8/ would not shun a family member who leaves the church but couldnt eat or drink in the same room
There are different Brethren groups, one of which identifies as 'Exclusive,' and one describes itself as 'open'. I make that point because in Australia, one Brethren group has been accused of shunning (not sure which one, but guessing that it is the 'Exclusive' group).
A Wikipedia entry on this Christian cult is quite detailed and interesting to read: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Exclusive_Brethren
The shunning seems to be practised both at an organisational level and a personal level.
Groups and individuals, that split away seem to be treated in the same way as our former, ever so loving brothers and sisters treat 'apostates.' (Sardonic smile)
The Wikipedia entry states:
The Plymouth Brethren split into Exclusive and Open Brethren in 1848 when George Müller refused to accept John Nelson Darby's view of the relationship between local assemblies following difficulties in the Plymouth meeting. Brethren that held Muller's congregational view became known as "Open", those holding Darby's 'connexional' view, became known as "Exclusive" or "Darbyite" Brethren.
Darby's circular on 26 August 1848, cutting off not only Bethesda but all assemblies who received anyone who went there, was to define the essential characteristic of "exclusivism" that he was to pursue for the rest of his life. He set it out in detail in a pamphlet he issued in 1853 entitled Separation from Evil, God’s Principle of Unity.
That concept, Separation from Evil, God’s Principle of Unity,is rather interesting, as the pre-Christian, Qumran community cult, of Dead Sea Scrolls fame, and which bore quite striking similarities to the early Jesus cult, adopted a similar principle.
That's why they had isolated themselves from the mainstream, Second Temple Judaism cult.
In regard to the shunning of individuals, the Wikipedia entry says:
Among the various criticisms raised against the church are:
- Members who leave or who are expelled from the group have often been treated with what outsiders may regard as great cruelty. [24]
- Leavers are shunned by members of the group because leavers are seen as having chosen the world and the devil against God, and because they could bring members into contact with the sinful world. [24] The Brethren have been accused of using their considerable wealth and power to punish members who have decided to leave the church and to have allegedly actively used their influence to split families up to protect the organisation's interests. [25]
- For the most part, members who have left the Raven/Taylor/Hales group are completely ostracised. Members are not permitted to live with those who have left and this causes families to break up; remaining members do not speak, eat or otherwise socialise with those who have left the group's membership. To leave the group, either voluntarily or to be excommunicated, means to be asked to leave one's home, and the subsequent breaking of all normal family relationships with those who remain within the group. [24]
Some popular Australian TV shows have taken supported shunned members and attempted to face down church members at the entry to their churches. The hostility of the church membership, toward both the shunned ex-members and the TV crew, is quite palpable.