not been posting on this board too long, but started my ex jw internet excursion with the philia group back in 1995 (thanx alanf:-)).. not wishing to poke anybody in the eye but i'm curious at those mails i've read where some of you guys are hanging in on there (from where i sit) under the jw tag.
by that i mean you've clearly identified you've not attended meetings, have no intention of going to meetings, maybe (albeit under the jw rules)in a d/a or d/f situation, but laying low.. geniunely interested in why - i got d/f by banging on the elders door (metaphysically speaking) and sitting through a judicial to get out properly.. maybe 33 years as jw straight off (18 years under hillary step formula:-))skewed my thinking, but just curious....
Dungbeetle,
Thanks for the reply anyway..
Guess what you were saying is you stay in because of your relatives - fine with me - that was only the question I asked.
Didn't understand your opening jibe, don't remember questioning what was wrong with that, and don't recollect saying it had gone well for me.
Other than that think I got your point...
not been posting on this board too long, but started my ex jw internet excursion with the philia group back in 1995 (thanx alanf:-)).. not wishing to poke anybody in the eye but i'm curious at those mails i've read where some of you guys are hanging in on there (from where i sit) under the jw tag.
by that i mean you've clearly identified you've not attended meetings, have no intention of going to meetings, maybe (albeit under the jw rules)in a d/a or d/f situation, but laying low.. geniunely interested in why - i got d/f by banging on the elders door (metaphysically speaking) and sitting through a judicial to get out properly.. maybe 33 years as jw straight off (18 years under hillary step formula:-))skewed my thinking, but just curious....
Belbab,
Thanks - thats what I'm curious about:
Why do some JWs hang on when they see the abominations seated in the holy place? Why do some choose like yourself choose to go out kicking and get disfellowshipped? And why do some just fade away quietly?
Thats what I'm genuinely curious about from this forum (and not in a judgemental way) - I sought to get out as a fairly public demonstration for me. And that was right for me. e.g working with the same work colleagues for many years, not sharing in the usual, birthdays, xmas etc, and being able to say to them that was now behind me and I was no longer a jw. Maybe I needed that closure. To say to them I was an "inactive" witness wasn't a clean cut for me.
(I've quickly skimmed "Works of Josephus for your reference - could be reading the latter part all day! You haven't got a book/chapter ref. handy?)
not been posting on this board too long, but started my ex jw internet excursion with the philia group back in 1995 (thanx alanf:-)).. not wishing to poke anybody in the eye but i'm curious at those mails i've read where some of you guys are hanging in on there (from where i sit) under the jw tag.
by that i mean you've clearly identified you've not attended meetings, have no intention of going to meetings, maybe (albeit under the jw rules)in a d/a or d/f situation, but laying low.. geniunely interested in why - i got d/f by banging on the elders door (metaphysically speaking) and sitting through a judicial to get out properly.. maybe 33 years as jw straight off (18 years under hillary step formula:-))skewed my thinking, but just curious....
Not been posting on this board too long, but started my ex jw internet excursion with the philia group back in 1995 (thanx AlanF:-)).
Not wishing to poke anybody in the eye but I'm curious at those mails I've read where some of you guys are hanging in on there (from where I sit) under the jw tag. By that I mean you've clearly identified you've not attended meetings, have no intention of going to meetings, maybe (albeit under the jw rules)in a d/a or d/f situation, but laying low.
Geniunely interested in why - I got d/f by banging on the elders door (metaphysically speaking) and sitting through a judicial to get out properly.
Maybe 33 years as jw straight off (18 years under Hillary Step formula:-))skewed my thinking, but just curious....
i frequently read on this board that somebody has 'been a jw for over 25 years' and then learn that they are in fact 25 years and three days old.. i am very easily confused, in fact i actually got inside a car of similar color to my own recently and spent at least five minutes with a furrowed brow trying to force my car key into its ignition, fortunately, i realised my error before i was arrested.
so, just to humor me, can you all post how long you were/are baptised jw's?.
thank you -- hs.
Born into "truth";
Baptized aged 14 in 1975 (just in case you understand...)
Walked out after memorial April 1993
D/F May 1993
@18 years..
in the uk you never hear words such as:.
railroad.
mortician.
Julien..
Edited as requested:-)
in the uk you never hear words such as:.
railroad.
mortician.
Some more...
Liquor Store / Off Licence
Batchelor Party / Stag Party
Freeway / Motorway
Drugstore /Chemist
Vacation / Holiday
Restroom / Toilet
And of course the famous...
Fanny pack / Bum Bag
:-))
"london - oscar-winning actor ben kingsley, boxer lennox lewis and veteran high-pitched pop stars the bee gees were among the great and good feted in the queen's new year honours list for 2002. .
other awards went to pop singer helen sade, best known for her sexy hit "smooth operator", actress lynn redgrave and england cricket captain nasser hussain, who all received obes (officer of the order of the british empire).
terence leahy, chief executive of britain's largest retailer tesco, and robin saxby, chairman of the chip designer arm holdings, received knighthoods.
Alan Shearer missed for a knighthood again...
Mebbe next year:-)
just noticed effective tonight he's pulling the site!
wow--did someone else post about this?.
* http://www.witnessesonline.com/.
Should we go to the study hall.....
After all:
We all want to "dig for wisdom"... this is where we get together for our regular theocratic discussions.
i remember the days when the jws came round practically every weeek, nowadays you can go months without seeing a jw.. what has happened that they don't came round so often?
Interesting:-)
Because I haven't missed them I hadn't noticed. Last knock on the door I had was from an "elda" prior to the memorial - since then nothing. (Not even an old mag/leaflet left (my old trick to get my placements up) when a regular n/h!)
do you ever feel like that?.
i,ve just attended my own funeral, well it might as well have been .. i'm now nonexistant in my former friends eyes.. they have to stay away , i'm a danger to them.. so i can now count on one hand how many friends i have 2 , including my wife.. the other friend has also left the truth but i dont see him much as he lives in another town .. so since i work on my own i'm going to be pretty lonely for a while .. no more weekends down the pub or staying down anyones house.. i wonder whats on telly.. er nothing..oh crap.. well there always next door cat i wonder if hes good at conversation..here kitty , kitty.
Hi sleepy,
I guess no right or wrong reply to this - each person will react differently - when your whole infrastructure of life has been built around the "truth" and you're suddenly out of the "club" then every negative emotion under the sun surfaces - it did for me..
Like yourself I was a jw from birth to age 33, moved around half a dozen congs and had friends in many towns - until April 1993 when I left and was then d/f. I live in a smallish town and my "friends" actually crossed the street (if the traffic let them!) or turned their head to one side avoiding eye contact and they still do today!.
Apart from this cheering you up (!) whats it done 8 years down the line - I have no friends at all - Why - I don't know - mebbe a hang up in trusting people after the jw experience. It may be deemed shallow but having been on the net since @1995 its like a frienship, but at a distance (safe and no emotions there...)
I'd be interested in seeing how others coped - is being in from birth and getting out many years later different from someone becoming a jw in "later" years the leaving.
