't live in fear anymore.

I believe that something terrible will happen, but it will be man made. The terrorist are nuts and anything could happen.

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Ghosts and Spirits

by Cold Steel in

i've been watching the bio channel lately and hearing people relate their stories of ghosts and the supernatural.. although i think some people do experience demonic presences, i think some people (for whatever reason) find it difficult to move on.

jws believe everything is caused by "demons," but there are many near death experiences where people clearly seem to see family members who have helped them and who have manifested themselves with feelings of peace and serenity.

since i don't believe that satan can duplicate these feelings of well being, i was wondering what you think of such manifestations, good or bad.. also, have you ever had any experiences, again, good or bad, in your lives?

1Robinella

"Also, have you ever had any experiences, again, good or bad, in your lives?"

Yes, I believe in spirits. In my opinion I believe we have good people and bad people living on the earth today and when they pass away they are either good spirits or bad spirits depending on how they lived their life. I can't imagine a rapist dying and being a good spirit, if he was to come back he'd probably be angry. Something to think about. I totally believe because a lot of things happened to me while growing up in my mothers home that was extremely obvious and not the wind blowing or sounds of a mouse. I've had so many things happen at her home, at my job (work in a hospital) that I can't even explain them all on here.

I also know that a lot of people do not fully understand if it hasn't happened to them. Some people feel it's imagination or your just plain nuts. But how can you explain something that happened and your not alone? For instance, once at work I was with a co-worker and we were in a closed part of the hospital all alone and heard a woman make a sound to us. While we were talking to each other, we paused, and this spirit said: "Yeah" like in agreement of what we were talking about. We both looked in the direction it came from, we walked over to see if anyone was playing a game on us and no one was around. We both heard it. We were together. That can't be explained. But it happened to us.

"JWs believe everything is caused by "demons,"

That was always my mothers explanation for everything that happened. So I grew up in fear because of her religious beliefs. So I learned early in life that she is not someone that I could talk to about this type of thing. So I kept it all inside. One day many, many years later I was at my sisters house (she's a lot older than me and while I was growing up I was the only kid in the house). This subject came up and she told me her experiences in the home and after she left. My god, I almost fell off the chair because now I was finally not alone.

I love watching Psychic Kids-Children of the paranormal (I can relate to a lot of these kids); Paranormal State; Ghost Hunters etc.

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Hey fellas, as you got older, into your early 30s, did you start finding women between their late 30s and late 40s attractive?

by miseryloveselders in

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somedays my dad would look at what i still call an older woman, and he'd call her attractive.

i'd look at him like dude your nuts.

i'm thinking just cuz your older doesn't mean its wrong to find younger women attractive.

1Robinella

I hope you don't mind, I'm a girl speaking here....hehehe this subject is funny.

I'm 38 years old and since I hit my 30's I've had guys in the 20's hittin' on me. I don't feel 38. I physically feel 20ish but mentally I feel mature. Don't get me wrong, 38 isn't old. At first, I was like "whatever" but geez I'm thinking that it's experience or something (you know what I mean). I've always been thick/skinny (not boney) around size 8 but in the last 1 1/2 year I gained about 15 pounds and feeling a bit irritated by it, but it doesn't seem to matter to these guys. I think it's funny. Please don't get me wrong, I'm not bragging. It's just something I've noticed, my hubby has noticed too. hehehehe

At work we have these horrible uniforms that we have to wear. It makes anyone with a good butt look flat and wide. Just look at the McDonalds uniforms. lol but I work in a hospital and I was at work walking to our department (down a hallway) and met up with other employees that I work with and they were talking about younger guys liking older women and I mentioned that I think it's kind of flattering in a way, and one of the guys looked at me and said "It's cause your hot." I totally blushed. I still get think it's nice, sometimes it's nice to hear. But I have often wondered why some younger men like older women.

After reading some of these I suppose I know why....hummm

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Toilet quandries: The seat: Up/Down and Toilet paper direction

by Terry in

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those who have lived with the opposite sex know of the frustration of being lectured about some triviality.. the toilet seat/paper controversy is among the most inflammatory.. men who forget to put the toilet seat back down inspire anger, rage, resentment and the stern lecture.. the easiest solution is to train the man to always sit down when he goes.. .

others argue over the direction of the toilet paper: forward overlap or backward underlap.. .

how do you deal with these issues and how violent do you become?.

1Robinella

To me and my hubby, we think it's a sanitary thing. We prefer the toilet seat down. We can't stand walking into a bathroom and the lid is open. To us, it just looks gross. Most of my family does this except for my sister and her three kids, they always leave the lid open, yuck. Funny because a while ago some friends of ours were talking to us about that and they also agreed it looks better with the lid down. lol.

I remember when I first started dating my hubby and I walked into our bedroom and he was using the restroom and he was sitting down. I thought he was going #2 but he was going #1. I asked why and he said "sometimes it's nice to sit down." lol. I have never seen a guy do that but it's pretty common apparently.

I prefer the toilet paper to come forward overlap. I think it rolls out eaiser and smoother. Although my hubby doesn't care which direction the tp goes but he does it my way because he knows thats what I prefer. lol. You'd be amazed how many people have the tp backward underlap. I work at a hospital and sometimes it's impossible to grab the tp when it's backward underlap. Yikes. lol

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I got publically disfellowshipped about 50 minutes ago

by bottleofwater in

woohoo!!!

i'm not at the meeting; i just know when the meeting ends..

1Robinella

WooHoo time to celebrate your freedom