Your post brings to mind a quote, JohathanH.
'Religion is an insult to human dignity. With or without it, you'd have good people doing good things and evil people doing evil things. But for good people to do evil things, it takes religion.' (Nobel Prize-winning American physicist) Steven Weinberg
Whether you agree with Weinberg or not, what he is saying is that religious belief can sway people to behave differently than they would otherwise. Shunning is a stellar example.
Best of luck, garyneal. I haven't figured out yet how to reach my wife, either.
Still thinking about what you said, Tammy.