+1 to stop shunning. I would add allow dissent.
Stop shunning and this church turns into every other religion. Stopping shunning would positively impact the mental health of every dub.
Still have "one true faith" Still have paradise to look forward to. Still have love that the world does not have. Still have this safe haven twice a week to help fend off worldly ideas. This is what almost every other church espouses.
Allowing dissent will certainly create an "acceptable" level of strife but in the long run people will accept that some congregants are not living up to baptism but not having to cut off family members or life long friends will turn this into just another social club like every other church.
I would argue that families that do not have to shun other family members would be more happy and therefor be more ready to give to the ever important world wide work.
pbrow