Posts by 1Robinella

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New here..

by breakfree in

just wanted to introduce myself.

i've been reading your posts for a couple of months now and i think i finally have the courage to join in.

i have written and deleted this post many times.

1Robinella

"perverted elders to talk about her first kiss with a boy."

humm...sounds familiar. Why did the elders need so much detail? It was so wrong on so many levels that your parents, your protectors, kicked you out at such a young age. At 16 your still a baby. You shouldn't say sorry for posting this information. It probably feels good to get it off your chest. It doesn't make it right for the boy you kissed was 18, you know the drill (18 & 13) he should have known better. You made the right decision to leave the organization and move on with your life. Although you had no control or no choice in the matter growing up, you definately have choices now on how to raise your children and to live your life. Thank god, you all left. Move on, be happy and breath...

If the elders DF you guys, really don't stress on it. Throw your hands up in the air, have a beer and celebrate your liberation.

One thing you will notice is that a lot of people have gone through so much and your definately not alone...welcome friend.

-Robin

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Any ex-JW's going to a different church? If so, which one?

by 1Robinella in

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since i've been out of the jw religion, i've had no desire to attend any churches.

although i've always liked the way many churches look with the (stained glass, etc).

growing up our kh was so ugly and boring to look at.

1Robinella

Before my grandma died she got baptized as a catholic (why do people do that?) anyway at her funeral it was interesting. Although the catholic priest was really annoying. He mumbled a lot and had a heavy accent those two do not go well together. A lot of family were there and it would have been better if the priest had a microphone so we could actually hear him. We were standing up, sitting down, standing up, sitting down..after a while I just stayed sitting down. Then everyone (that's catholic) got up and stood in line to eat the cracker? cookie? waffer? whatever it is. My mother is still active JW and refused to attend the service (even though it was her own mother!) my mom said "If it's at a church, I will not go. Jehovah wouldn't want me to go to a worldly church." ahhhhhh what ignorance. Instead, she waited at the grave site until everyone showed up (about 1 1/2 hours) in the hot heat. Yikes. Non believers were asking for my mother and I didn't know what to say. Some people were saying "It's because she's a JW and doesn't have respect for other religions. We respect her beliefs why can't she do the same." They had a point. Ackward moment.

When I was in the Big Island of Hawaii we found a tiny white church it was beautiful, but very old and parts of it looked like it would fall over to the side. The murals were tropical and very angelic.

I think it would be two faced for any X-JW to join the Catholic Church and still bang on the WTS for it's pedophile scandal.I know that every organization, church or even a football team can have it's major issues/problems. If you have a favorite football team and someone gets into trouble for pedophile, do you stop cheering for that team? Does it make that whole team a pedophile? I believe it's all about balance. Does that make sense?

For me, people are so imperfect that if I do join a church, I kind of have to roll with the punches. I cannot control what anyone else does. I can only control what I do. For me it's not a social thing and I'm not going to get knee deep into it either. I just want a place to go for myself. My hubby has always said "If I was to join a church, I'd never join the mormans, JW's or Catholic church." lol. He doesn't mind if I go, he doesn't want to go. I don't force him, don't ask him, I just love him and let him do whatever he's comfortable doing. If he wants to go, fine. Religion is such a private thing for me I could never force anything like that on my family/friends or my future child like my parents did to me.

I really enjoyed everyone's comments. They gave me a lot to think about and I hope more people submit.

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Dating a JW for 3 yrs

by justbreathe825 in

my bf and i are thinking on getting married.

i posted a foum early this week on whether or not i should get baptized.

i decided not to.. now even though he says he "doesn't care" he got upset last night when i mentioned the subject and how confused i was.

1Robinella

Love does not dominate; it cultivates.

-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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Dating a JW for 3 yrs

by justbreathe825 in

my bf and i are thinking on getting married.

i posted a foum early this week on whether or not i should get baptized.

i decided not to.. now even though he says he "doesn't care" he got upset last night when i mentioned the subject and how confused i was.

1Robinella

"Ayyyyyy what a dilemma...I wish I could just say heck with all this and find myself a new guy but ahhhh some of us are just too weak!"

Seriously? Too weak? Geez. I had hope for you.

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Chaperones...

by BlackTwisted in

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how would you feel..when you are alone with someone, that they are your friend, nothing more than just a friend, opposite sex.

just doing nothing but watching "that 70's show", laughing your butts off.

and then the next day, you have a meeting, and the elders come at your neck about being alone with the opposite sex, who happens to be your friend since second grade!

