Posts by kenyata

Yes, nutritious food is necessary, I never denied that. Our kids at home eat nutritious foods all the time. If my husbands ex buys nutritious foods for her kids to eat, thats excellent. I have no reason to have an ax to grid just because he made himself legally financially responsible for his ex's kids. If there were 10 kids he had before we got together, you'd better be certain that I will push him to take care of them. My whole point was about spending cs on things other than the kids. I think you saw that point and maybe you just had to mention that, which is fine. If I had a problem with him being legally financially responsible for other kids , which I never would,but if I did, I wouldn't have choosen to get together with him. I'm not that type of mother or woman to be jealous of kids. They are innocent, its the parents that do the dirt.

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Bizarre news story

by BoozeRunner in

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heres a bizarre story....tell me what you think!.

court shouldn't regulate one's right to have sex .

by kathleen parker .

kenyata

To LDH,

When your in a relationship, of course the subject of whether you trust each other isn't going to be questioned, if that's the case, you would've broken up. You know how things are, you break up when things don't work out and you get bitter towards each other. I feel all cs cases should be accounted for, whether your married and just separated, divorced or never got married.

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Adoption by Jehovah's Witnesses is blocked

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adoption by jehovah's witnesses is blocked .

the independent - united kingdom; may 26, 2001. by brian farmer.

a couple originally approved by a council as adoptive parents have been refused permission by social workers to adopt a child, because they are jehovah's witnesses.

kenyata

To Agape,

First off, JW's aren't a cult nor are they child killing cult members. I made that statement some posts ago. From being raised by a JW parent and being raised around them,I can strongly make that statement. I know hundreds of JW's and none of them are like what you describe. Even if it weren't for the bdays and holidays, I'm just not ready to join now. I may not join for another 4 or 5 years, I may never choose to join but I have nothing against them either. If they were to be coy with me, that's fine. I just don't share the disgusting and degrading comments made about them, that's all, but these are you opinions. Some of you have been through bad experiences and that's to bad.

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Bizarre news story

by BoozeRunner in

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heres a bizarre story....tell me what you think!.

court shouldn't regulate one's right to have sex .

by kathleen parker .

kenyata

To WhyNow2000,

Thankyou,I do so strongly think that cs should be accounted for, an account should be opened for the kids.

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Bizarre news story

by BoozeRunner in

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heres a bizarre story....tell me what you think!.

court shouldn't regulate one's right to have sex .

by kathleen parker .

kenyata

To all,

I do agree with BigBoi that it doesn't take $900 a month to raise a child but then you have to go by where you live. The cost of living is higher in some places than others. Extra activities are just that, extra. If you want your kid to have lessons in piano, if they want to ski, take swim, go hiking, take gymnastics, what ever's that goig to be extra money, be able to afford it. If the cp wasn't able to afford it before and because they took the ncp back to court and now their getting $40,000 instead of $9,000, fine. But with that extra money, is all that the cp spends in regards to the kid? Thats the question. Theres nothing wrong with using, lets say the first $2000 goes towards bills, rent or mortgage, electric, gas, phone, cable, medical(if you have to pay monthly and you'll aren't getting medicaid), doctors appt's. Lets say after you've gone clothes shopping and you've gotten what they need. What do you do with the other almost $30,000, did you get your kid a savings account where what ever's left goes there towards future college and their future care expenses? Is any of your kids money going towards you getting a new pair of shoes or sneakers, you going to the hairdresser, you going clothes shopping for yourself, you spending your kids money on your other family, your friends or your boy/girlfriends, wife/husband?
I think that's what most people are getting at. The ncp knows that all of the $$$$$$$$$ that they send is not all going on the kids, that's the point. And I feel you. The $$$$$$$ is supposed to be used in the caregivers or cp's discretion, but come on now. Get realisic, name me some cp's who don't use any of their kids $$$$$$$$ on themselves or others, things that don't have anything to do with them?
And I'll call them a liar. I have 3 as I've stated before and it doesn't take me $900 a month to care for them. Our expenses haven't changed from before we were married. Whether your married or not and you break up, things are going to change anyways. There will be 2 house holds to pay for, 2 sets of bills. Larc pointed out about if the cp makes $50,000 and the ncp makes over $200,000, then 17% of ncp's income would be $34,000 and that's what the cs would be. What if its the other way around and the cp is making $200,000 and the ncp's making only $50,000, that means the ncp would be paying $8500 a month, then what. People always assume that the guy is always making more than the female, its not always true. Where does day care come in for the couple who then decides to split up? How ever they had it before, they'd just continue. But say for instance both mom and dad make the same amount, its rare but it can happen. Lets say both make $15,000 a year, 17% of the ncp's income is $2550. So one parents income goes up by $2550 and the others goes down by $2550. Except when tax time comes, of course the cp gets the fed., state, eic and and child credit. The ncp only gets the fed,state, and eic for themselves. The cp gets money back for taking care of the kid and spending money on them. What does the ncp get? As I stated before some boards back, I think a law should be passed that depending on what the ncp paid for cs the year before, they should get back half. I bet you then, there would be more child support paid.

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Bizarre news story

by BoozeRunner in

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heres a bizarre story....tell me what you think!.

court shouldn't regulate one's right to have sex .

by kathleen parker .

kenyata

To Justathought,

I'm sure that a 12 year old doesn't eat $400 a month in food, come on. And clothes, no one has to shop for their kids every month. If you buy clothes that fit them to a tee, yes you will be buying clothes every few months. When you buy kids clothes, you buy them at least 2 sizes to big, they can grow in them. Most parents go summer shopping and winter shopping. I have 3 kids, 6, 3 and 1 year. My 6 year old eats every 2-3 hours, small meals. Even so, she doesn't eat that much worth in money a month. Even when I was pregnant, and you know if your pregnant, most females have appetites and cravings. I can understand shelter, medical, school cost, but clothes and food is a little much.

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Bizarre news story

by BoozeRunner in

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heres a bizarre story....tell me what you think!.

court shouldn't regulate one's right to have sex .

by kathleen parker .

kenyata

To Justathought,,

When you made the comment that children are burdens, that sounds so harsh. A child isn't a burden, they are blessings. I bet that if there was a new law to be passed that if you chose not to protect yourself in every way shape for form to not get pregnant,knowing that your not ready and the dad's not ready and abortion of any kind was illegal. If you have someone kill your baby(abortion), you either go to jail for life or you get the electric chair and if you try to give yourself an abortion, you face a life time sentence, I bet you'd have no one getting pregnant unless they were ready. There would be no ooppss!!, it was an accident or I made a mistake.But we know that won't happen.

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Bizarre news story

by BoozeRunner in

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friends

heres a bizarre story....tell me what you think!.

court shouldn't regulate one's right to have sex .

by kathleen parker .

kenyata

To Claudia,

This comment is about what you said to BigBoi, its not always true that if the mother is the cp and she makes more money because she's educated, the father pays less. My husband only has an high school education, his ex has a aa behind her name. The court still made him pay more that what he should've been and his ex was making 2-3 times what he did.

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Bizarre news story

by BoozeRunner in

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friends

heres a bizarre story....tell me what you think!.

court shouldn't regulate one's right to have sex .

by kathleen parker .

kenyata

To Bigboi,

I understand what your saying about females can choice but guys don't have that option. So therefore, if the female wants the baby and the dad doesn't and she has the kid anyways, of course they make daddy dearest pay. And if the female doesn't want the kid and daddy does, give him custody and make her pay, she doesn't have to have anything to do with the kid. Equal rights, right?