1Robinella

Many years ago when I was married to my ex for about one years we used to live in the basement of my best friends house (she lived with her parents) It wasn't the typical creepy, ugly, smelly basement. It was really nice (I am picky) it actually had hardwood floors and windows that were street level...anyway...my best friend was always an early morning kind of gal and I wasn't. I'd rather sleep in and wake up around nine gotta have that first cup of coffee before starting the day. My ex was very active (Jogging, swimming etc) and my friend would start her day walking all around town for about an hour. One day, the three of us were talking and (they wanted to loose weight and get a good workout before work) they decided to get up at freekin' 4:30 a.m. and jog for about 3 miles. They wanted me to go, I went once and because they have really long legs and I'm kinda small it was impossible to keep up with them. Besides the 4:30 thing was a huge turn off for me. I could care less if they went and I slept. So that's what we did. Not a big freekin' deal. Because of the type of picky elders we had in that particular hall that's why they decided to leave so early in the morning (still dark) so no one would freek out about it. (Our friend was over 18 if your wondering). Anyway they were doing this about a month (her parents didn't care, infact her parents were glad she was with someone safe) I was happy sleeping.

One day, they ran into a "older sister" in the congregation and she flipped out. She yelled at both of them at the stop light, called the elders, called our friend parents...it was HUGE. The rumors started in the congregation that they were sleeping together and yadda yadda yadda. All of us were mad at the sister and the way the elders handled it. Before I knew it the three of us were being counseled by the elders and the elders looked at me and said "Are you going to file divorce? You would be scriptually free ya know." My husband got up and started yelling at them. I was yelling at them and kicked them out of my house. That's just one of many, many reasons why I haven't been back since....

Be safe and don't listen to the elders. Listen to your parents.

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Chaperones...

by BlackTwisted in

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friends

how would you feel..when you are alone with someone, that they are your friend, nothing more than just a friend, opposite sex.

just doing nothing but watching "that 70's show", laughing your butts off.

and then the next day, you have a meeting, and the elders come at your neck about being alone with the opposite sex, who happens to be your friend since second grade!

1Robinella

Especially at 15 hormones are going crazy (especially for the guy). My hubby has always told me that guys are not "friends" with girls just to be friends. Even if they don't make a move on you doesn't mean they wouldn't mind foolin' around. For me, I can be pretty gullible thinking "Hey, they are just my friend." Later on, I find out they had a crush on me.

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I feel ashamed of some of you

by Lady Lee in

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i did not sleep well last night.

i tossed and turned until 4 am .

got up and decided to see what was going on.. i am so disappointed in some of you.. simon posted a thread requesting people not post links to the new shepherding book.

1Robinella

I personally could care less about the book. But for the others:

Doing otherwise after you've been warned is just plain immature and stupid.

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My Husband Cuts through the BS!

by 3dogs1husband in

a long time ago my husband came up with this.. the wtbts holds out our hope like a carrot on the end of a stick, and we should be motivated to all ways want and try to get it.

if you change you mind in anyway and no longer want the carrot, or just wanna stand and eat the grass, you then will be beaten by the stick.. .

.

1Robinella

True. True.

William Penwell maybe The Watchtower is the U.S. Government in disguise with all this mind control stuff they do. Hummm...I wonder. lol

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Any ex-JW's going to a different church? If so, which one?

by 1Robinella in

jw
friends

since i've been out of the jw religion, i've had no desire to attend any churches.

although i've always liked the way many churches look with the (stained glass, etc).

growing up our kh was so ugly and boring to look at.

1Robinella

Hi Clarity

I suppose after all these years being away, I'm still a bit gun shy. But I've always had a close relationship with God/Jesus I've never stopped praying. For me I suppose coming from the JW religion my entire life that I have moved on and let the anger go because anger was holding me back. I used to get really mad and angry whenever I'd think about some injustice that has been done to my family and to me personally. But for me, I HAD to let it all go and somehow find a way to forgive my parents for being involved in this organization, forgive the lame elders for making my life extra confusing and sometimes brought out the worst in me. Forgive the so-called friends...just let it go and brrreeeaaatthhhh.....One major thing I have learned in life is that people are people we are all inperfect and even if something is asked from me I have all the control in the world. I don't have to unless I want to. For me that's big. I do agree with your a-j list it gave me some things to think about.

Robin

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another family destroyed by jehovahs happy organization

by Evidently Apostate in

as i sit down and type this i have realized that if i could have seen into the future and known that this post would need to be created (for my own peace of mind anyway) i know i would have never given the jws a minute of my time.

a little background: i have been a jw for 20 years and found a wonderful woman in the religion she was a pioneer when i met her, an elders girl but that did not matter to me , it was and always has been her compassion and love for people that endeared me to her and we have been happily married for almost my 20 year tenure as a jw.

we have several children one of them is a teenage boy.

1Robinella

You have made the right decision by leaving the JW's. I hope your wife does the same. I suggest everyone in your household go to counseling and try to bring the other young girl to your home, if possible A.S.A.P. I commend you for your strength the troubles you have unfortunately seen is tragic and yet soooo common these days. I really hope and pray that this young girl living in a bad motel can live with you? Maybe show your household this site and they can see how many people are just like them. They are never alone.

I will pray for you and your family.

"We are not retreating - we are advancing in another Direction."

- General Douglas MacArthur (1880-1964)